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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

+1

I like both those names and agree they are a middle ground between super popular and super unique.

But I would also like to note that I know several children and adults with each of those names. Vanessa in particular must have been fairly popular in the late 70s/early 80s because I have a close friend, a sister in law, several former classmates, and two former coworkers with that name. And now also a neighborhood kid. It's a good name! But just goes to show that there are no guarantees.

Most people aren’t trying to avoid anyone anywhere having the same name. Most trying to name a baby are just trying to avoid the 6 Alexander scenario above.

My oldest has a fairly unused name for the last couple decades. That said, it was the name of one of my best friends back home. It is a known name, just not currently in favor.

My little one has a name most here would call a “mom name” but we have run across a couple under 18. Again, not expecting to never meet any, just less chance of being in the same classroom with another.

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

I was just throwing this comment out there for those making it seem like people can only pick super common or weird/made up monikers. I was not suggesting that someone give up a common name they like in favor of these names.

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

Anonymous wrote:Olivia has been in the top 10 for nearly 20 years. I have never met an Olivia.

I’ve met one.


I gave DD a popular name. It’s top 40 and that meant that there were 127 girls with that name born in VA in 2020. I’m comfortable with that. I also have a DS with a name so unpopular that it’s never been in the top 1000 in the US. Still fine.

Anonymous wrote:Olivia has been in the top 10 for nearly 20 years. I have never met an Olivia.

Exactly. Ive met some Olivias but never met an Ava or Isabella both of which have also been in the top 10 for many years.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

Olivia has been in the top 10 for nearly 20 years. I have never met an Olivia.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

+1

I like both those names and agree they are a middle ground between super popular and super unique.

But I would also like to note that I know several children and adults with each of those names. Vanessa in particular must have been fairly popular in the late 70s/early 80s because I have a close friend, a sister in law, several former classmates, and two former coworkers with that name. And now also a neighborhood kid. It's a good name! But just goes to show that there are no guarantees.