Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any comeback that’s crowdsourced from a bunch of moms on the internet is probably not going to go over well with mean middle school kids. This sounds like an Onion article.

True. When I was picked on in ms for being scrawny and poor, I punched whoever said it or, if it was a group, whoever was closest. My bony little fist hurt their stupid noses. I did this twice and, then, had a reputation for being crazy and violent. Guess who no one focked with for the rest of ms?

This.

This above is what worked for at least two men I know. Maybe not what OP wants to hear but it works. Males live by different rules.

My husband's mom instructed him to sat "stop it and I mean it," as if that's work on some planet. But throwing a bunch stopped the problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Show your kid this video. It truly works.
https://youtu.be/7oKjW1OIjuw?feature=shared

I don't know if that would work in all situations. An adult man flirting with a younger girl disarmed her, but it may just come off creepy and weird and give the bully more fodder.

Agreed. Some of those tactics he tried to showcase would just make the situation worse.

Anonymous wrote:Show your kid this video. It truly works.
https://youtu.be/7oKjW1OIjuw?feature=shared

I don't know if that would work in all situations. An adult man flirting with a younger girl disarmed her, but it may just come off creepy and weird and give the bully more fodder.

Anonymous wrote:Show your kid this video. It truly works.
https://youtu.be/7oKjW1OIjuw?feature=shared

He's right when he says to not get upset. That is what the bully wants.

It's wrong just to sit there and eat sh^t from someone though too. The best way is to retaliate. Strong. Stronger than the bully. But to do so in the calm manner.

So his examples of saying "thanks for the information" or "wow, that's interesting" may temporarily work in the short term and the bully will walk away. But the kid is branded as a loser for the rest of his school days. And the bullies will give it another shot; they are not nearly as easily deterred as he suggests. They'll just come back stronger.

Truly, the best way is to stay calm (as he suggests in the video) but absolutely go for the jugular with the bully. So when they walk away, they know not to come back and try again. And I'm not suggesting that the bully will be rehabilitated; obviously they will not. Instead, the bully will just find someone else to target.

Show your kid this video. It truly works.
https://youtu.be/7oKjW1OIjuw?feature=shared

Anonymous wrote:Say nothing, roll his eyes, walk away. Interacting just makes it worse.

"thats what I thought you little F$GG0T. Walk away like a little pu$$y"

And then it repeats the next day. And the next. And the day after that. Until your kid is just a shell of their former self. And you're at home wondering what has happened to your sweet little happy boy.

OR, you teach your kid to stand up for themselves. Give them a sense of pride. Arm them with a quicker wit and a meaner temperament. Teach them not to take crap from anybody.

Anonymous wrote:Say nothing, roll his eyes, walk away. Interacting just makes it worse.

Say nothing, roll his eyes, walk away. Interacting just makes it worse.

"Your momma is slow too." ~ GenXer.

I'm so glad this thread is back. This is one of my DCUM's favorites.

I loved both the absolutely HORRIBLY lame comebacks and the truly vicious ones at the same time

Anonymous wrote:Best insults are when you invite the bully to play along with it and turn it on em. Have your son say stuff like

Oh yeah nice shorts do they come in boys?

Nice shoes do they come in boys?

When the bully uses the same insult the trap is set, and you say,

I believe you come in enough boys for all of us

This one made me lol.

Anonymous wrote:My kids have 2 moms. The few times they did get bullied for that, they found the most effective strategy was to not engage or simply say "ok" and walk away.

My youngest likes to say "I don't get it. Can you explain it" and watch the insulter get flustered.

"yeah, bro. It must be hard for you to see a family where 2 parents love their kid, instead of zero. Hang in there, bud"

Best insults are when you invite the bully to play along with it and turn it on em. Have your son say stuff like

Oh yeah nice shorts do they come in boys?

Nice shoes do they come in boys?

When the bully uses the same insult the trap is set, and you say,

I believe you come in enough boys for all of us

I used to always ignore. I would not make eye contact and would just sit still with crossed arms. Usually they would eventually leave and not say much else after they realize you never are going to respond, but you have to sit there and not move and pretend they don't exist, no matter what they say.

Ignoring is outdated advice.