Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 15:23     Subject: Re:How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.


You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).


Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.


Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.


Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.


I don’t think this thread has very many on it who are “young” given its title. Sorry ladies but the truth is being a rich 50 something grandma is better than a 50 something mom to an elementary school kid. I win every time!
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 15:22     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
I know of a couple who were divorced after 25 years of marriage. Ex-DH remarried and at 56 with a 50 year old wife had twins. I cannot imagine the amount of work and knowing that when you are 76, you will still have college aged kids.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 14:44     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
I live in a university town and when I gave birth to my first DC I lived in NYC. There are tons of women who have their first after 40 in both places.

In my current town, you do see some younger mothers, but almost all of the parents who get involved in the school, school district, and local politics have very high level jobs and are nearing 50.

I do not feel out of place at all with a young elementary DC at 50.

I do feel a lot of internalized pressure to optimize my health, but that's a good kind of pressure.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 14:01     Subject: Re:How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.


You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).


Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.


Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.


Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 14:00     Subject: Re:How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.


You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).


Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.


Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.


Wise words.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 13:59     Subject: Re:How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.


You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).


Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.


Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 13:44     Subject: Re:How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.


You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).


Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 13:36     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, I‘ll be 44 when my child goes to college.


Why are you in this thread?


Because I am 30 with young children and most of my children’s peers’ parents are within ten years of my age, certainly not two decades older. I was curious.

Oops fixed it.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2019 13:35     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, I‘ll be 44 when my child goes to college.


Why are you in this thread?


Because I am 30 with young children and most of my children’s peers are within ten years of my age, certainly not two decades older. I was curious.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2019 01:38     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
53 year old single mom with 7 year old twins...exhausting.
Just found out one of the moms is nearly 20 years younger than I am. Just sounds so weird that we have so much of an age difference. I think most people do not realize my age....and as some others have noted, I could be some of the teachers' Mom too.....
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2019 12:01     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
50 with a 10yo
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2019 11:11     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:Ha too old

???? What does this mean?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2019 22:04     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Ha too old
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2019 22:03     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
DH and I are both 49 with a 5 and 7-year-old.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2019 21:39     Subject: How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?
Anonymous wrote:The difference PP is that dealing with young kids AND aging parents AND perimeter pause is an absolute shitty way to live most days. I’m 46 with a 6 year old and parents and I laws with dementia and broken hip and Parkinson’s. My career is great but also being high level means I have to stay at that level and it’s soul crushing and demanding every minute of the day. Every day is a negotiation and prayer that notbin. Goes wrong, no one gets sick, the metro Isn’t delayed etc. every damn day is grinding and fees like a house of cards. I don’t regret my kid, I regret the losers I wasted time dating in my 20s and 30s which is why my marriage and kid were so delayed.


This. This. This.