Anonymous
Post 05/06/2016 09:32     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op how do you all talk about and teach family values? Have you talked about and incorporated gratitude? He just seems to take everything for granted, honestly.



He absolutely does take things for granted. When I try to teach him about budgeting and not wasting money, he will say " we have lots of money".
Of course I teach family values. Maybe he needs to volunteer.


The answer is "Your father and I have lots of money, because we work hard for it. You have nothing. We choose to buy you things, but having those things is a privilege that can be revoked."
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 14:08     Subject: Re:Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:OP never says anything about a spouse.
Also - OP- are you a man or a woman?


I am a woman and I did post about my spouse several times.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 14:00     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:I have a Bachelors degree in nursing. I work PT as an RN.

My son is 14. He is gifted, IQ 135. He is also lazy and gets mediocre marks. When I have talks with him about getting into a good college and getting a good job, he says things like:
How much money do you make? I will make way more.
You are only rich because dad makes a lot of money.


When I talk about him reaching his potential, he says things like:
Why didn't YOU go to medical school?
Why didn't YOU reach your potential?
Oh, wow you're a nurse, big deal.
Then he will remark that I am not gifted and he is and he is smarter than me.

This is utterly disrespectful and I'm clearly just venting. Any advice?


How did he become so entitled, OP?

What's his daily/weekly chore list?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 13:47     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:I think your son is spot on. Sounds like you can dish it out but not take it.

Why don't you answer his question re why you aren't a doctor or didn't reach your potential?

Provide him an honest answer and maybe he wont ask.


Probably because OP took time out of her life to have and raise an ungrateful teenager, and thought nursing would provide better hours and quality of life to do that.

Kids wreck careers.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 13:29     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
I sincerely hope my child doesn't gauge respect based solely on dollars. What a sad existence that would be.

Most nurses I know find satisfaction in being able to help others when they need it most.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 13:01     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:
Is nurse the highest status or highest paid profession? NO. Therefore she should encourage him to aim higher.

And I bet your nurse income does not exceed mine.


Not the nurse PP, but your logic only make sense of social status and money are your only measures of success.

Being a decent human being is also important. One might say even more important.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 11:45     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.


Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

So what's so lowly about being a nurse?
I'm a nurse and I would bet the farm my annual income exceeds yours.


Is nurse the highest status or highest paid profession? NO. Therefore she should encourage him to aim higher.

And I bet your nurse income does not exceed mine.

Oh, I'm pretty sure it does. You have no idea what doors are opened by nursing.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 10:25     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:I think your son is spot on. Sounds like you can dish it out but not take it.

Why don't you answer his question re why you aren't a doctor or didn't reach your potential?

Provide him an honest answer and maybe he wont ask.


Don't you have a class to get to? Or, get back to trolling on Craigslist?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 10:24     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:I think your son is spot on. Sounds like you can dish it out but not take it.

Why don't you answer his question re why you aren't a doctor or didn't reach your potential?

Provide him an honest answer and maybe he wont ask.


Don't you have a class to get to?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 10:23     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the kid needs to be taken down a peg or 5. First he gets an after school job and works the summer. Second stop with the gifted and IQ shit. He is lazy, so that does no matter. He says he is going to make more money vs you, laugh at him. Asking what college he is going to get into? If he names a college have him bring up admission profile. If he is so smart, have him figure out what his grades need to be to have a good chance of admission. In other words, don't take shit from him. When he takes about you, shut it down. It's not about you, you are an adult. It's about him.


Right.
What's with pp saying "you must have a 4 yr old" to another who said this?! You need to shut it down. I tell my kids that saying those things will not be accepted and there are consequences. Why would you not respond immediately the first time he put you down OP?

I see so many parents allowing bad behavior.
If you can't do that, then tell him he hurt your feelings and that nursing is an important profession where you are helping to save lives.


It was the two lines of explanation, along with the vague guidance of "communicating." If it was as simple and simply communicating with a teen, you wouldn't hear anyone complaining about the challenges of raising teens. If someone offers that kind of advice, I think they have a small child. Getting a teen to comply like a preschooler isn't good parenting. They have to learn to make decisions, and deal with the consequences.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 10:20     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
I think your son is spot on. Sounds like you can dish it out but not take it.

Why don't you answer his question re why you aren't a doctor or didn't reach your potential?

Provide him an honest answer and maybe he wont ask.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 10:15     Subject: Re:Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:OP never says anything about a spouse.
Also - OP- are you a man or a woman?


Yes she did. Reread the first page or two.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 09:51     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
I think his comments are more fear (of his failure) and posturing than anything else. He doesn't realize how personal it is for you to hear them.

He probably realizes that he is getting mediocre grades and feels bad about it, especially since he was in a gifted program prior to this. He may not see a way out- it is your job to help him figure it out.

I agree with the how to talk... recommendation. There is one for teenagers too.

Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 09:38     Subject: Re:Teen puts down my profession
OP never says anything about a spouse.
Also - OP- are you a man or a woman?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2016 09:36     Subject: Teen puts down my profession
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nursing is hard, nursing is grueling. Yeah, whatever. So is being a garbageman. Does that mean OP should encourage the kid to be a garbageman?


Hey but if there were no garbage men to pit up your garbage--what would you then? Stop putting down honest jobs that society needs. I dare say, we probably need for nurses and garbage men, then some of these made up STEM positions.


Nursing and other healthcare professions (pharmacy, physical therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy, respiratory therapy) are STEM jobs. They study biology, chemistry and math, as well as their discipline specific knowledge. Nurses make as much as engineers.