Anonymous wrote:This is a great article on how to teach your child to have no competitive spirit and be happy with what meager rations they are given.

Kids this bright are quite aware of who is getting into the schools they and their friends have been targeting for 2 or 3 years and they can see the reverse discrimination and unfairness at play. They are not 2 year olds looking for moms reaction on this.

Maybe responsible parenting is acknowledging that while top schools are a stretch for everyone, it IS unfair that qualities outside of their control and baseless to achievement are getting prioritized over what should matter and thus impacting your child's results. It's not fair and there is nothing we can do.

But that they will still go to a good school and because they are brilliant they will make the best of it. The world will level out once they get past the insanity/bubble of college admissions because in the real world results matter more than checking a demographic box and brilliance and hard work will pay off, regardless of liberal agendas.

Companies focus on things that matter and so while this phase of life will illustrate to them the unfairness of racism of discrimination, the good news is that they will be past this BS in four years.

That is the article I would write.

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Anonymous wrote:If someone I work with went to a very competitive school and I don't think they're very impressive, if I find out their father went to the same school, I'm going to be suspicious that they got into that school on academic merit. Even if they did.

By the same token, if that person is from an URM group and they're underperforming, I may also assume they didn't get in based on academic merit. Even if they did.

Our Supreme Court nominee seems amazingly qualified, yet people were asking to see her LSAT scores. Is this racist? Maybe. But unfortunately, raced-based admissions raises those questions.

I wish people picked on unfair legacy admissions more than race-based ones. But when you make race a factor in admissions, you can't fault logically-thinking people from assuming race was a factor in any given admission decision. (And telling them their poor snowflake didn't cut it won't change that.)

Sure, if people don't like holistic admissions policies, their kids can simply apply elsewhere. But their support of race-blind policies aren't what is fanning the flames of racism. It is race-based policies that perpetuate racial stereotypes and prejudice.

+1 well stated, and ITA.

Let me find a scapegoat for my own racist beliefs! It’s not me its you. I love it. +10000.

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Anonymous wrote:If someone I work with went to a very competitive school and I don't think they're very impressive, if I find out their father went to the same school, I'm going to be suspicious that they got into that school on academic merit. Even if they did.

By the same token, if that person is from an URM group and they're underperforming, I may also assume they didn't get in based on academic merit. Even if they did.

Our Supreme Court nominee seems amazingly qualified, yet people were asking to see her LSAT scores. Is this racist? Maybe. But unfortunately, raced-based admissions raises those questions.

I wish people picked on unfair legacy admissions more than race-based ones. But when you make race a factor in admissions, you can't fault logically-thinking people from assuming race was a factor in any given admission decision. (And telling them their poor snowflake didn't cut it won't change that.)

Sure, if people don't like holistic admissions policies, their kids can simply apply elsewhere. But their support of race-blind policies aren't what is fanning the flames of racism. It is race-based policies that perpetuate racial stereotypes and prejudice.

+1 well stated, and ITA.

Anonymous wrote:If someone I work with went to a very competitive school and I don't think they're very impressive, if I find out their father went to the same school, I'm going to be suspicious that they got into that school on academic merit. Even if they did.

By the same token, if that person is from an URM group and they're underperforming, I may also assume they didn't get in based on academic merit. Even if they did.

Our Supreme Court nominee seems amazingly qualified, yet people were asking to see her LSAT scores. Is this racist? Maybe. But unfortunately, raced-based admissions raises those questions.

I wish people picked on unfair legacy admissions more than race-based ones. But when you make race a factor in admissions, you can't fault logically-thinking people from assuming race was a factor in any given admission decision. (And telling them their poor snowflake didn't cut it won't change that.)

Sure, if people don't like holistic admissions policies, their kids can simply apply elsewhere. But their support of race-blind policies aren't what is fanning the flames of racism. It is race-based policies that perpetuate racial stereotypes and prejudice.

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Anonymous wrote:"No one is disputing the bolded part. What we are complaining about, if you can please keep up, is that skin color is being used as a differentiator, such that all of a sudden, a specific skin color allows for less than perfect GPA, less than perfect SAT/ACT, and otherwise average essays and ECs. No one is claiming that they are entitled to attend a certain school, or that a school must accept all students that meet a certain objective entrance bar. What we are complaining about, is that race is being used to admit less-well-performing students over better-performing students."

You really truly don't understand what's happening with URM students in the admissions process. Try reading the Hopwood case. The white plaintiffs in that case didn't get in because they weren't as good as the other white kids that did get in. Of the let's say (making the number up) 400 students who got in, probably 370 were white and 30 were POC. Yet the plaintiffs believed to their core that they lost their seats to the POC. SMH.

In general, the essays and ECs of POC are more impressive than even those of the white kids who get admitted. This is because you can write a very compelling personal essay that demonstrates your grit (young, scrappy, and hungry), your ability to understand that the opportunity to attend Harvard if they let you in is something that will benefit so many more people than just you, and that you are brave enough to shoot for the stars and have proven that when given a chance, you always make the most of it. Basically, your shitty life story as a POC up through the age of 17 enables you to write your personal version of the Alexander Hamilton "I'm not throwing away my shot" story, which is pretty much exactly what schools like that are looking for. I know that you think lots of URMs with lower stats than your kid's are winning those seats at Harvard just because of the color of their skin. Maybe it happens now and then, but that's rare. The faux URMs who have never been pulled over by the cops, or had their parents talked down to by their 5th grade teacher, or had to interpret for their mom at the doctor's office have a hard time conjuring up any life experiences that would distinguish them from everyone else in their essays. If you don't stand out, you don't get in. The URMs who do get in overwhelmingly have some freaking amazing story to tell that demonstrates that they'll do well academically, make the 4 years way more interesting for their classmates, and go on to have a fabulously successful life that will reflect well on the school. Oh, and trust me that you probably don't know everything about your DC's URM classmate who got in and seems to not be "all that." For all you know, she's the lead singer in a mariachi band who won the national competition three years straight, and she helped her parents earn the money they needed to bring her younger sibling here from Guatemala. I hope you're not surprised that she never mentioned any of this to your DC.

I know about 10 kids in my neighborhood who have checked the URM box due to grandma being from spain or being black or being allegedly fractionally american indian, whatever. Our neighborhood houses start at $1M. So the concept of this scrappy youngster is a very small majority of URMs in real life (I believe). And for those kids that are truly disadvantaged, they are better off at mid range schools. Not to be mean but there is a ton of evidence and studies showing that when you go in to a school far below the norms of GPA and SAT that you struggle (shocker!) and that struggle makes them feel insecure and stressed and that in turn results in drop outs and defaults on loans - check the data. It's not like letting kids in who are hundreds of points below everyone else magically catch up by virtue of their acceptance. Maybe a few can rise to the occasion, but most cant.

Elite schools have 95%+ 4-year graduation rates, even taking into account the very few kids who ''dropout.'' NOBODY is getting into an elite school without being an outstanding student.

Of course they are. I know so many kids getting into elite schools this cycle, likely only because of being TO. Nowhere near being an outstanding student.

You have no way of knowing either of these things.

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Anonymous wrote:Even at the highest-performing local public high schools, 50% of the graduating class has under roughly a 1330 on the SAT (which is just over 90th percentile nationally). Being at these high schools, although they offer great college preparation compared to worse high schools, can seriously skew one’s perception.

That number is way too high, even at excellent public schools.

https://www.montgomeryschoolsmd.org/departments/regulatoryaccountability/glance/currentyear/schools/04427.pdf

Whitman was at that in 2020.

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Anonymous wrote:"No one is disputing the bolded part. What we are complaining about, if you can please keep up, is that skin color is being used as a differentiator, such that all of a sudden, a specific skin color allows for less than perfect GPA, less than perfect SAT/ACT, and otherwise average essays and ECs. No one is claiming that they are entitled to attend a certain school, or that a school must accept all students that meet a certain objective entrance bar. What we are complaining about, is that race is being used to admit less-well-performing students over better-performing students."

You really truly don't understand what's happening with URM students in the admissions process. Try reading the Hopwood case. The white plaintiffs in that case didn't get in because they weren't as good as the other white kids that did get in. Of the let's say (making the number up) 400 students who got in, probably 370 were white and 30 were POC. Yet the plaintiffs believed to their core that they lost their seats to the POC. SMH.

In general, the essays and ECs of POC are more impressive than even those of the white kids who get admitted. This is because you can write a very compelling personal essay that demonstrates your grit (young, scrappy, and hungry), your ability to understand that the opportunity to attend Harvard if they let you in is something that will benefit so many more people than just you, and that you are brave enough to shoot for the stars and have proven that when given a chance, you always make the most of it. Basically, your shitty life story as a POC up through the age of 17 enables you to write your personal version of the Alexander Hamilton "I'm not throwing away my shot" story, which is pretty much exactly what schools like that are looking for. I know that you think lots of URMs with lower stats than your kid's are winning those seats at Harvard just because of the color of their skin. Maybe it happens now and then, but that's rare. The faux URMs who have never been pulled over by the cops, or had their parents talked down to by their 5th grade teacher, or had to interpret for their mom at the doctor's office have a hard time conjuring up any life experiences that would distinguish them from everyone else in their essays. If you don't stand out, you don't get in. The URMs who do get in overwhelmingly have some freaking amazing story to tell that demonstrates that they'll do well academically, make the 4 years way more interesting for their classmates, and go on to have a fabulously successful life that will reflect well on the school. Oh, and trust me that you probably don't know everything about your DC's URM classmate who got in and seems to not be "all that." For all you know, she's the lead singer in a mariachi band who won the national competition three years straight, and she helped her parents earn the money they needed to bring her younger sibling here from Guatemala. I hope you're not surprised that she never mentioned any of this to your DC.

I know about 10 kids in my neighborhood who have checked the URM box due to grandma being from spain or being black or being allegedly fractionally american indian, whatever. Our neighborhood houses start at $1M. So the concept of this scrappy youngster is a very small majority of URMs in real life (I believe). And for those kids that are truly disadvantaged, they are better off at mid range schools. Not to be mean but there is a ton of evidence and studies showing that when you go in to a school far below the norms of GPA and SAT that you struggle (shocker!) and that struggle makes them feel insecure and stressed and that in turn results in drop outs and defaults on loans - check the data. It's not like letting kids in who are hundreds of points below everyone else magically catch up by virtue of their acceptance. Maybe a few can rise to the occasion, but most cant.

Elite schools have 95%+ 4-year graduation rates, even taking into account the very few kids who ''dropout.'' NOBODY is getting into an elite school without being an outstanding student.

Of course they are. I know so many kids getting into elite schools this cycle, likely only because of being TO. Nowhere near being an outstanding student.

You have no way of knowing either of these things.

Of course parents can know stats of their kid's friends.

Lol no they don't. There is no way you know the actual, 100% truthful stats of anyone but your own kid.

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Anonymous wrote:"No one is disputing the bolded part. What we are complaining about, if you can please keep up, is that skin color is being used as a differentiator, such that all of a sudden, a specific skin color allows for less than perfect GPA, less than perfect SAT/ACT, and otherwise average essays and ECs. No one is claiming that they are entitled to attend a certain school, or that a school must accept all students that meet a certain objective entrance bar. What we are complaining about, is that race is being used to admit less-well-performing students over better-performing students."

You really truly don't understand what's happening with URM students in the admissions process. Try reading the Hopwood case. The white plaintiffs in that case didn't get in because they weren't as good as the other white kids that did get in. Of the let's say (making the number up) 400 students who got in, probably 370 were white and 30 were POC. Yet the plaintiffs believed to their core that they lost their seats to the POC. SMH.

In general, the essays and ECs of POC are more impressive than even those of the white kids who get admitted. This is because you can write a very compelling personal essay that demonstrates your grit (young, scrappy, and hungry), your ability to understand that the opportunity to attend Harvard if they let you in is something that will benefit so many more people than just you, and that you are brave enough to shoot for the stars and have proven that when given a chance, you always make the most of it. Basically, your shitty life story as a POC up through the age of 17 enables you to write your personal version of the Alexander Hamilton "I'm not throwing away my shot" story, which is pretty much exactly what schools like that are looking for. I know that you think lots of URMs with lower stats than your kid's are winning those seats at Harvard just because of the color of their skin. Maybe it happens now and then, but that's rare. The faux URMs who have never been pulled over by the cops, or had their parents talked down to by their 5th grade teacher, or had to interpret for their mom at the doctor's office have a hard time conjuring up any life experiences that would distinguish them from everyone else in their essays. If you don't stand out, you don't get in. The URMs who do get in overwhelmingly have some freaking amazing story to tell that demonstrates that they'll do well academically, make the 4 years way more interesting for their classmates, and go on to have a fabulously successful life that will reflect well on the school. Oh, and trust me that you probably don't know everything about your DC's URM classmate who got in and seems to not be "all that." For all you know, she's the lead singer in a mariachi band who won the national competition three years straight, and she helped her parents earn the money they needed to bring her younger sibling here from Guatemala. I hope you're not surprised that she never mentioned any of this to your DC.

I know about 10 kids in my neighborhood who have checked the URM box due to grandma being from spain or being black or being allegedly fractionally american indian, whatever. Our neighborhood houses start at $1M. So the concept of this scrappy youngster is a very small majority of URMs in real life (I believe). And for those kids that are truly disadvantaged, they are better off at mid range schools. Not to be mean but there is a ton of evidence and studies showing that when you go in to a school far below the norms of GPA and SAT that you struggle (shocker!) and that struggle makes them feel insecure and stressed and that in turn results in drop outs and defaults on loans - check the data. It's not like letting kids in who are hundreds of points below everyone else magically catch up by virtue of their acceptance. Maybe a few can rise to the occasion, but most cant.

Elite schools have 95%+ 4-year graduation rates, even taking into account the very few kids who ''dropout.'' NOBODY is getting into an elite school without being an outstanding student.

Of course they are. I know so many kids getting into elite schools this cycle, likely only because of being TO. Nowhere near being an outstanding student.

You have no way of knowing either of these things.

Of course parents can know stats of their kid's friends.

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Anonymous wrote:"No one is disputing the bolded part. What we are complaining about, if you can please keep up, is that skin color is being used as a differentiator, such that all of a sudden, a specific skin color allows for less than perfect GPA, less than perfect SAT/ACT, and otherwise average essays and ECs. No one is claiming that they are entitled to attend a certain school, or that a school must accept all students that meet a certain objective entrance bar. What we are complaining about, is that race is being used to admit less-well-performing students over better-performing students."

You really truly don't understand what's happening with URM students in the admissions process. Try reading the Hopwood case. The white plaintiffs in that case didn't get in because they weren't as good as the other white kids that did get in. Of the let's say (making the number up) 400 students who got in, probably 370 were white and 30 were POC. Yet the plaintiffs believed to their core that they lost their seats to the POC. SMH.

In general, the essays and ECs of POC are more impressive than even those of the white kids who get admitted. This is because you can write a very compelling personal essay that demonstrates your grit (young, scrappy, and hungry), your ability to understand that the opportunity to attend Harvard if they let you in is something that will benefit so many more people than just you, and that you are brave enough to shoot for the stars and have proven that when given a chance, you always make the most of it. Basically, your shitty life story as a POC up through the age of 17 enables you to write your personal version of the Alexander Hamilton "I'm not throwing away my shot" story, which is pretty much exactly what schools like that are looking for. I know that you think lots of URMs with lower stats than your kid's are winning those seats at Harvard just because of the color of their skin. Maybe it happens now and then, but that's rare. The faux URMs who have never been pulled over by the cops, or had their parents talked down to by their 5th grade teacher, or had to interpret for their mom at the doctor's office have a hard time conjuring up any life experiences that would distinguish them from everyone else in their essays. If you don't stand out, you don't get in. The URMs who do get in overwhelmingly have some freaking amazing story to tell that demonstrates that they'll do well academically, make the 4 years way more interesting for their classmates, and go on to have a fabulously successful life that will reflect well on the school. Oh, and trust me that you probably don't know everything about your DC's URM classmate who got in and seems to not be "all that." For all you know, she's the lead singer in a mariachi band who won the national competition three years straight, and she helped her parents earn the money they needed to bring her younger sibling here from Guatemala. I hope you're not surprised that she never mentioned any of this to your DC.

I know about 10 kids in my neighborhood who have checked the URM box due to grandma being from spain or being black or being allegedly fractionally american indian, whatever. Our neighborhood houses start at $1M. So the concept of this scrappy youngster is a very small majority of URMs in real life (I believe). And for those kids that are truly disadvantaged, they are better off at mid range schools. Not to be mean but there is a ton of evidence and studies showing that when you go in to a school far below the norms of GPA and SAT that you struggle (shocker!) and that struggle makes them feel insecure and stressed and that in turn results in drop outs and defaults on loans - check the data. It's not like letting kids in who are hundreds of points below everyone else magically catch up by virtue of their acceptance. Maybe a few can rise to the occasion, but most cant.

Elite schools have 95%+ 4-year graduation rates, even taking into account the very few kids who ''dropout.'' NOBODY is getting into an elite school without being an outstanding student.

Of course they are. I know so many kids getting into elite schools this cycle, likely only because of being TO. Nowhere near being an outstanding student.

You have no way of knowing either of these things.