When I got divorced, several people said to me, “at least you won’t have to deal with BIL and SIL anymore.” They used to invite themselves for Thanksgiving or Christmas every year—“great news, we got 2 weeks off this year and we can spend it with you!” SIL would order my kids to babysit hers so she could swill our wine. Then they always refused to help with any of the cooking or cleaning because “guests don’t do that.” Not sure you’re a guest in the traditional sense if you invited yourself....

Late to the party but childless boyfriend-less SIL spent thanksgiving telling us how poorly we were parenting (largely blaming me - i saw texts later), doing her makeup over and over, and reapplying perfume, and planning a trip in auguts for us to go to their cousin's wedding.... it was a nightmare b/c SIL literally spent every waking minute talking about flights, booking flights, canceling flights, and telling me repeatedly how she is so good at booking tickets, so she has to book everything herself. She is single for a reason.

MIL told me at dinner that my kids were so independent b/c "their mother is never home." Um, that's me - and i have a high level administrative position where I work 2 evenings every 7 days, All other work is during school hours only. Meaning that I pick them up from school 4 days per week, at least. I almost set on fire. I said "But I only work 2 days per week" and she looked completely baffled.

Butter soup. Ok I’m going to bed now.

It was kind of funny in a clueless, self-centered Old Country way.

They booked various flights for 3 weeks for the wedding. Then told inly us that they planned to stay in our 1 BR apartment with us for the week leading up to the wedding, then fly to brides town, and assumed they were going to stay at the bride’s family for two weeks during and after the wedding. Second time both parents had met. Houseguesting, the whole 3 weeks with the hosts of the wedding!

And that’s just what happened.

That said, bride’s father was from a big family and took off for two weeks and they had a fun time at the house and a road trip while we were on honeymoon. Brides mom thought the in laws were nuts, but her brides father took the load off and handled it.

MIL's ex husband showed up at Thanksgiving. MIL was out of town and not there. He is on the large email list and other family members never take anyone off but he never RSVP'd that he was coming. MIL is trying to evict him from one of the properties that she owns. They divorced years ago. It was weird and he made a huge deal of following my kids around and making other people get out of there seats so he could sit next to them. They have only met this guy a few times and have no relationship with them. It freaked them out and DH had to spend the afternoon staying close to them. My aunt then caught him trying to steal some of Grandma's silverware when he left.

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Anonymous wrote:These bitches HOVER in my kitchen as I am trying to finish dinner prep. And yes, I provide plenty and serve apps. You would think they were raised in a barn.

Mine do this too. It drives me crazy!

I’m a MIL and I hover because my DIL doesn’t wash her hands when she cooks.

What result does hovering yield?

NP. LOL. DIL is probably rushing and skipping steps like washing her hands because she wants to get it over with and get some SPACE.

Mil poster here. Yeah, ok. They have an open floor plan and it is pretty obvious to everyone she never washed her hands. I have no desire for food poisoning so I’ll hover until she “gets it”.

Wow, YOU'RE not getting it. She may not "get" that you hovering = she needs to wash her hands. You discreetly pulling her aside and saying, "Lisa, especially during cold and flu season, would you please wash your hands while you're cooking? If you need help with anything, I'm happy to pitch in" is fine.

But you won't do that. You'll continue to be a passive aggressive bitch. I can tell.

+1. MIL sounds like an awful MIL.

Hahaha. Ok then. You can tell from an online board how “awful” I am. In that same rational, you both sound like horribly ungrateful DILs. You see, I have asked nicely, cajoled, praised her cooking, etc...the list goes on. Poor thing is dumber than a box of rocks and only washes when reminded.

Seriously, you two sound like really aggressive people but don’t worry, you will be an MIL eventually. Good luck with that.

No. I think she's a pretty sharp cookie. She just didn't go far enough. Next time, she needs to make a big show of going into the backyard to scoop dog poop. When she gets back inside, she needs to go straight to the refrigerator, pull out a head of lettuce and start making your dinner salad as she explains that she and her husband fast on (whatever day of the week it is), the kids are finishing off leftovers....but, of course, she is happy to make something special just for you!

My crazy in law aunt who doesn't have kids always wants to borrow my kids. My kids have zero interest in this because she is crazy and even they know this. She has an airbnb and wants them to make decorations for wedding guests or some other crafty thing that a teenage boy and tomboy girl do not want to do. Her favorite dish to make them is butter soup which is pasta floating in a bowl of melted butter. She wanted to drive them 3 hours away to go see a kitten. She basically does not understand that kids are people not play things that she can plug into whatever weird thing she has thought up.

We decline politely but she is constantly insisting and angling to get them. DD mentioned getting a job pet sitting and babysitting for neighbors. Aunt's reply 'Oh no, you should come work for me'. This turned into her bugging me all night that DD should come to her house 3 times a week after school and do things for her airbnb. Hell no on so many levels. The kicker is that she is incredibly cheap. She paid her neighbor's kid .25 cents a day to feed her cats and water her plants for two weeks. She was surprised that the kid wasn't interested in doing it again.

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Anonymous wrote:These bitches HOVER in my kitchen as I am trying to finish dinner prep. And yes, I provide plenty and serve apps. You would think they were raised in a barn.

Mine do this too. It drives me crazy!

I’m a MIL and I hover because my DIL doesn’t wash her hands when she cooks.

What result does hovering yield?

NP. LOL. DIL is probably rushing and skipping steps like washing her hands because she wants to get it over with and get some SPACE.

Mil poster here. Yeah, ok. They have an open floor plan and it is pretty obvious to everyone she never washed her hands. I have no desire for food poisoning so I’ll hover until she “gets it”.

What is wrong with your son that he is not only not helping his wife but is allowing his mother to perch in the kitchen and criticize every little thing that she does. If you are so turned off by her cooking - go out. Order food delivery. Offer to get off your lazy butt and cook yourself.

I have boys, myself, and what you are doing is terrible.

My in laws do not believe in expiration dates. You never want to eat any type of dairy or meat products that they have been storing. Luckily, get togethers are always potluck because the extended family is so large. Everyone knows which foods to avoid and which ones are safe. MIL once brought over a big container of mayo based salad dressing that had been sitting in her car for hours during the summer. I went to throw it out and she fished it out of the trash can. I wiped the container and fridge area down with a disinfecting wipe and waited until she left to throw it out.

SIL is a sancti-mommy. She made so many comments that you never think people make in real life when our kids were little about how much better SAHMS are than WMs. The worst is when she came to visit when I was pregnant and just moved into a new house. I had just been diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and put on bed rest. She was furious that I couldn't go out shopping with her for house decor. She announced that she flew out just to help us set up house (which we did not ask her to do BTW). She also added that her friend's doctor thought she had PE but it turned out she didn't so I probably didn't have it either.

My in laws also always lie and say"Grandma wants X,Y,Z" to get what they want. We've learned from Grandma that she doesn't want or care about any of this stuff. Her children just use her name to get what they want from each other and the younger generation.

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Anonymous wrote:These bitches HOVER in my kitchen as I am trying to finish dinner prep. And yes, I provide plenty and serve apps. You would think they were raised in a barn.

Mine do this too. It drives me crazy!

I’m a MIL and I hover because my DIL doesn’t wash her hands when she cooks.

What result does hovering yield?

NP. LOL. DIL is probably rushing and skipping steps like washing her hands because she wants to get it over with and get some SPACE.

Mil poster here. Yeah, ok. They have an open floor plan and it is pretty obvious to everyone she never washed her hands. I have no desire for food poisoning so I’ll hover until she “gets it”.

Wow, YOU'RE not getting it. She may not "get" that you hovering = she needs to wash her hands. You discreetly pulling her aside and saying, "Lisa, especially during cold and flu season, would you please wash your hands while you're cooking? If you need help with anything, I'm happy to pitch in" is fine.

But you won't do that. You'll continue to be a passive aggressive bitch. I can tell.

+1. MIL sounds like an awful MIL.

Hahaha. Ok then. You can tell from an online board how “awful” I am. In that same rational, you both sound like horribly ungrateful DILs. You see, I have asked nicely, cajoled, praised her cooking, etc...the list goes on. Poor thing is dumber than a box of rocks and only washes when reminded.

Seriously, you two sound like really aggressive people but don’t worry, you will be an MIL eventually. Good luck with that.

Well there you have it. You proved you are horrible enough to call your DIL "dumber than a box of rocks."

I like my MIL very much. I get annoyed by her, like anyone else, but I would never speak about her or treat her the way you speak about and treat your DIL.

NP: There are some people who are dumber than a box of rocks, and some of those people have MILs. If DIL will only wash her hands when reminded, I'm guessing she has an excellent immune system, but her guests may not be ready for that level of immune system challenge.

I prefer to interact with my MIL than my own mother. My MIL raised four boys and is a very loving and kind human being. My FIL and my father are good funny guys.

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Anonymous wrote:These bitches HOVER in my kitchen as I am trying to finish dinner prep. And yes, I provide plenty and serve apps. You would think they were raised in a barn.

Mine do this too. It drives me crazy!

I’m a MIL and I hover because my DIL doesn’t wash her hands when she cooks.

What result does hovering yield?

NP. LOL. DIL is probably rushing and skipping steps like washing her hands because she wants to get it over with and get some SPACE.

Mil poster here. Yeah, ok. They have an open floor plan and it is pretty obvious to everyone she never washed her hands. I have no desire for food poisoning so I’ll hover until she “gets it”.

Wow, YOU'RE not getting it. She may not "get" that you hovering = she needs to wash her hands. You discreetly pulling her aside and saying, "Lisa, especially during cold and flu season, would you please wash your hands while you're cooking? If you need help with anything, I'm happy to pitch in" is fine.

But you won't do that. You'll continue to be a passive aggressive bitch. I can tell.

+1. MIL sounds like an awful MIL.

Hahaha. Ok then. You can tell from an online board how “awful” I am. In that same rational, you both sound like horribly ungrateful DILs. You see, I have asked nicely, cajoled, praised her cooking, etc...the list goes on. Poor thing is dumber than a box of rocks and only washes when reminded.

Seriously, you two sound like really aggressive people but don’t worry, you will be an MIL eventually. Good luck with that.

Well there you have it. You proved you are horrible enough to call your DIL "dumber than a box of rocks."

I like my MIL very much. I get annoyed by her, like anyone else, but I would never speak about her or treat her the way you speak about and treat your DIL.