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Anonymous wrote:I think essentially he's a troubled genius who is very much an adult in most aspects of his life, except romantic relationships.

And I think she is a romantic who is also hugely ambitious and probably never stops working on something.

I can see how they were drawn to each other, but not the staying power of it.

Genius lol?

She’s smarter than him. She’s a better businesswoman and has more money than him. Someone who gets banned from blackjack and pisses his money away on gambling and strip clubs at age 50 isn’t a genius or mature . I think he married her for financial comfort. He knew she’d buy the mansion and he expected to coast off that after the lull of the movie industry after COVID and writers strike. Ben was emailing J Lo for years prior since her divorce in 2011 and his divorce in 2012. Why did he suddenly get back with her in 2021? He was bored because Vegas was shut down and Money and work wasn’t coming in fast enough due to the pandemic so J Lo gave him something to do. He’s an awful person.

He is worth $160 million
He has oscars for his groundbreaking movies
He has an IQ of over 147

And she is worth 500 million dollars.

She doesn’t have an Oscar and she isn’t a serious actress but she’s a capital S star and and her multi industry marketing is groundbreaking as well. Movies , music, merchandise. Nobody was doing perfumes before J Lo . That was seen as a washed up QVC celebrity thing or something for older women like Elizabeth Taylor. Now every pop star has a perfume out in the Macys aisle.

Her influence is underrated. Before Kim Kardashian, she popularized relationship or fame marketing and was known for her curvy figure. Shes the first Latin actress to get paid a million dollars for a movie. None of these things were handed to her. She had to work for it.

She also was the first of the younger pop stars to join American Idol for a career resurgence . Back then, she was mocked for it but soon, Christina Aguilera, Katy Perry, Britney Spears, and others joined talent panels.

Wait, what?

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Anonymous wrote:Multiple sources claim they are not splitting but concede he is staying elsewhere right now. Very mature way to handle the problems in their marriage, bodes well for success.

They are not splitting now, but they are on the road to divorce. They don’t want to add fuel to the fire of J Lo’s bomb of a year with her canceling shows and her documentary bombing. But yes, they are done and will divorce after all this dies down.

You know this, how? They could just as easily patch things up.

LOL OK.

You’re right given the circumstances I’m sure they will pull through and live happily ever after.

Oh I don't think they are forever by any means, just believe she would never throw in the towel this quickly. After trumpeting their LOVE far and wide? Would be so humiliating. She'll do whatever it takes to patch things up enough to keep him around for a few more years. UNLESS he cheats on her.

It’s looking like their problems are so bad that they can’t even fake it. I think that’s what they’re trying to do - just lives separate lives and hide it but it’s really hard to do that when you’ve put your relationship out there and have lived the opposite of a private life. Then all of a sudden you want privacy and don’t want paparazzi attention? Yeah, it doesn’t really work that way. people are going to notice. I’m sure they would like to keep it private for longer.

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Anonymous wrote:He wants and is saying he needs more privacy but she is saying she needs (and is saying she deserves) the freedom to behave "as an artist" which means in her mind,, putting their relationship out there as she pleases. This has always been my issue with her...she cannot or will not subdue any aspect of her professional life, even if it causes pain to her partner. Her needs trump all. It's called compromise. And it's the only way to stay married in a healthy way. This is foreign to her. And to most people married four times. Let's be honest. He needs to work a sobriety program for the rest of his life. He does not need more publicity. In fact it probably triggers him.

Her idea of compromise is going to Dunkin' a few times. That's pretty much it.

But she was sure to monetize it!

Anonymous wrote:He wants and is saying he needs more privacy but she is saying she needs (and is saying she deserves) the freedom to behave "as an artist" which means in her mind,, putting their relationship out there as she pleases. This has always been my issue with her...she cannot or will not subdue any aspect of her professional life, even if it causes pain to her partner. Her needs trump all. It's called compromise. And it's the only way to stay married in a healthy way. This is foreign to her. And to most people married four times. Let's be honest. He needs to work a sobriety program for the rest of his life. He does not need more publicity. In fact it probably triggers him.

Her idea of compromise is going to Dunkin' a few times. That's pretty much it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they are probably somewhat desperate for this to work. Starting over again when you have teens and exes is exhausting. Especially when you have had a string of relationships.

Maybe they will have a better and healthier relationship if they don't live together.

Maybe. I think the only way their relationship could work is if they give each other lots of space. But if they don't have enough space in a massive mansion with 24 bathrooms, I don't know what to tell you. Living apart seems pretty drastic under these circumstances. He must be really fed up if he moved out. Her poor kids.

This is all I've got here. We know Ben's kids will be okay since they have their mother's stability. At one point Jlo posted a pic of her son cuddled up on Ben's lap. He seems shy and sensitive. I don't think Marc Anthony is very involved in their lives at all. So sad.

He is involved. He lives in Miami and that’s why the kids were bummed they left Miami too.

He also has a bunch of divorces as well. He was a cheater , chain smoking addict as well. It seems J Lo loves bad boys. Her first husband Ojani Noa (the chef) was also possessive and abusive to her allegedly. He hated her fame . Diddy was a cheater , party boy, and possibly abusive to her as well.

I think she is too shallow to attach herself to a nerdy homebody who worships the ground she walks on. That’s the ideal man to me but to her, she likes a challenge and a life of the party arrested development macho man. She is from the Bronx so I understand why it’s tough machismo she likes. She probably would be bored to tears with a man from West Hollywood or Beverly Hills. All the guys she hooks up with are from the East Coast

I agree she gravitates toward a certain machismo. But her biggest problem is the desire to be part of a power couple. When does that every work out?

I don't know about the power couple thing. That Not chef was a CHEF and there was Casper something - he was a backing dancer. That's a couple of pretty non-power dudes.

25 years ago?

What difference does that make? A chef and a backing dancer are not power partners.

What difference does it make that she's only dated famous men over the past 25 years? Her obsession with fame and adoration certainly hasn't helped her make good relationship choices.

He wants and is saying he needs more privacy but she is saying she needs (and is saying she deserves) the freedom to behave "as an artist" which means in her mind,, putting their relationship out there as she pleases. This has always been my issue with her...she cannot or will not subdue any aspect of her professional life, even if it causes pain to her partner. Her needs trump all. It's called compromise. And it's the only way to stay married in a healthy way. This is foreign to her. And to most people married four times. Let's be honest. He needs to work a sobriety program for the rest of his life. He does not need more publicity. In fact it probably triggers him.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they are probably somewhat desperate for this to work. Starting over again when you have teens and exes is exhausting. Especially when you have had a string of relationships.

Maybe they will have a better and healthier relationship if they don't live together.

Maybe. I think the only way their relationship could work is if they give each other lots of space. But if they don't have enough space in a massive mansion with 24 bathrooms, I don't know what to tell you. Living apart seems pretty drastic under these circumstances. He must be really fed up if he moved out. Her poor kids.

This is all I've got here. We know Ben's kids will be okay since they have their mother's stability. At one point Jlo posted a pic of her son cuddled up on Ben's lap. He seems shy and sensitive. I don't think Marc Anthony is very involved in their lives at all. So sad.

He is involved. He lives in Miami and that’s why the kids were bummed they left Miami too.

He also has a bunch of divorces as well. He was a cheater , chain smoking addict as well. It seems J Lo loves bad boys. Her first husband Ojani Noa (the chef) was also possessive and abusive to her allegedly. He hated her fame . Diddy was a cheater , party boy, and possibly abusive to her as well.

I think she is too shallow to attach herself to a nerdy homebody who worships the ground she walks on. That’s the ideal man to me but to her, she likes a challenge and a life of the party arrested development macho man. She is from the Bronx so I understand why it’s tough machismo she likes. She probably would be bored to tears with a man from West Hollywood or Beverly Hills. All the guys she hooks up with are from the East Coast

I agree she gravitates toward a certain machismo. But her biggest problem is the desire to be part of a power couple. When does that every work out?

I don't know about the power couple thing. That Not chef was a CHEF and there was Casper something - he was a backing dancer. That's a couple of pretty non-power dudes.

25 years ago?

What difference does that make? A chef and a backing dancer are not power partners.

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Anonymous wrote:I think essentially he's a troubled genius who is very much an adult in most aspects of his life, except romantic relationships.

And I think she is a romantic who is also hugely ambitious and probably never stops working on something.

I can see how they were drawn to each other, but not the staying power of it.

Genius lol?

She’s smarter than him. She’s a better businesswoman and has more money than him. Someone who gets banned from blackjack and pisses his money away on gambling and strip clubs at age 50 isn’t a genius or mature . I think he married her for financial comfort. He knew she’d buy the mansion and he expected to coast off that after the lull of the movie industry after COVID and writers strike. Ben was emailing J Lo for years prior since her divorce in 2011 and his divorce in 2012. Why did he suddenly get back with her in 2021? He was bored because Vegas was shut down and Money and work wasn’t coming in fast enough due to the pandemic so J Lo gave him something to do. He’s an awful person.

He is worth $160 million
He has oscars for his groundbreaking movies
He has an IQ of over 147

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Anonymous wrote:Is anyone really surprised about this marriage?

I'm not surprised at all, but I did think they would last a bit longer than two years.

Same especially after the while movie/doc

Same, I said 5 to 7 years

She just cannot keep her sh*t locked down. Like an immature teenager. Hope he did dump her, she seems insufferable.



"The singer hit the like button on the post, created by relationship coach Lenna Marsak, which discussed the challenges of a relationship where there is no 'integrity and respect.'

Lenna's post featured several text slides, beginning with one that reads, 'You cannot build a healthy relationship with someone who lacks integrity and emotional safety.'"

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why they got married. They could have just dated again.

Because she's obsessed with the reconciliation story

Yes, the narc injury of that public humiliation was something she never accepted or got over. And yet again, she put herself at risk of it happening again. She's going to suffer a lot and have a lot of shame. Agree the end announcement will come on a sleepy Friday in the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they are probably somewhat desperate for this to work. Starting over again when you have teens and exes is exhausting. Especially when you have had a string of relationships.

Maybe they will have a better and healthier relationship if they don't live together.

Maybe. I think the only way their relationship could work is if they give each other lots of space. But if they don't have enough space in a massive mansion with 24 bathrooms, I don't know what to tell you. Living apart seems pretty drastic under these circumstances. He must be really fed up if he moved out. Her poor kids.

This is all I've got here. We know Ben's kids will be okay since they have their mother's stability. At one point Jlo posted a pic of her son cuddled up on Ben's lap. He seems shy and sensitive. I don't think Marc Anthony is very involved in their lives at all. So sad.

He is involved. He lives in Miami and that’s why the kids were bummed they left Miami too.

He also has a bunch of divorces as well. He was a cheater , chain smoking addict as well. It seems J Lo loves bad boys. Her first husband Ojani Noa (the chef) was also possessive and abusive to her allegedly. He hated her fame . Diddy was a cheater , party boy, and possibly abusive to her as well.

I think she is too shallow to attach herself to a nerdy homebody who worships the ground she walks on. That’s the ideal man to me but to her, she likes a challenge and a life of the party arrested development macho man. She is from the Bronx so I understand why it’s tough machismo she likes. She probably would be bored to tears with a man from West Hollywood or Beverly Hills. All the guys she hooks up with are from the East Coast

I agree she gravitates toward a certain machismo. But her biggest problem is the desire to be part of a power couple. When does that every work out?

I don't know about the power couple thing. That Not chef was a CHEF and there was Casper something - he was a backing dancer. That's a couple of pretty non-power dudes.

25 years ago?

Anonymous wrote:I think essentially he's a troubled genius who is very much an adult in most aspects of his life, except romantic relationships.

And I think she is a romantic who is also hugely ambitious and probably never stops working on something.

I can see how they were drawn to each other, but not the staying power of it.

Genius lol?

She’s smarter than him. She’s a better businesswoman and has more money than him. Someone who gets banned from blackjack and pisses his money away on gambling and strip clubs at age 50 isn’t a genius or mature . I think he married her for financial comfort. He knew she’d buy the mansion and he expected to coast off that after the lull of the movie industry after COVID and writers strike. Ben was emailing J Lo for years prior since her divorce in 2011 and his divorce in 2012. Why did he suddenly get back with her in 2021? He was bored because Vegas was shut down and Money and work wasn’t coming in fast enough due to the pandemic so J Lo gave him something to do. He’s an awful person.

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Anonymous wrote:You would think a smart woman would understand that a guy who commits adultery and has addiction issues related to gambling, drinking, and smoking is not likely going to be a stable, supportive husband for the long haul.

I would not describe J. Lo as smart...in most ways but definitely not when it comes to relationships.

Agree, I have come to see her as not bright in various ways...and also obviously not emotionally deep or emotionally intelligent. She worships at the alter of fame and adulation and has for decades. Despite being a mother of teens now, in her fifties, with her relationship history and now a wife, she still, yet again, chose poorly. Her daughter seems more emionally mature. He was warned also, as was she, but they don't listen to anything they don't want to hear, they both feel omnipotent in their own minds (her especially) meaning they can make anything they want happen, their wealth reinforces that s does their years of fame, so you know, here they are.