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Ding ding ding. I would guess most of us have very similar standards, but are dealing with different people’s bodies. I have never smelled. I shower every day because I love showers, but I do not need to for hygiene. Even after a long workout, I am sweaty but don’t have BO. I just don’t have that hormone or something. My hair is not naturally oily at all. My best friend HAS to shower every day or else she looks like a grease ball and feels disgusting. People’s bodies are all different! My son is 8 and doesn’t bathe every day, and looks put together and hygienic (hair brushed, clean face, clean unwrinkled clothes) every day. He smells of nothing but sweet little kid. He knows that when puberty comes, he will need to wash more regularly. Showering more frequently isn’t some sort of skill you’ll lose if you don’t start practicing it as a baby. We will adjust when need be. Of course when he has a soccer game and comes home muddy and sweaty, he goes right into the shower. I guarantee you there is not a poster on here who would do otherwise. Maybe the people who insist on bathing their kids every day have kids who play outside for a lot of the day or are naturally more oily/sweaty? And to the PP, we don’t all have kindergartners just because you do. My 3rd grader can wipe myself perfectly well. If he smelled or appeared dirty in any way of course he would get a shower!

There is something weirdly insecure/juvenile about the posters who insist children need to be scrubbed within an inch of their lives. All the “you’re nasty!” commenters remind me of kids on a playground, deflecting for their own social survival. Do you really think we would just be ok Cuddling our kids at home or sending them to school smelling? I would guess we are all working with a similar set of standards, but different bodies.

+All this. My 8 yo DC still has the sweet little kid smell no BO even after going to school and playing outside etc. So yeah showers once a week, but change clothes daily and brush hair etc. I remember growing up with daily showers and in my culture that is the norm but we did lots of things without thinking and I would want to be more discerning and not just follow some custom blindly.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay the only thing that bothers me at all is the bathing once a week. Sheets once a month, fine. Sleeping in next day’s clothes, incredible, I do it myself sometimes for the gym in the morning.

We aim for every other day for a bath. Ignoring everything else like sweat, scalp oil, and environmental grime, once they’re potty trained this is legit gross. Idk about you guys, but my kindergartner isn’t the most fastidious wiper. I can’t imagine the stank of her butt after six or seven days! Do you once a week bathers have bidets, or wipe them down with a wet rag between the cheeks or something?

We bathe more than once a week. However, my DD is incredibly regular and poops once a day, at home, after school. She always gets a wet wipe on her butt after she’s made her pass with toilet paper because I know she’s still bad at it. So if she goes a few days between baths, no, I don’t worry her butt is gross. If I thought her butt was gross, I’d give her a bath.

I wonder if the people insisting on daily baths just have dirtier kids. Like maybe those of us bathing less frequently just have tidier kids who don’t play in the dirt or sweat as much.

Ding ding ding. I would guess most of us have very similar standards, but are dealing with different people’s bodies. I have never smelled. I shower every day because I love showers, but I do not need to for hygiene. Even after a long workout, I am sweaty but don’t have BO. I just don’t have that hormone or something. My hair is not naturally oily at all. My best friend HAS to shower every day or else she looks like a grease ball and feels disgusting. People’s bodies are all different! My son is 8 and doesn’t bathe every day, and looks put together and hygienic (hair brushed, clean face, clean unwrinkled clothes) every day. He smells of nothing but sweet little kid. He knows that when puberty comes, he will need to wash more regularly. Showering more frequently isn’t some sort of skill you’ll lose if you don’t start practicing it as a baby. We will adjust when need be. Of course when he has a soccer game and comes home muddy and sweaty, he goes right into the shower. I guarantee you there is not a poster on here who would do otherwise. Maybe the people who insist on bathing their kids every day have kids who play outside for a lot of the day or are naturally more oily/sweaty? And to the PP, we don’t all have kindergartners just because you do. My 3rd grader can wipe myself perfectly well. If he smelled or appeared dirty in any way of course he would get a shower!

There is something weirdly insecure/juvenile about the posters who insist children need to be scrubbed within an inch of their lives. All the “you’re nasty!” commenters remind me of kids on a playground, deflecting for their own social survival. Do you really think we would just be ok Cuddling our kids at home or sending them to school smelling? I would guess we are all working with a similar set of standards, but different bodies.

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Anonymous wrote:No way am I alone in this one so for anyone lurking who does the same....

Unlimited screen time.

I do the guilty parent version of this, where we arrange our week to avoid screen time so that on the weekend we can just let them watch a bunch of TV while we relax. I could never go truly unlimited because my kids LOVE tv and I think it would ruin them. But being able to just stop caring about screen time on a Saturday, especially when it's cold and miserable out, is a gift I give myself whenever I can.

Anonymous wrote:No way am I alone in this one so for anyone lurking who does the same....

Unlimited screen time.