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Anonymous wrote:Seriously stop tracking your kid. People parented for thousands of years without doing this.

My kid is 14 so no

They don’t drive so your tracking their walking?

Are you kidding pp

Tracking whether they are sneaking out. Or really at a friends house. Or really at a sleepover, or really studying at home (if you are elsewhere)

Some teens lie and sneak. I have 3 of them and 1 is trying to break the rules every darn day. So I get it.

So let me get this straight. You did such a poor job raising your child to this point they engage in these behaviors? And you haven’t learned from your past mistakes and want to hover still?

Glad you have a great kid! It’s easy to judge when you do. I have multiple kids. One is harder and a rule breaker and the other two wouldn’t dream of it - it’s not always parenting.

Disagree.
It’s 99% parenting.
The problem is in thinking that you can parent different children in the same way/method and it will “take” for each kid in the same way.
It may not.
So you try something else.
But at the heart of it is establishing boundaries in a way that they internalize so that they are partners with you on holding the line.

This is a silly comment. Of course you adjust your parenting for each kid. That doesn’t discount what I said - some kids are HARDER and push boundaries in a way that their own siblings do not. A poster seemingly shocked! Shocked! that a teenager would lie and sneak is someone who has a lack of experience in parenting the type of kid OP is dealing with and uselessly judgmental for what she is going through as she tries to find the structure and boundaries that work.

So u call the house of the parent where they are having the sleepover to confirm that’s true

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously stop tracking your kid. People parented for thousands of years without doing this.

My kid is 14 so no

They don’t drive so your tracking their walking?

Are you kidding pp

Tracking whether they are sneaking out. Or really at a friends house. Or really at a sleepover, or really studying at home (if you are elsewhere)

Some teens lie and sneak. I have 3 of them and 1 is trying to break the rules every darn day. So I get it.

So let me get this straight. You did such a poor job raising your child to this point they engage in these behaviors? And you haven’t learned from your past mistakes and want to hover still?

Glad you have a great kid! It’s easy to judge when you do. I have multiple kids. One is harder and a rule breaker and the other two wouldn’t dream of it - it’s not always parenting.

Disagree.
It’s 99% parenting.
The problem is in thinking that you can parent different children in the same way/method and it will “take” for each kid in the same way.
It may not.
So you try something else.
But at the heart of it is establishing boundaries in a way that they internalize so that they are partners with you on holding the line.

Not the PP but I 100% disagree with you. I couldn't for the life of my understand why 1 of my 4 kids was so different. Defiant, impulsive, risk taker, etc... Beyond a late ADHD diagnosis (because they aren't hyper or lack focus and have good grades) we went even further and did a neurosych eval and received multiple diagnosis. Brains aren't all wired the same, each individual has a personality even as a baby, and personal things that have happened to them (bullying, exclusion, poor teacher, terrible coach, etc...) absolutely play into who they are. Kids and teens are NOT robots that just cater to the exact needs to a specific parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously stop tracking your kid. People parented for thousands of years without doing this.

My kid is 14 so no

They don’t drive so your tracking their walking?

Are you kidding pp

Tracking whether they are sneaking out. Or really at a friends house. Or really at a sleepover, or really studying at home (if you are elsewhere)

Some teens lie and sneak. I have 3 of them and 1 is trying to break the rules every darn day. So I get it.

So let me get this straight. You did such a poor job raising your child to this point they engage in these behaviors? And you haven’t learned from your past mistakes and want to hover still?

Glad you have a great kid! It’s easy to judge when you do. I have multiple kids. One is harder and a rule breaker and the other two wouldn’t dream of it - it’s not always parenting.

Disagree.
It’s 99% parenting.
The problem is in thinking that you can parent different children in the same way/method and it will “take” for each kid in the same way.
It may not.
So you try something else.
But at the heart of it is establishing boundaries in a way that they internalize so that they are partners with you on holding the line.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously stop tracking your kid. People parented for thousands of years without doing this.

My kid is 14 so no

They don’t drive so your tracking their walking?

Are you kidding pp

Tracking whether they are sneaking out. Or really at a friends house. Or really at a sleepover, or really studying at home (if you are elsewhere)

Some teens lie and sneak. I have 3 of them and 1 is trying to break the rules every darn day. So I get it.

I have two teen kids.
And when I read posts like yours, PP, I genuinely wonder what conversations were had in their early life about what you value as a family (and where those values come from) in terms of honestly vs. deceit and how your choices either serve to build or lose trust, and in understanding that this shapes who you are in terms of core character development.

When these chats come in response to poor choices, they tend to sound like lecturing reprimands and don’t really land. So I’m
not suggesting you “lay down the law” here bc it probably won’t work.

But when the discussion is part of an early foundation of upbringing, kids tend to internalize these values because the clarity make sense. Our choices define our character.

I personally have done work around for Find my, where I switch the location to my iPad rather than phone so it looks like I’m at home. Easy to do and no one is the wiser, UNLESS they check the “device” find my, then it would be obvious where I really am

Anonymous wrote:I really love all the support and judgemental comments. I have a 16 year old who frequently leaves the house without permission. We are great supportive parents who want their teens to have freedom but also follow the rules. She disables the location sharing on this app which is why I hate this app. They should include a feature that keeps them from disabling the location sharing. Some of us with troubled teens need this app!

You can put on family sharing - then share locations and freeze it so they can never turn it off. You can also put an Apple air tag in their backpack. I sewed one into a side piece of fabric. That has been the chef’s kiss.

I really love all the support and judgemental comments. I have a 16 year old who frequently leaves the house without permission. We are great supportive parents who want their teens to have freedom but also follow the rules. She disables the location sharing on this app which is why I hate this app. They should include a feature that keeps them from disabling the location sharing. Some of us with troubled teens need this app!

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Why do you need Life360? Isn’t find your iPhone enough

Not everyone has iPhones.

Also life 360 gives you history of where they have been, how fast driving. Etc.

There are small objects, not apps or built-in software features, that you can physically attach to the phone that will allow you to covertly track its location. If you secretly do this in addition to having an obvious app on the phone, your teen can hack the app all he wants but he will never know that you know his real location.

stop paying for the phone

Why do you need Life360? Isn’t find your iPhone enough

Not everyone has iPhones.

Anonymous wrote:How about telling your kid that if they do that again, they lose their phone for a week.

Or until they’re 18.

Anonymous wrote:Apparently the people commenting either don't have teen children or have kids who sit inside on a device. Some people have teens who are out riding bikes, skateboards and scooters ALL DAY! ITS LIFE FOR THEM! So yes, parents with active children and children who go out a lot need Life360. Perfect parents and perfect children....just wait! That or they have no friends and sit inside with Mommy and Daddy all day!

Why do you need Life360? Isn’t find your iPhone enough

How about being respectful of other’s decisions regarding parenting. The initial question was regarding the technology, and not to collect opinions as to the appropriateness of tracking and philosophies of parenting.