Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:42     Subject: Re:What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hired a PI for two hours and he caught my husband cheating. It was the only time he was ever with this woman and I somehow had the intuition for the time/date/place where it would be.
I was only vaguely suspicious, or so I thought. And said to myself, if nothing comes of this then I'll consider myself crazy because there are no signs.
I wasn't crazy. Trust your gut ppl.


Damn was he at the Bodyshop doing something unholy?


nope, a park in his car. I ran over when the PI called me and caught him on top of her.


Please tell me you divorced...
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:41     Subject: Re:What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:I hired a PI for two hours and he caught my husband cheating. It was the only time he was ever with this woman and I somehow had the intuition for the time/date/place where it would be.
I was only vaguely suspicious, or so I thought. And said to myself, if nothing comes of this then I'll consider myself crazy because there are no signs.
I wasn't crazy. Trust your gut ppl.


Not the only time he was with another woman.

Odds don't work that way.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:40     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had a brief fling (two weekend stand?) with a guy in my early 20s. It was my first experience of crazy primal sex. Fast forward 2 years and I met my now DH and weekend fling dude is DH's lifelong best friend since preschool. I was fully prepared to tell DH when we talked about our sexual histories or number of partners, but here we are married and over 20 years later and we've never talked about any of that so it hasn't come up organically and now I feel like I'm in way too deep to ever disclose that. Friend and I have also never spoke of it since I re-met him as DH's friend.


But DH's friend thinks about it EVERY time you guys hang out. EVERY. TIME.


For 20 years? You have read too many romance novels.

The guy is not 14. And they undoubtedly look very different now.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:39     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Abortion when I had kids who were elementary age. I don’t regret it at all. My sisters who are my best friends don’t even know. I kind of want to scream it from the roof tops given how backward this country has become about women’s body autonomy.


I had one and the same circumstances in 2020 and I feel a lot of complicated feelings about it. Mostly regret. I wish I could get to a place of feeling like it was the right choice. I know intellectually it was.


There's a whole culture devoted to trying to make you feel guilty about it. No surprise that they've gotten into your head.


I’m the first poster who posted about my experience. I’m sorry your feelings are complicated. It’s ok to emotionally not feel like it was the right choice. I mean, I would love to have a pack of kids. Hang in there. I hope it gets easier for you.


I would imagine the conflicted feelings has to do with whether you were able to later have as many kids as you wanted? Or if they came easily?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:38     Subject: Re:What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hired a PI for two hours and he caught my husband cheating. It was the only time he was ever with this woman and I somehow had the intuition for the time/date/place where it would be.
I was only vaguely suspicious, or so I thought. And said to myself, if nothing comes of this then I'll consider myself crazy because there are no signs.
I wasn't crazy. Trust your gut ppl.


Damn was he at the Bodyshop doing something unholy?


nope, a park in his car. I ran over when the PI called me and caught him on top of her.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:38     Subject: Re:What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH & I are in a poly quad and have been for years.


Same!


What does this entail. Do an AMA pls!


Please don't. These people are always WAY less interesting that it sounds, and much less interesting than they think they are.

Also, I bet you anything people already know and that the PP doesn't even put that much effort into hiding it.


I would never do an AMA. People like you apparently already know everything about us


I don't know anything about you. Still not interested.


You were interested enough to post your opinion. You’ve basically told on yourself.


You got me. Please tell us all about the boring logistics of how you and your DH f**k another couple. Is there a Google Calendar involved? Riveting.


NP. You know, you don’t have to click on any thread that doesn’t interest you. Just do that, instead of being a weird, censorious pearl-clutcher.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:38     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:I had a brief fling (two weekend stand?) with a guy in my early 20s. It was my first experience of crazy primal sex. Fast forward 2 years and I met my now DH and weekend fling dude is DH's lifelong best friend since preschool. I was fully prepared to tell DH when we talked about our sexual histories or number of partners, but here we are married and over 20 years later and we've never talked about any of that so it hasn't come up organically and now I feel like I'm in way too deep to ever disclose that. Friend and I have also never spoke of it since I re-met him as DH's friend.


Great movie plot.

Glad that you did not tell husband (and I usually endorse honesty). But in this case, no reason to disclose.

You and friend handled things maturely.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:37     Subject: Re:What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:I hired a PI for two hours and he caught my husband cheating. It was the only time he was ever with this woman and I somehow had the intuition for the time/date/place where it would be.
I was only vaguely suspicious, or so I thought. And said to myself, if nothing comes of this then I'll consider myself crazy because there are no signs.
I wasn't crazy. Trust your gut ppl.


Damn was he at the Bodyshop doing something unholy?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 11:33     Subject: Re:What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
I hired a PI for two hours and he caught my husband cheating. It was the only time he was ever with this woman and I somehow had the intuition for the time/date/place where it would be.
I was only vaguely suspicious, or so I thought. And said to myself, if nothing comes of this then I'll consider myself crazy because there are no signs.
I wasn't crazy. Trust your gut ppl.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 10:55     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I banged my high school Spanish teacher in the classroom after school . It was my first sexual experience


Are you male? Was your teacher male or female?


Male and she was female and she did this with at least one more student that I was aware of
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 10:44     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:I had a brief fling (two weekend stand?) with a guy in my early 20s. It was my first experience of crazy primal sex. Fast forward 2 years and I met my now DH and weekend fling dude is DH's lifelong best friend since preschool. I was fully prepared to tell DH when we talked about our sexual histories or number of partners, but here we are married and over 20 years later and we've never talked about any of that so it hasn't come up organically and now I feel like I'm in way too deep to ever disclose that. Friend and I have also never spoke of it since I re-met him as DH's friend.


But DH's friend thinks about it EVERY time you guys hang out. EVERY. TIME.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 10:39     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Abortion when I had kids who were elementary age. I don’t regret it at all. My sisters who are my best friends don’t even know. I kind of want to scream it from the roof tops given how backward this country has become about women’s body autonomy.


I had one and the same circumstances in 2020 and I feel a lot of complicated feelings about it. Mostly regret. I wish I could get to a place of feeling like it was the right choice. I know intellectually it was.


There's a whole culture devoted to trying to make you feel guilty about it. No surprise that they've gotten into your head.


I’m the first poster who posted about my experience. I’m sorry your feelings are complicated. It’s ok to emotionally not feel like it was the right choice. I mean, I would love to have a pack of kids. Hang in there. I hope it gets easier for you.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 10:32     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
I had a brief fling (two weekend stand?) with a guy in my early 20s. It was my first experience of crazy primal sex. Fast forward 2 years and I met my now DH and weekend fling dude is DH's lifelong best friend since preschool. I was fully prepared to tell DH when we talked about our sexual histories or number of partners, but here we are married and over 20 years later and we've never talked about any of that so it hasn't come up organically and now I feel like I'm in way too deep to ever disclose that. Friend and I have also never spoke of it since I re-met him as DH's friend.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 10:14     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:I banged my high school Spanish teacher in the classroom after school . It was my first sexual experience


Are you male? Was your teacher male or female?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 09:40     Subject: What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Abortion when I had kids who were elementary age. I don’t regret it at all. My sisters who are my best friends don’t even know. I kind of want to scream it from the roof tops given how backward this country has become about women’s body autonomy.


I had one and the same circumstances in 2020 and I feel a lot of complicated feelings about it. Mostly regret. I wish I could get to a place of feeling like it was the right choice. I know intellectually it was.


There's a whole culture devoted to trying to make you feel guilty about it. No surprise that they've gotten into your head.