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Anonymous wrote:I wear leg braces that require shoes. Taking off my shoes is awkward and those covers are dangerous.

If you want shoes removed, provide a chair please. If I know it's a no shoes house, or it's messy outside I will bring something else to wear inside.

Since I wear shoes most of the time (took some getting used to) I don't mind if people keep shoes on.

I don’t think even the adamant no-shoe people would ask someone with a leg brace to take their shoes off. We are no-shoes and I would invite you to keep yours on. And to address an above PPs comment about public transport, we take our clothes off in the mud room and immediately those clothes go in the wash, so yeah I’m aware that those clothes are gross and I fix that. It’s also easy for you to politely remove your shoes. It’s not easy to avoid all public contact.

LOL this is the first thing you door when you walk in the door? Strip naked and do laundry?

DCUM never failes to amaze.

LOL Y'all are funny.

The first thing I do is I wash my hands. Then hug and kiss everyone. Then yes, change clothes. I don't recycle a lot of outfits (going mostly casual, sometimes business casual), so they go into the hamper. No, I don't need to do the laundry immediately. I have enough clothes, and the actual act of washing my clothes can wait

I do have house clothes and slippers. It bugs me when kids don't change from their school clothes. FWIW, I'm foreign (not Asian).

Anonymous wrote:We do not have people or livestock defecating in the streets in the US and asking people to remove their shoes is beyond rude.

I take it you don’t live in DC.

We do not have people or livestock defecating in the streets in the US and asking people to remove their shoes is beyond rude.

Most no-shoe households I know do what PP said: formal, bigger parties - shoes okay; just a family popping over - shoes off. I have no issues with that.

Anonymous wrote:Asian here- Guests in our culture know to remove their shoes when visiting friends and family (especially in the winter). On occasion we have visitors who do not take them off when visiting; is it rude to ask them to take their shoes off or perhaps have a sign outside our door or unside our home? What do you do in your home?

Your home. You have ever right to ask people to remove their shoes. I'm from Sweden and we also NEVER wear our shoes in the house. It's considered very filthy. We also keep cleaner homes than Americans. However, I do not have a sign. Most people see the shoes and remove theirs. For the clueless, I just tolerate their ignorant rudeness and don't say anything and clean after they leave.

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Anonymous wrote:I wear leg braces that require shoes. Taking off my shoes is awkward and those covers are dangerous.

If you want shoes removed, provide a chair please. If I know it's a no shoes house, or it's messy outside I will bring something else to wear inside.

Since I wear shoes most of the time (took some getting used to) I don't mind if people keep shoes on.

I don’t think even the adamant no-shoe people would ask someone with a leg brace to take their shoes off. We are no-shoes and I would invite you to keep yours on. And to address an above PPs comment about public transport, we take our clothes off in the mud room and immediately those clothes go in the wash, so yeah I’m aware that those clothes are gross and I fix that. It’s also easy for you to politely remove your shoes. It’s not easy to avoid all public contact.

And yet when it's a group of people who come over, it feels awkward to be singled out as the one person with mobility issues who is told to go ahead and keep your shoes on.

Thanks a lot for making me feel like an outsider.

I'm the PP above with the leg braces. I'm curious what you want. Everyone to leave shoes on because you need to? To be expected to take your shoes off even if it makes mobility tougher?

Seems like a no win situation for a host.

Win situation for a host:
- somewhat formal gathering - everyone keep their shoes on (no one is singled out)
- informal/small circle/close friends - shoes off preferred, but not required (person with mobility issues shouldn't feel singled out among friends, right?)
IMHO, that's what I do in my house, and expect when visiting others

Are you being deliberately dense? It's not a "win situation" for a host to have people walking through their home with outside shoes when the host is uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in their home.

I am uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in my house on regular basis. But when I'm hosting - clean up is expected. That's the price for having people over.
Don't want clean-up - don't host, as easy as that.

Actually it seems like the best solution is to only invite people over who you already know don’t have any physical or psychological issues that would prevent them from removing their shoes in my home. I’m not getting professional steam carpet cleaning just so I can invite one particular person over. I’ve never wanted to be a cliquey person but I guess this risk of other people being ‘too different to fit in with the expected norms’ is how it begins.

What happens when that person who has difficulty taking off shoes and walking barefoot turns out to be your grandma or father or beloved aunt? Will you exclude them, too?

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Anonymous wrote:I wear leg braces that require shoes. Taking off my shoes is awkward and those covers are dangerous.

If you want shoes removed, provide a chair please. If I know it's a no shoes house, or it's messy outside I will bring something else to wear inside.

Since I wear shoes most of the time (took some getting used to) I don't mind if people keep shoes on.

I don’t think even the adamant no-shoe people would ask someone with a leg brace to take their shoes off. We are no-shoes and I would invite you to keep yours on. And to address an above PPs comment about public transport, we take our clothes off in the mud room and immediately those clothes go in the wash, so yeah I’m aware that those clothes are gross and I fix that. It’s also easy for you to politely remove your shoes. It’s not easy to avoid all public contact.

And yet when it's a group of people who come over, it feels awkward to be singled out as the one person with mobility issues who is told to go ahead and keep your shoes on.

Thanks a lot for making me feel like an outsider.

I'm the PP above with the leg braces. I'm curious what you want. Everyone to leave shoes on because you need to? To be expected to take your shoes off even if it makes mobility tougher?

Seems like a no win situation for a host.

Win situation for a host:
- somewhat formal gathering - everyone keep their shoes on (no one is singled out)
- informal/small circle/close friends - shoes off preferred, but not required (person with mobility issues shouldn't feel singled out among friends, right?)
IMHO, that's what I do in my house, and expect when visiting others

Are you being deliberately dense? It's not a "win situation" for a host to have people walking through their home with outside shoes when the host is uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in their home.

I am uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in my house on regular basis. But when I'm hosting - clean up is expected. That's the price for having people over.
Don't want clean-up - don't host, as easy as that.

Actually it seems like the best solution is to only invite people over who you already know don’t have any physical or psychological issues that would prevent them from removing their shoes in my home. I’m not getting professional steam carpet cleaning just so I can invite one particular person over. I’ve never wanted to be a cliquey person but I guess this risk of other people being ‘too different to fit in with the expected norms’ is how it begins.

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Anonymous wrote:I wear leg braces that require shoes. Taking off my shoes is awkward and those covers are dangerous.

If you want shoes removed, provide a chair please. If I know it's a no shoes house, or it's messy outside I will bring something else to wear inside.

Since I wear shoes most of the time (took some getting used to) I don't mind if people keep shoes on.

I don’t think even the adamant no-shoe people would ask someone with a leg brace to take their shoes off. We are no-shoes and I would invite you to keep yours on. And to address an above PPs comment about public transport, we take our clothes off in the mud room and immediately those clothes go in the wash, so yeah I’m aware that those clothes are gross and I fix that. It’s also easy for you to politely remove your shoes. It’s not easy to avoid all public contact.

And yet when it's a group of people who come over, it feels awkward to be singled out as the one person with mobility issues who is told to go ahead and keep your shoes on.

Thanks a lot for making me feel like an outsider.

I'm the PP above with the leg braces. I'm curious what you want. Everyone to leave shoes on because you need to? To be expected to take your shoes off even if it makes mobility tougher?

Seems like a no win situation for a host.

Win situation for a host:
- somewhat formal gathering - everyone keep their shoes on (no one is singled out)
- informal/small circle/close friends - shoes off preferred, but not required (person with mobility issues shouldn't feel singled out among friends, right?)
IMHO, that's what I do in my house, and expect when visiting others

Are you being deliberately dense? It's not a "win situation" for a host to have people walking through their home with outside shoes when the host is uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in their home.

I am uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in my house on regular basis. But when I'm hosting - clean up is expected. That's the price for having people over.
Don't want clean-up - don't host, as easy as that.

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Anonymous wrote:I wear leg braces that require shoes. Taking off my shoes is awkward and those covers are dangerous.

If you want shoes removed, provide a chair please. If I know it's a no shoes house, or it's messy outside I will bring something else to wear inside.

Since I wear shoes most of the time (took some getting used to) I don't mind if people keep shoes on.

I don’t think even the adamant no-shoe people would ask someone with a leg brace to take their shoes off. We are no-shoes and I would invite you to keep yours on. And to address an above PPs comment about public transport, we take our clothes off in the mud room and immediately those clothes go in the wash, so yeah I’m aware that those clothes are gross and I fix that. It’s also easy for you to politely remove your shoes. It’s not easy to avoid all public contact.

And yet when it's a group of people who come over, it feels awkward to be singled out as the one person with mobility issues who is told to go ahead and keep your shoes on.

Thanks a lot for making me feel like an outsider.

I'm the PP above with the leg braces. I'm curious what you want. Everyone to leave shoes on because you need to? To be expected to take your shoes off even if it makes mobility tougher?

Seems like a no win situation for a host.

Win situation for a host:
- somewhat formal gathering - everyone keep their shoes on (no one is singled out)
- informal/small circle/close friends - shoes off preferred, but not required (person with mobility issues shouldn't feel singled out among friends, right?)
IMHO, that's what I do in my house, and expect when visiting others

Are you being deliberately dense? It's not a "win situation" for a host to have people walking through their home with outside shoes when the host is uncomfortable with people wearing shoes in their home.

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Anonymous wrote:I wear leg braces that require shoes. Taking off my shoes is awkward and those covers are dangerous.

If you want shoes removed, provide a chair please. If I know it's a no shoes house, or it's messy outside I will bring something else to wear inside.

Since I wear shoes most of the time (took some getting used to) I don't mind if people keep shoes on.

I don’t think even the adamant no-shoe people would ask someone with a leg brace to take their shoes off. We are no-shoes and I would invite you to keep yours on. And to address an above PPs comment about public transport, we take our clothes off in the mud room and immediately those clothes go in the wash, so yeah I’m aware that those clothes are gross and I fix that. It’s also easy for you to politely remove your shoes. It’s not easy to avoid all public contact.

And yet when it's a group of people who come over, it feels awkward to be singled out as the one person with mobility issues who is told to go ahead and keep your shoes on.

Thanks a lot for making me feel like an outsider.

I'm the PP above with the leg braces. I'm curious what you want. Everyone to leave shoes on because you need to? To be expected to take your shoes off even if it makes mobility tougher?

Seems like a no win situation for a host.

Win situation for a host:
- somewhat formal gathering - everyone keep their shoes on (no one is singled out)
- informal/small circle/close friends - shoes off preferred, but not required (person with mobility issues shouldn't feel singled out among friends, right?)
IMHO, that's what I do in my house, and expect when visiting others