Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

Ben apologist has entered the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I agree with PPs - Jen G was head over heels for him, and unfortunately he knew it and wasn’t very good to her. I think he respects her as a mother - and is probably very grateful she’s the mother to his children - but he was very disrespectful to her as a partner. Remember when he thanked everyone BUT HER when he won the Oscar for Argo? I don’t think that was a simple slip - I think he genuinely always thought she was lesser than him.

He thanked her. He thanked for working on their marriage. Then they did the SNL skit together that a PP linked to mock his speech and repair the damage.

"If you didn't see, a visibly flustered Ben fast-talked his way through a thoughtful speech (probably to avoid the intrusive Jaws music), but despite his rush, he didn't forget to thank wife Jennifer Garner. Here's what he did say, though: "I wanna thank my wife, who I don't normally associate with Iran…but I wanna thank you for working on our marriage for ten Christmases. It's good. It is work, but it's the best kind of work. And there's no one I'd rather work with."

Anonymous wrote:I’m watching Gone Girl, had forgotten how good looking he was not that long ago.

He still is, just needs to get away from J Lo and her glam squad before he is botoxed and filtered to death. Seriously, when I look at pictures of my brother during his divorce process and a couple years later, it was such a difference. The stress is real and showed in his face and get the same vibe with Affleck. Not my favorite person in the world (ugh, the back tattoo) but he is handsome in a good natural sort of way.

I’m watching Gone Girl, had forgotten how good looking he was not that long ago.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I think she has grown a lot as a person over the years. I remember an interview with her after they were married and she was so dopey, used a baby voice when talking about him, and seemed totally under his spell in a weirdly subservient sort of way.

Agree, she has matured a lot. Part is his allure then was that he was A list and it may have been a little of, wow, this guy picked me! I think that sort of thing mattered to her early on. She also cheated on her husband before Ben.

He was a smart, charming and charismatic Oscar winner who looked like Clark Kent and wasn’t threatened by her success (supposedly her ex was). She absolutely couldn’t believe he picked her. Of course the suburban stability bored him very quickly, especially once she moved far from her Alias/Electra personas after becoming a mom.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I think she has grown a lot as a person over the years. I remember an interview with her after they were married and she was so dopey, used a baby voice when talking about him, and seemed totally under his spell in a weirdly subservient sort of way.

She still rolls that dopey voice out for some of her infomercials. It is maddening. But it is also fake, very superficial.

Why did JG pick a loser? Well, we could ask 80% of dcum posters the same question. Heck, we do ask dcumers that question all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I think she has grown a lot as a person over the years. I remember an interview with her after they were married and she was so dopey, used a baby voice when talking about him, and seemed totally under his spell in a weirdly subservient sort of way.

Agree, she has matured a lot. Part is his allure then was that he was A list and it may have been a little of, wow, this guy picked me! I think that sort of thing mattered to her early on. She also cheated on her husband before Ben.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I think she has grown a lot as a person over the years. I remember an interview with her after they were married and she was so dopey, used a baby voice when talking about him, and seemed totally under his spell in a weirdly subservient sort of way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I agree with PPs - Jen G was head over heels for him, and unfortunately he knew it and wasn’t very good to her. I think he respects her as a mother - and is probably very grateful she’s the mother to his children - but he was very disrespectful to her as a partner. Remember when he thanked everyone BUT HER when he won the Oscar for Argo? I don’t think that was a simple slip - I think he genuinely always thought she was lesser than him.

I agree with all of this but especially the bolded. It was a shotgun wedding after under a year and I think they chafed throughout their marriage. His being narcissitic, a gambler, and alcoholic impacted the whole relationship. Shit show. I would like to hope in their older age (and with his current drama) he is grateful to JG. However their relationship started, she's been the backbone of that family. I remember some interview with Damon where he was low key shaming Jen (weird with his non celeb wife) about basically not wanting fame or to act much but also praising that she made boatloads on endorsements for very little work. Maybe it's a facade and she's pissed she's not getting big acting roles? Don't get that vibe. And now she's showing up during this time to help the father of her children. Whatever the dynamic was like 15+ years ago is irrelevant at this stage. She seems to consistently show up for the well being of her family.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

I agree with PPs - Jen G was head over heels for him, and unfortunately he knew it and wasn’t very good to her. I think he respects her as a mother - and is probably very grateful she’s the mother to his children - but he was very disrespectful to her as a partner. Remember when he thanked everyone BUT HER when he won the Oscar for Argo? I don’t think that was a simple slip - I think he genuinely always thought she was lesser than him.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

He was a MUCH bigger star than her, at the time, she was dazzled. And I think she's a balanced and caring human, a nurturer. She looked after him and he needed that, but ultimately got bored of it. Is he a scorpio by any chance?

He's a Leo, like J. Lo.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

He was a MUCH bigger star than her, at the time, she was dazzled. And I think she's a balanced and caring human, a nurturer. She looked after him and he needed that, but ultimately got bored of it. Is he a scorpio by any chance?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

She was almost as bad as JLO with how much she idealized him. I mean complete head over heels "he's so smart 😍" type deal. I remember people thinking their youngest son was bandaid baby.