Anonymous
08/22/2018 20:49
Subject: Re:S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I get interrogated in my own home by my ILs. If I don't feel like talking, then don't pressure me to talk. After like 10 questions if I am not that responsive, talk about yourself and stop trying to make the conversation all about me. Some people do not want to be the center of attention.
If there is a basic expectation that everyone should talk in every social situation, then change your expectations. Not everyone is wired to be that talkative. Some people need less socializing than others. People come in different varieties. Isn't being social and friendly about accepting people as they are for their own unique qualities? Why do people want everyone to be the same? The world is already designed for extroverts who like lots of stimulation like Chuck E. Cheese. No wonder introverts stay home more because it's the only place they can relax without feeling pressured to be more talkative.
Wow. “Introverts” sure are judgy!
You might want to eyeball that original post again.
Anonymous
08/22/2018 20:27
Subject: S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP wrote in an aggressive way but I just had this experience with an ‘introvert.’ I asked her question after question in an attempt to make an engaging conversation and she never reciprocate or carried the conversation anywhere. It was exhausting and boring and I don’t enjoy hanging out with her. I don’t know if she’s a snob or a bitch or just dull as a white wall but unfortunately she’s the girlfriend of my husband’s coworker, so forced socializing it is...
People like you are insufferable. You “asked her question after question” and got upset when she didn’t engage? Maybe she didn’t want to be interrogated. Learn some conversational skills. If you just ask a person questions, the person feels like they’ve been put on the spot. Ugh!!
Um no. There is a basic expectation that, when out to dinner or out in a social setting, people will communicate. They will ask questions, talk, get to know one another. If she equates that with an "interrogation" then she should stay home and save everyone the trouble of having to navigate her delicate sensitivities.
You sound like a Nazi.
Any other rules for going out or staying home?
Anonymous
08/22/2018 17:12
Subject: Re:S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
Anonymous wrote:I get interrogated in my own home by my ILs. If I don't feel like talking, then don't pressure me to talk. After like 10 questions if I am not that responsive, talk about yourself and stop trying to make the conversation all about me. Some people do not want to be the center of attention.
If there is a basic expectation that everyone should talk in every social situation, then change your expectations. Not everyone is wired to be that talkative. Some people need less socializing than others. People come in different varieties. Isn't being social and friendly about accepting people as they are for their own unique qualities? Why do people want everyone to be the same? The world is already designed for extroverts who like lots of stimulation like Chuck E. Cheese. No wonder introverts stay home more because it's the only place they can relax without feeling pressured to be more talkative.
Wow. “Introverts” sure are judgy!
Anonymous
08/22/2018 14:56
Subject: Re:S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
I get interrogated in my own home by my ILs. If I don't feel like talking, then don't pressure me to talk. After like 10 questions if I am not that responsive, talk about yourself and stop trying to make the conversation all about me. Some people do not want to be the center of attention.
If there is a basic expectation that everyone should talk in every social situation, then change your expectations. Not everyone is wired to be that talkative. Some people need less socializing than others. People come in different varieties. Isn't being social and friendly about accepting people as they are for their own unique qualities? Why do people want everyone to be the same? The world is already designed for extroverts who like lots of stimulation like Chuck E. Cheese. No wonder introverts stay home more because it's the only place they can relax without feeling pressured to be more talkative.
If there is a basic expectation that everyone should talk in every social situation, then change your expectations. Not everyone is wired to be that talkative. Some people need less socializing than others. People come in different varieties. Isn't being social and friendly about accepting people as they are for their own unique qualities? Why do people want everyone to be the same? The world is already designed for extroverts who like lots of stimulation like Chuck E. Cheese. No wonder introverts stay home more because it's the only place they can relax without feeling pressured to be more talkative.
Anonymous
08/22/2018 12:36
Subject: S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP wrote in an aggressive way but I just had this experience with an ‘introvert.’ I asked her question after question in an attempt to make an engaging conversation and she never reciprocate or carried the conversation anywhere. It was exhausting and boring and I don’t enjoy hanging out with her. I don’t know if she’s a snob or a bitch or just dull as a white wall but unfortunately she’s the girlfriend of my husband’s coworker, so forced socializing it is...
People like you are insufferable. You “asked her question after question” and got upset when she didn’t engage? Maybe she didn’t want to be interrogated. Learn some conversational skills. If you just ask a person questions, the person feels like they’ve been put on the spot. Ugh!!
Um no. There is a basic expectation that, when out to dinner or out in a social setting, people will communicate. They will ask questions, talk, get to know one another. If she equates that with an "interrogation" then she should stay home and save everyone the trouble of having to navigate her delicate sensitivities.
Anonymous
08/22/2018 12:34
Subject: S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"Introvert" is an excuse
+1
Excuse for proud to be antisocial and lacking basic etiquette.
I see it that way, too.
Anonymous
08/22/2018 12:31
Subject: S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
I’m not an introvert but I usually don’t say much when out with friends. I listen to them ramble on about their kids, vacations, shopping, new cars etc. The women I know do not understand the idea of conversation. It is them monologuing. Likely your introvert may be used to listening. At this point, I would die of shock if someone wanted a conversation or gasp ask about anything going on in my life.
Anonymous
08/22/2018 12:30
Subject: Re:S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
Anonymous wrote:I consider myself an introvert. I don't think I necessarily "chose" to be quiet by nature, it is just who I am.
Why does DCUM seem to attract people who only think their opinion matters or is correct?
Because of the DC part -- way too many lawyers and SJWs and too few scientists and artists.
Anonymous
08/22/2018 12:28
Subject: Re:S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say
I consider myself an introvert. I don't think I necessarily "chose" to be quiet by nature, it is just who I am.
Why does DCUM seem to attract people who only think their opinion matters or is correct?
Why does DCUM seem to attract people who only think their opinion matters or is correct?