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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Or they were well aware of how bratty your kids truly are and didn't want them ruining everyone else's enjoyment.

LOL I was such a BRAT for not wanting my wedding to be Romper Room!

And I’m sure it was a real blast.

God it really was....200 of our nearest and dearest. Destination wedding. And you know how many of our friends declined because they couldn't bring their kids to the wedding? None. Sorry you don't get invited to events like this!

Great! I hope you made/make an effort to go to all of your nearest and dearests’ weddings, even if your kids aren’t invited and even if it’s inconvenient. After all, they made a sacrifice for your celebration.

+1. But I’m sure that when this PP has kids, they will be the second coming and how dare anyone exclude them? Another self centered brat.

"This PP" here. I absolutely love going to my friends weddings, I love celebrating them and their happiness, and the only time I have missed a friend's wedding is when there was another wedding the same weekend and I had to make a crappy choice. Since getting married, we had one child, and still haven't missed any friends' weddings. Our son has never been invited, and I've never expected or wanted him to be invited. Because, contrary to you wanting to believe that I am a selfish brat, I know that their wedding isn't about me or my kid. Sorry to burst your narrative!

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what it is about weddings that makes people think they can have so much input as a guest. If someone has a party at their house do you expect that you can dictate who is invited and the time it's held and the food provided? No. You just get the invitation and decide to go or not. A wedding is a celebration a couple decides to have for their marriage. They can set any parameters they want and if people don't like them...they don't have to go!

I have two little kids and yes, it's inconvenient if I have to get a babysitter but we figure it out - or we don't go - or one of us goes.

Everyone has their reasons for wanting or not wanting kids there just like they have their reasons for anything else they want at a wedding. Sometimes it's cost that's an issue, sometimes it's the type of venue or time of day, or a host of a million other reasons. It really doesn't matter. If you find the "terms" of the party (which really is what a wedding is, a party) to not be to your liking, simply decline the invitation!

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Anonymous wrote:All the weddings I've ever gone to that included kids were better and more fun than the weddings that did not (this is true whether I already had kids by then or not).

Just because you have a "with kids" wedding doesn't necessarily mean that I'll bring my own (I will decide best on kids' ages/personalities, and will not bring them if I think they would be disruptive), but it's such a nice gesture if you do, and I think it's good luck, in a way, if you eventually want to have kids of your own. Call it karma or paying it forward, but I think there's something to it.

LOL. Some of us know about the magical power of declining invitations that don't work for us; we also know of these magical people called babysitters. We don't need karma to make our lives work, thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Again, some more: stop laying any and all wedding-related decisions at the feet of just the bride. Couples make decisions about weddings together. Even if a bride wants something a certain way, and the groom goes along with it, he's co-signing that decision. He was involved. So if you don't like something about a wedding, stop being a mysoginistic asshole who only blames the bride.

I know it's easier to hate your SIL or DIL than your precious son or brother, but having a penis doesn't excuse them from the responsibility wedding and family dynamics.

And again, some more: not all weddings involve brides. Wowee, zowie! Did I just blow your mind?

Lol. You don’t think that brides (if there are brides involved (no, you did not blow my mind)) make most of the major decisions?

Do you get that even if a man says, "I don't care, do what you want," THAT IS HIS INPUT? Do you get that a man saying "I'm just going to stay out of it and let her do whatever" IS CO-SIGNING HER CHOICES? Think. Use your brain.

Defensive Bridezilla Alert.

Nope, sorry. I just don't live in 1950, like you apparently do, when weddings were the work and whim of silly little women.

Do you get that if someone asks where you want to go to dinner, and you say you don't care, that you actually helped make the final decision? If you say, "Wherever you want is fine," then you picked what they picked, too.

I don't understand what it is about weddings that makes people think they can have so much input as a guest. If someone has a party at their house do you expect that you can dictate who is invited and the time it's held and the food provided? No. You just get the invitation and decide to go or not. A wedding is a celebration a couple decides to have for their marriage. They can set any parameters they want and if people don't like them...they don't have to go!

I have two little kids and yes, it's inconvenient if I have to get a babysitter but we figure it out - or we don't go - or one of us goes.

Everyone has their reasons for wanting or not wanting kids there just like they have their reasons for anything else they want at a wedding. Sometimes it's cost that's an issue, sometimes it's the type of venue or time of day, or a host of a million other reasons. It really doesn't matter. If you find the "terms" of the party (which really is what a wedding is, a party) to not be to your liking, simply decline the invitation!

I have been to -- and enjoyed -- weddings with kids and without kids. Hands down the one's without kids were the most fun because friends and family weren't distracted taking care of/didn't have to bail early because of their little ones.

I didn't invite children to my wedding because it was small (50 people including me and the groom) and I wasn't booting an adult off the guest list for someone's kid. #sorrynotsorry My friend who was still nursing brought her newborn but later said she wished she had figured out how to leave the baby at home because she missed so much and she wasn't able to enjoy herself.

IN CONCLUSION, OP GFY

I have 30 first cousins (who all made the guest list), if I had included kids for all of them and then all of my friends, my guest list would have doubled! Plus, it honestly isn't the kids that bother me as much as the parenting that can ruin an event. My siblings brought their children (who were in the wedding) but I knew with 100% certainty that my sister would miss my vows in order to take a rowdy child outside not to ruin it for us. I do not trust that all parents have the same value on the day/occasion. Yes, kids can make it better and fun but it's also a really important day that your first cousin's child could ruin.

Also, I have a one year old and I'm going to a wedding next month. I have zero desire to bring my child. My in-laws are coming to watch him, but if they couldn't my husband would have stayed home and I would have been happy to go solo. Chasing my toddler around sounds like zero fun. And while he's cute when he says 'no' or 'bye bye' in the grocery store, no couple wants to hear him shout it as they are making their commitment of love to each other.

All the weddings I've ever gone to that included kids were better and more fun than the weddings that did not (this is true whether I already had kids by then or not).

Just because you have a "with kids" wedding doesn't necessarily mean that I'll bring my own (I will decide best on kids' ages/personalities, and will not bring them if I think they would be disruptive), but it's such a nice gesture if you do, and I think it's good luck, in a way, if you eventually want to have kids of your own. Call it karma or paying it forward, but I think there's something to it.

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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Again, some more: stop laying any and all wedding-related decisions at the feet of just the bride. Couples make decisions about weddings together. Even if a bride wants something a certain way, and the groom goes along with it, he's co-signing that decision. He was involved. So if you don't like something about a wedding, stop being a mysoginistic asshole who only blames the bride.

I know it's easier to hate your SIL or DIL than your precious son or brother, but having a penis doesn't excuse them from the responsibility wedding and family dynamics.

And again, some more: not all weddings involve brides. Wowee, zowie! Did I just blow your mind?

Lol. You don’t think that brides (if there are brides involved (no, you did not blow my mind)) make most of the major decisions?

Do you get that even if a man says, "I don't care, do what you want," THAT IS HIS INPUT? Do you get that a man saying "I'm just going to stay out of it and let her do whatever" IS CO-SIGNING HER CHOICES? Think. Use your brain.

Defensive Bridezilla Alert.

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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Or they were well aware of how bratty your kids truly are and didn't want them ruining everyone else's enjoyment.

LOL I was such a BRAT for not wanting my wedding to be Romper Room!

And I’m sure it was a real blast.

God it really was....200 of our nearest and dearest. Destination wedding. And you know how many of our friends declined because they couldn't bring their kids to the wedding? None. Sorry you don't get invited to events like this!

You couldn’t pay me.

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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Again, some more: stop laying any and all wedding-related decisions at the feet of just the bride. Couples make decisions about weddings together. Even if a bride wants something a certain way, and the groom goes along with it, he's co-signing that decision. He was involved. So if you don't like something about a wedding, stop being a mysoginistic asshole who only blames the bride.

I know it's easier to hate your SIL or DIL than your precious son or brother, but having a penis doesn't excuse them from the responsibility wedding and family dynamics.

And again, some more: not all weddings involve brides. Wowee, zowie! Did I just blow your mind?

Lol. You don’t think that brides (if there are brides involved (no, you did not blow my mind)) make most of the major decisions?

Do you get that even if a man says, "I don't care, do what you want," THAT IS HIS INPUT? Do you get that a man saying "I'm just going to stay out of it and let her do whatever" IS CO-SIGNING HER CHOICES? Think. Use your brain.

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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Or they were well aware of how bratty your kids truly are and didn't want them ruining everyone else's enjoyment.

LOL I was such a BRAT for not wanting my wedding to be Romper Room!

And I’m sure it was a real blast.

God it really was....200 of our nearest and dearest. Destination wedding. And you know how many of our friends declined because they couldn't bring their kids to the wedding? None. Sorry you don't get invited to events like this!

Great! I hope you made/make an effort to go to all of your nearest and dearests’ weddings, even if your kids aren’t invited and even if it’s inconvenient. After all, they made a sacrifice for your celebration.

+1. But I’m sure that when this PP has kids, they will be the second coming and how dare anyone exclude them? Another self centered brat.

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Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Or they were well aware of how bratty your kids truly are and didn't want them ruining everyone else's enjoyment.

LOL I was such a BRAT for not wanting my wedding to be Romper Room!

And I’m sure it was a real blast.

God it really was....200 of our nearest and dearest. Destination wedding. And you know how many of our friends declined because they couldn't bring their kids to the wedding? None. Sorry you don't get invited to events like this!

Great! I hope you made/make an effort to go to all of your nearest and dearests’ weddings, even if your kids aren’t invited and even if it’s inconvenient. After all, they made a sacrifice for your celebration.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Or they were well aware of how bratty your kids truly are and didn't want them ruining everyone else's enjoyment.

LOL I was such a BRAT for not wanting my wedding to be Romper Room!

And I’m sure it was a real blast.

God it really was....200 of our nearest and dearest. Destination wedding. And you know how many of our friends declined because they couldn't bring their kids to the wedding? None. Sorry you don't get invited to events like this!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More bratty high maintenance brides who don’t want anything to ruin their Super Special Day.

Again, some more: stop laying any and all wedding-related decisions at the feet of just the bride. Couples make decisions about weddings together. Even if a bride wants something a certain way, and the groom goes along with it, he's co-signing that decision. He was involved. So if you don't like something about a wedding, stop being a mysoginistic asshole who only blames the bride.

I know it's easier to hate your SIL or DIL than your precious son or brother, but having a penis doesn't excuse them from the responsibility wedding and family dynamics.

And again, some more: not all weddings involve brides. Wowee, zowie! Did I just blow your mind?

Lol. You don’t think that brides (if there are brides involved (no, you did not blow my mind)) make most of the major decisions?