Anonymous
02/21/2021 09:47
Subject: Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
We met in graduate school.
Anonymous
02/20/2021 23:40
Subject: Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The truth is most men don't care how much money you make, or about your career. Some do, but most do not.
Good luck with your cats!
Talk to any guy that actually makes decent money and you’re 100% correct. I know most women don’t want to hear that but the more money a man makes, the less he cares how much you make. The values shift to being attractive and making him feel special. Women are the ones who choose men based on their wallet size. Not in a gold digger type of way, but in a “can he provide for a family” way. Men just care that you’re hot and think he’s awesome.
So glad my DH is not like this. He makes more than decent money. I was attractive back in the day but I have aged (as has he). Maybe it’s because we have been together for 20+ years, built our family and our future together, but I just can’t see him reverting to a 20 year old looking for someone who is “attractive and makes him feel special”. This is not to say that we’ll never divorce or anything, but the PP’s description sounds so one-dimensional and frankly, stupid. Most men with a lick of maturity would want something more, I would hope.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 15:58
Subject: Re:Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.
If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!
I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.
However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.
If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.
It's not fair for vapid women to raise children.
I have a college degree and so do all of the wives I know. Why is choosing to stay home to raise my children vapid? What’s the point in having kids if you’re not the one raising them?
Does that mean your husband isn't raising his kids, and that you're doing it for him?
LOL, that's how it works for most SAHMs I know and half of the WOHMs, too. This is not a shocker.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 15:56
Subject: Re:Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.
True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.
Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?
Yes, it was dumb to get a worthless degree.
But I’m a high earner now. I wouldn’t have gotten my foot in the door without a BA. but you’d still judge my credentials even though I out earn and out perform my “pedigreed” colleagues. Judge all you want as I zoom right past you.
The point of education is to be educated, not to earn more money.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 15:53
Subject: Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The truth is most men don't care how much money you make, or about your career. Some do, but most do not.
Good luck with your cats!
Talk to any guy that actually makes decent money and you’re 100% correct. I know most women don’t want to hear that but the more money a man makes, the less he cares how much you make. The values shift to being attractive and making him feel special. Women are the ones who choose men based on their wallet size. Not in a gold digger type of way, but in a “can he provide for a family” way. Men just care that you’re hot and think he’s awesome.
You can't generalize. My husband told me on our third date that he never wanted to be the sole financial support of the family. Some years he makes more, some years I make more. Neither of us chose the other based on looks, kissing up to the other or earnings. Both of those can and do change over the course of a long marriage.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 15:51
Subject: Re:Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.
If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!
I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.
However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.
If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.
It's not fair for vapid women to raise children.
I have a college degree and so do all of the wives I know. Why is choosing to stay home to raise my children vapid? What’s the point in having kids if you’re not the one raising them?
Does that mean your husband isn't raising his kids, and that you're doing it for him?
Anonymous
02/19/2021 15:46
Subject: Re:Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.
True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.
Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?
Knowledge is not the same as intelligence. You may be quite smart but are you knowledgeable?
Oh barf. Are your seriously implying that only people who have been to college are "knowledgeable". Because that is straight up ignorant. My father has a 7th grade education, from a non-english speaking country, to boot. He has built and run several successful businesses, and made a fortune in real estate and the stock market. That man can tell you just about anything you would want to know about US tax code, can talk geopolitics, knows how to raise and butcher animals, can cook feasts for parties of hundreds of people, and has never called a repairman in his life because he "can do it better (him)self". His "knowledge" runs deep and wide and was gained by having curiosity, drive, and desire to improve himself. If you think you are more "knowledgeable" because you were lucky enough to be given life circumstances that allowed to to obtain formal education, you are a damned fool.
+1,000,000
It's pretty ignorant to think that a bachelor's degree makes one worldly and knowledgeable, actually.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 15:30
Subject: Re:Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.
True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.
Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?
Knowledge is not the same as intelligence. You may be quite smart but are you knowledgeable?
Oh barf. Are your seriously implying that only people who have been to college are "knowledgeable". Because that is straight up ignorant. My father has a 7th grade education, from a non-english speaking country, to boot. He has built and run several successful businesses, and made a fortune in real estate and the stock market. That man can tell you just about anything you would want to know about US tax code, can talk geopolitics, knows how to raise and butcher animals, can cook feasts for parties of hundreds of people, and has never called a repairman in his life because he "can do it better (him)self". His "knowledge" runs deep and wide and was gained by having curiosity, drive, and desire to improve himself. If you think you are more "knowledgeable" because you were lucky enough to be given life circumstances that allowed to to obtain formal education, you are a damned fool.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 08:27
Subject: Re:Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.
True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.
Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?
Knowledge is not the same as intelligence. You may be quite smart but are you knowledgeable?
Yes. Anyone with curiosity about the world and the ability to read can be knowledgeable. I have a bunch of niche interests and can hold my own in any conversation unless it bores me (for instance finance or education credentials).