Anonymous wrote:I try not to be judgmental about actual parenting choices, but there are some instagram hashtags that annoy me when deployed with NO irony or sense of humor: #boymom #blessed #momlife #adulting and when the parent hashtags their child's first and middle name #LaraPeony

Anonymous wrote:I hate when a mother calls her baby a pig or little piggy. Just hate it.

Yes, I judge people too quickly and I am undoubtedly a b*tch but I hear a mother call her baby “little piggy” and I won’t start a friendship.

Anonymous wrote:Until reading this thread, I’ve never considered what other mothers do and don’t say. I’m busy with my kid.
Most of the thing here wouldn’t even register for me.
I’m busy.

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand when people refer to their children as "little b**ch" - for ACTING THE AGE THEY ARE....

I can imagine there's some Jerry Springer-level ish where you could get away with it and it would be fitting, but calling a 10 year old girl that because she's acting like a 10 year old girl is just beyond.

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

So are people just not allowed to root for those teams? Is no Redskins paraphernalia acceptable to you? You must be loads of fun.

I'm not the PP, but yes, that's right. They need to ditch their "mascots" and I AM tons of fun, TYSM! I don't hate those people, but no, I don't like it, and it puts at least a bit of distance between me and them.

I find it ridiculous that you put "distance" between yourself and people who have grown up rooting for a particular sports team, but then again you're probably just doing us all a favor.

I guess you can root for whatever team you want in your own home, but if you don’t understand why the teams I named have racist mascots that are hurtful to some people, then I think it’s fair we’re not friends. If I was black and you constantly made subtle comments that stereotyped black people and black culture and reinforced negative tropes, I would not stay friends with you.

DP. I’m black and think you sound like a ridiculous biotch.

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

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Anonymous wrote:I can't stand when people refer to their children as "little b**ch" - for ACTING THE AGE THEY ARE....

I can imagine there's some Jerry Springer-level ish where you could get away with it and it would be fitting, but calling a 10 year old girl that because she's acting like a 10 year old girl is just beyond.

When mine was young I heard mothers say "I gave you life and I can take it back"--didn't clue in that it was from Bill Cosby's routine in the 80s (which I had actually seen on HBO before I had kids and thought was hilarious). I was horrified. Still am.

So many of you are raising humorless kids. My kids are still young but I can’t wait to use “I brought you into this world... and I can take you out” said with an ice-cold stare at some appropriately serious time. Can’t. Wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't stand when people refer to their children as "little b**ch" - for ACTING THE AGE THEY ARE....

I can imagine there's some Jerry Springer-level ish where you could get away with it and it would be fitting, but calling a 10 year old girl that because she's acting like a 10 year old girl is just beyond.

When mine was young I heard mothers say "I gave you life and I can take it back"--didn't clue in that it was from Bill Cosby's routine in the 80s (which I had actually seen on HBO before I had kids and thought was hilarious). I was horrified. Still am.

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

So are people just not allowed to root for those teams? Is no Redskins paraphernalia acceptable to you? You must be loads of fun.

I'm not the PP, but yes, that's right. They need to ditch their "mascots" and I AM tons of fun, TYSM! I don't hate those people, but no, I don't like it, and it puts at least a bit of distance between me and them.

I find it ridiculous that you put "distance" between yourself and people who have grown up rooting for a particular sports team, but then again you're probably just doing us all a favor.

I guess you can root for whatever team you want in your own home, but if you don’t understand why the teams I named have racist mascots that are hurtful to some people, then I think it’s fair we’re not friends. If I was black and you constantly made subtle comments that stereotyped black people and black culture and reinforced negative tropes, I would not stay friends with you.