Anonymous wrote:All of you goons have been hoodwinked by a TROLL.

OP is a bitter man trying to warn women not to divorce shlubby first husbands because he might find someone better, gasp, shock, awe!!

If some young, attractive woman with a good education who has her whole life ahead of her is foolish enough to pick up my fat, lazy, stupid ex, I will befriend them to get a closet look at that trainwreck.

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Anonymous wrote:Your friend who likes to spend but doesn't want to work isn't sounding like a prize to me.

+1. Pretty sure this is going to impact her ability to date in addition to her expensive tastes.

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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

If the sex is good there are many older men who will.

Yeah, you date the gal, and see if you can live with her stuff: cats, kids, relatives.

You do realize that even women without little kids have relatives. They might also have cats, too.

And the 15 years younger child free woman you marry, might decide at 37 that she wants to be a mother after all. Or what happened to my friend, a whoops baby at 45 when her DH's youngest was about to graduate HS.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44, married with two young children. If my DH were to die or split, I would have zero interest in getting married again. I have a nice house, financially secure, two children to raise for many years ahead. I would have no desire to risk my finances, complicate my life or introduce a new person into my children's lives. I will of course enjoy male company occasionally on an outpatient basis, but count me out for another marriage, been there, done that.

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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

If the sex is good there are many older men who will.

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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

If the sex is good there are many older men who will.

Yeah, you date the gal, and see if you can live with her stuff: cats, kids, relatives.

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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

If the sex is good there are many older men who will.

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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms. You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single. I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym.

Amen!!

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses.

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, we get out of the office at the time that is necessary. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping. Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms. You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single. I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym.

Amen!!

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses.

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, we get out of the office at the time that is necessary. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping. Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

Not everyone on DCUM works an eight hour office job. I have friends who do shift work and their weekly schedule changes frequently. I have another friend with two children with SN and a husband who has to work OT at will. She can't just insist on 8 pm yoga or 7 am Zumba.

BS when its important people find the time to do it. I'm not saying everyone needs to go to yoga classes. Some people run or work out at home.

And some people live in apartments. Or neighborhoods where running at 8:30 pm isn't safe.

Excuses, excuses. When there's a will there's a way.

Except the mom who is assaulted or killed for running in Langely Park at night will be criticized here for making a poor choice.

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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms. You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single. I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym.

Amen!!

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses.

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, we get out of the office at the time that is necessary. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping. Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

Not everyone on DCUM works an eight hour office job. I have friends who do shift work and their weekly schedule changes frequently. I have another friend with two children with SN and a husband who has to work OT at will. She can't just insist on 8 pm yoga or 7 am Zumba.

BS when its important people find the time to do it. I'm not saying everyone needs to go to yoga classes. Some people run or work out at home.

And some people live in apartments. Or neighborhoods where running at 8:30 pm isn't safe.

Excuses, excuses. When there's a will there's a way.

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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms. You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single. I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym.

Amen!!

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses.

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, we get out of the office at the time that is necessary. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping. Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

Not everyone on DCUM works an eight hour office job. I have friends who do shift work and their weekly schedule changes frequently. I have another friend with two children with SN and a husband who has to work OT at will. She can't just insist on 8 pm yoga or 7 am Zumba.

BS when its important people find the time to do it. I'm not saying everyone needs to go to yoga classes. Some people run or work out at home.

And some people live in apartments. Or neighborhoods where running at 8:30 pm isn't safe.

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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms. You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single. I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym.

Amen!!

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses.

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, we get out of the office at the time that is necessary. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping. Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

Not everyone on DCUM works an eight hour office job. I have friends who do shift work and their weekly schedule changes frequently. I have another friend with two children with SN and a husband who has to work OT at will. She can't just insist on 8 pm yoga or 7 am Zumba.

BS when its important people find the time to do it. I'm not saying everyone needs to go to yoga classes. Some people run or work out at home.

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Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.

Are you deliberately being stupid? When you were single, you didn't have children to take care of, feed, clothe, vaccinate and furnish their rooms. You think taking your children to the doctor, signing them up for camps and activities, and making sure their room has a damn bed that looks somewhat easy on the eye is busy work? Or, I get it, you personally DO NOT NEED it, therefore it doesn't have to be done?

Dude. We all had time for the gym when we were single. I was in the gym or at the skating rink six damn times a week before I got married. Now my evenings are spent on cooking dinner, feeding dinner, cleaning up from it, planning for tomorrow and making sure the freaking roof doesn't cave on me. Because it's not just me anymore. And if you're married, it's not just you anymore, so don't give me the bullshit line how you PERSONALLY don't need, because guess I what? I, too, don't PERSONALLY need vaccinated children, or beds in their rooms, or school lunches, but I'd like them to not die of preventable causes, not sleep on the floor, or not go hungry at school, therefore I spend my energy and time doing things for other small people that I PERSONALLY do not need. Time that used to be spent in the gym.

Amen!!

Hahaha yup. +6 billion. The way you are obsessing over you and your gym time tells me that you don't even come close to pulling your household weight in a family situation, and you're incredibly clueless about everything that's required / everything your wife is covering. Yep, I miss the daily hour+ gym trips of my 20s too...

But you can still have this! I go to yoga every single evening for an hour. Stop making excuses.

Hahaha ummm you don't know JACK about my life / schedule / family / finances / responsibilities, interesting that you feel you can make that statement. Yoga not doing much to open your mind beyond the 4 corners of your own head, huh?

News flash: Many working women fit exercise into their routines every day. Stop making blanket statements about us. Maybe you should get off your self important ass and try it too. The truth is that when we really need to, we get out of the office at the time that is necessary. Make a schedule (write it down if it helps!), stick to it, and remind yourself that working out is a priority worth keeping. Only by taking care of ourselves do we stand a chance of being the kind of person we strive to be on the job, at home with our loved ones, and in our communities.

Not everyone on DCUM works an eight hour office job. I have friends who do shift work and their weekly schedule changes frequently. I have another friend with two children with SN and a husband who has to work OT at will. She can't just insist on 8 pm yoga or 7 am Zumba.