Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I know very little about few normal parents in America.

Most are either permissive (do what you want and fend for yourself) or tiger parents (very controlling and high pressure).

There are few in between.

DD’s friends who are tiger parented are stressed out, some eating disorders and are on anxiety meds since middle school.

The permissive parented kids are lazy, have behavior issues and make minimal effort in life.

There are few well adjusted kids.

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I think he is trying to get all the sympathy he can. His parents did the best they could. No one forced him to stay with them after he was an adult; he could have just walked out.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of my Asian friends with parents like this moved far far away as soon as they could. Very sad dynamic

On average asian adults have better relationships with their parents than any other group so however asian parents are fcking up, the kids seem more willing to forgive them for it than whatever the other parents are doing.

According to what research? There is the expectation to take care of the parents, but many beyond first generation are moving away from taking in parents. If you take a snapshot, you might see an elderrly Asian mom living with her adult child and their family, but take a look 5 years later, sometimes, they have been moved right back out. My husband and I both have many friends and coworkers who are Korean and Chinese and a Japanese neighbor. The Japanese neighbor had the best situation. Parents were the nannies and cooks for a number of years with free rent and spending money and then they moved out when the kids were more independent. They still seem to have a good relationship. Lot of dysfunction among among many of our other friends along with a history of verbal and/or physical abuse.