Anonymous
09/10/2018 07:54
Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:SAHM/housewife (different names for the same thing, I roll my eyes at those who try to pretend being a SAHM isn't the same as being a housewife).
I do all DH's laundry and also arrange for his suits to go to the cleaners. He works long hours and provides comfortably for his family. Old fashioned, perhaps, but it's a fair enough a trade off. I also buy most of DH's clothes for him.
I don't iron, however. Anything that needs ironing goes to the cleaners.
LOL. How are they the same thing?
I’m a SAHM, I don’t do much housework. No more than my DH.
You don't work for pay. Regardless of actual housework you may or may not do. You stay at home with a husband who works. That's simply it.
Lots of "housewives" of the 1950s were pretty lousy at cleaning or didn't clean if they had help. But they were still called housewives. People call themselves SAHM to make themselves feel better. But it's still the same thing.
Put it this way, if the only thing you're doing in the house is looking after the kids then you're just a nanny. But I suspect you don't think yourself that way and probably do a bit more than just nannying.... Stay at *home* mom versus *house*wife.... what's the difference?
It's not 1950. Different mindset. My DH and I both tend to household chores about equally. I manage our investments and do have a career, but the day-job is on hold for a few years while my kids are young. The "house" and "household" are no more of a priority for me than they are for my DH.
You're still in denial because you don't like the term housewife despite it being exactly what you are. Your role is no different from many 1950s housewives. My grandmother, for example, never pushed a mop in 50 years because she had help, and she was active in managing the family's finances. But she was always considered a housewife and called herself one.
Did she have a career outside the home?
Was her DH equally involved in all “household” responsibilities (not just cleaning)?
Anonymous
09/10/2018 07:54
Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
We all do our own laundry. Luckily for me DH didn't like the way I did it once when we were newlyweds 30 years ago, so he decided to do it himself. Perfect!
Anonymous
09/10/2018 07:49
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:SAHM here. I'll wash his clothes and sort them with everyone else's, but he puts them away.
Same here
Anonymous
09/10/2018 07:48
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
I never put them away, so they stay in piles around the bedroom or laundry area because he won't put away his own laundry.
My stepmom is an MBA and high level exec who has always done all the laundry for her family of 6. I remember my dad saying, "I don't think of laundry as a big deal" or an important, hard, critical chore or something like that. Yes he is often a misogynistic ass. Love him but, he's a product of his times.
I hate being responsible for laundry because it never ends, and nobody appreciates it. And it will never, ever be done. The day you die there will still be dirty laundry there waiting for you to do it.
My stepmom is an MBA and high level exec who has always done all the laundry for her family of 6. I remember my dad saying, "I don't think of laundry as a big deal" or an important, hard, critical chore or something like that. Yes he is often a misogynistic ass. Love him but, he's a product of his times.
I hate being responsible for laundry because it never ends, and nobody appreciates it. And it will never, ever be done. The day you die there will still be dirty laundry there waiting for you to do it.
Anonymous
09/10/2018 07:37
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:no. i'll do th laundry and dry it but then he gets it in a basket to fold and put away. he's a pig so he doesn't and it ends up dumped on the floor in the corner by his pigsty dresser when someone needs the basket again.
I thank his mother for his zero common sense or ability to organize/clean/put things away. His other stuff gets dumped in the trash routinely.
Let's stop blaming the mothers of sons who are like this. Why don't you blame the DH at some point? Perhaps the mom tried but the kid never listened? If you blame the mom make sure if you have kids and they do something like this that you blame yourself.
Anonymous
09/10/2018 07:33
Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:SAHM/housewife (different names for the same thing, I roll my eyes at those who try to pretend being a SAHM isn't the same as being a housewife).
I do all DH's laundry and also arrange for his suits to go to the cleaners. He works long hours and provides comfortably for his family. Old fashioned, perhaps, but it's a fair enough a trade off. I also buy most of DH's clothes for him.
I don't iron, however. Anything that needs ironing goes to the cleaners.
LOL. How are they the same thing?
I’m a SAHM, I don’t do much housework. No more than my DH.
You don't work for pay. Regardless of actual housework you may or may not do. You stay at home with a husband who works. That's simply it.
Lots of "housewives" of the 1950s were pretty lousy at cleaning or didn't clean if they had help. But they were still called housewives. People call themselves SAHM to make themselves feel better. But it's still the same thing.
Put it this way, if the only thing you're doing in the house is looking after the kids then you're just a nanny. But I suspect you don't think yourself that way and probably do a bit more than just nannying.... Stay at *home* mom versus *house*wife.... what's the difference?
It's not 1950. Different mindset. My DH and I both tend to household chores about equally. I manage our investments and do have a career, but the day-job is on hold for a few years while my kids are young. The "house" and "household" are no more of a priority for me than they are for my DH.
You're still in denial because you don't like the term housewife despite it being exactly what you are. Your role is no different from many 1950s housewives. My grandmother, for example, never pushed a mop in 50 years because she had help, and she was active in managing the family's finances. But she was always considered a housewife and called herself one.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 23:07
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
We both do our own laundry. If something gets mixed into mine I will put it away. Occasionally I will come across a load of his stuff in the dryer and I will fold and put away.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 22:58
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
no. i'll do th laundry and dry it but then he gets it in a basket to fold and put away. he's a pig so he doesn't and it ends up dumped on the floor in the corner by his pigsty dresser when someone needs the basket again.
I thank his mother for his zero common sense or ability to organize/clean/put things away. His other stuff gets dumped in the trash routinely.
I thank his mother for his zero common sense or ability to organize/clean/put things away. His other stuff gets dumped in the trash routinely.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 21:28
Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
SAHM here. My maid does the laundry, folds it and puts it away.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 21:26
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
DH & I are both 54, married almost 30 years. DH has always put away his own laundry, though both of us do laundry on a daily basis (4 kids, so lots of laundry).
I WOH until recently, but now I’m SAH & caring for a 90-year-old parent. As the SAH person, I take on many more household responsibilities, but DH has his own closet and drawers, so he puts his laundry away because he knows where everything goes. As I am sorting laundry, I will mate his socks, but that’s about it.
I WOH until recently, but now I’m SAH & caring for a 90-year-old parent. As the SAH person, I take on many more household responsibilities, but DH has his own closet and drawers, so he puts his laundry away because he knows where everything goes. As I am sorting laundry, I will mate his socks, but that’s about it.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 21:16
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
No, but I wash his clothes since all the family puts their clothes in the same hamper, to help the washer-in-chief (me).
Anonymous
09/09/2018 21:13
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
DH here. I do all the washing and drying and DW does the folding. Sometimes she folds my clothes and other time she sorts and leaves mine on the bed for me to fold, but she never puts them away.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 20:05
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Yes, I do everyone's laundry. Wash, fold and put away my husband's. My kids put their own away. I don't iron. Married 18 years.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 20:03
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Married 22 years. I've always done the laundry, because I am a obsessive laundry hobbyist. I seriously love to relax by folding clothes.
4 DC.
I refuse to iron. It's wrinkle release or DH will iron or rarely, take dress clothes to dry cleaner.
4 DC.
I refuse to iron. It's wrinkle release or DH will iron or rarely, take dress clothes to dry cleaner.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 19:59
Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
No. We do our own Landry. We share the kids.