Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 20:00     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:My mom battled depression her entire adult life and unfortunately when I was 15 committed suicide. My dad was REALLY shocked and thrown into severe grief that he was not equipped to handle. One night we were arguing and he said "This is why you mom killed herself, you are so hard to deal with." Hearing that really was the worst moment of my life. I was 90 percent sure it was his grief talking but it was still a very intense and awful moment. I told my aunt the next days whos extreme dismay reinforced to me that it wasn't true and she showed me the love I needed to feel. In hindsight it was a true blessing because my aunt and uncle demanded my dad get into therapy or we (the kids) would be taken to live with them. It snapped my Dad out of it and he did get therapy and things did get significantly better from that point on. But man, I remember that argument so vividly and the feeling in my stomach when he said those words!


How awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 19:51     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:"Are you having twins?"
Me: no
"Are you sure?"

No fuckface my doctor has just been lying to me for 9 months about how many small humans I am carrying


I hope you said it!
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 18:48     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.



This is horrible on so many levels. Your DH sounds like a douche. His XW sounds like a basket case. You, not sure what to think of you for posting this. Do you all live in a trailer park?


Wow, I have to agree, that's a shocking thing to say to the mother of his children. Even if she was a terrible mother, those are words better left unsaid.


Whoa. no kidding. NP here. He sounds like an a-hole. I hope he doesn't say something as bad to you some day, seriously.

Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 18:41     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A secretary at my old firm - I didn't know Jewish people had blue eyes.

Old boyfriend - you are a terrible kisser.

My very old HS friend - just had my third, sent out an email announcement (this was pre-Facebook days) and and weeks later she replies - I can't remember if I said congratulations but congratulations. Suffice it to say the friendship died after that.


You are so easily offended!


I agree! That's something I would consider harmless banter.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 17:19     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Do you have a life outside Georgetown?
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 17:02     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
A woman, who upon hearing that I was not interested in a relationship told me that I was too small for her anyway.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 17:01     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
I think the most offensive insults I ever received came from middle school students when I was a substitute teacher. I am a woman with short hair and I guess I'm not very pretty, as many of the kids called me "Mrs. She-man" and constantly asked if I was a f-word (gay). At one school, a group of kids dubbed me "Ms. Lezbo." I saw one of them at the mall with his parents a year or so afterward, and it was so tempted to call him out in front of them, but didn't.

My skin is much thicker now (and I teach elementary), but man, those were some hurtful moments.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 17:00     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
When my parents got divorced, my dad's sister said to my mom (her SIL): "Maybe you should take up jogging." As in, my brother divorced you because you are fat. I have never looked at my aunt the same way.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 16:57     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
From my MS guidance counselor: You should sign up for VoTech...You are not college material. You can have a good life using your hands.

I told it to my science teacher. She gave the counselor a piece of her mind...Found out that the issue was a standardized test that was given unexpectedly when we moved into the area (sleeping on floors while waiting for furniture...). I scored about 50 IQ points below my actual intelligence.

FWIW, I am now a PhD scientist, but still hate that counselor.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 16:13     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.



This is horrible on so many levels. Your DH sounds like a douche. His XW sounds like a basket case. You, not sure what to think of you for posting this. Do you all live in a trailer park?


Wow, I have to agree, that's a shocking thing to say to the mother of his children. Even if she was a terrible mother, those are words better left unsaid.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 15:59     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.

and you feel good about being married to someone who would say this?


I responded to this same thing earlier - It was a very, very long time ago. She had been neglecting the kids and it was said right after he found out. I think it is probably the most insulting thing I have ever heard anyone say. I do "feel good" about being married to him because I understand why he said it. Imagine how you would feel if you found out someone had been harming your children. They were very little at the time - 4 and 6. Remember, he was awarded legal and physical custody. Judges very rarely award sole custody and it's even rarer for it to be given to a father. Think a little bit about what that means.....

I do feel badly that she was hurt by it. Despite the fact that it's true, it must have been a horrible thing to hear.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 15:42     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We were on the metro a few weeks ago with our two daughters (5yo and 9 month old) There was an older lady on the train with two younger adults in their 20's (male and female) who I assume were her kids. The older woman was smiling and making faces with my 9 month old who was enjoying it. She said I had a cute baby and her daughter turned and said that baby in not cute at all.


It sounds like her daughter was a little jealous.


Yes this is what's going on, PP1. Good catch, PP2.
PP1, this comment has nothing to do with your baby, ok? As a third party, I've had some experience with this. This is about that mom/daughter relationship which is seriously f'd up.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 15:39     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.

and you feel good about being married to someone who would say this?
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 15:36     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
"You look exactly like Alan Alda!"

I was a 17 y.o. girl…

LOL it only bothered me a little (I think my friend was talking about my complexion and mannerisms, but I still remember it. Well actually, she used to go on about it every time she saw me, so that's probably why I remember it)

I have one where I was on the other side of this, and it still bothers me to this day. I had never heard of a "Blimpie" chain store before, and my boyfriend had told me about them and that if we ever came across one, we had to go in to get (some hamburger or something, can't remember).

We were down south and I saw one and yelled and pointed, "Look, a Blimpie!" and this obese woman in front of me turned around. I was horrified; I hadn't even seen her. I still think about that, just want to say, lady, it wasn't about you, please don't be hurt!
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 15:19     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Storekeeper in foreign country: (after asking me about my ethnicity) "So, are you from America?"
Me: "Yes, how did you know?"
Storekeeper: "I've never seen anyone as fat as you from India"

Asshole.