Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, Thanks for the responses.

We live on the Rockville/Potomac border. We've struggled to find diverse churches that are anywhere close to us. I have learned that Sunday is the most segregated day of the week.

We are members of the National Cathedral and while we love it there it currently doesn't have Sunday school or a youth group (just the nursery which DD has aged out of).


I tried Mocha Moms when DD was a toddler but the women in that MoCo chapter seemed only interested in putting on a show. It seemed VERY superficial. DH and I have money but nothing to prove. The last I heard was that chapter is now defunct.

I guess there isn't a right answer for us. I think that J&J may be too pretentious for me to deal with. What I really want is a diverse group of kids with whom DD shares many of the same experiences. J&J and Mocha Moms are certainly (and intentionally) not diverse but what is?

I guess my search continues. . .

The Montgomery County J&J Chapter is really nice. Not pretentious. The Potomac Chapter is more pretentious.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is Jack & Jill?

An organization for elite, well education, rich light-skinned Black folks that historically discriminated against those of the darker persuasion.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ I think I left out a sentence in my post, which might make it confusing but I think you can get the gist of what I'm saying.

I get what you’re saying. I literally didn’t know any better. We lived in Alexandria and decided when our oldest started school we would move closer to my job and also where the schools had higher rankings. I had no idea she would be the only black kid. I thought it would be diverse like Alexandria. We didn’t even check the demographics. We didn’t even think all white neighbors existed in an area like this. We have considered moving several times, but now she has friends to a certain extent. I’m hesitant to rip her out and this housing market is terrible. My husband has a good commute. I’ve searched everywhere ❤️. Like where does one even go?

We looked at Woodbridge but then you gotta hope for the lottery for the charter schools or do private.

I would love some advice. I’m heart broken everyday. Like she has found some good friends and distanced herself from others—. But I worry about stupid stuff or is it stupid. I always had self esteem issues and I really try to build her up. She is a beautiful girl and that’s not important—my point is she is starting to have crushes and the only options are of white boys. They don’t like her back. It sounds so stupid to some, but I don’t want her growing up feeling less than. Like I’m glad boys don’t notice her, but the message it send her is heartbreaking. If that makes sense. It’s not important, but it does something to little black girls self esteem.

Anonymous wrote:It’s the Black KKK

Anonymous wrote:I was offered to be sponsored but I'm not sure I want to do this. I mean... the arrogance of some of the J&J members is more than I can stomach... The organization itself does not discriminate based on complexion any longer, but some of the children have been known to exclude and make fun of children with darker complexions. I know for a fact one young girl was being referred to as "Miss Celie."

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Anonymous wrote:Years ago, my best friend wanted to join but was told no, because she was biracial. I remember how upset her parents were. This was in the late 50s.

This is how ugly rumors get started. My biracial DC is currently in a J&J chapter now, and our family has had absolutely no problems. There are several other biracial children in my chapter as well.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ I think I left out a sentence in my post, which might make it confusing but I think you can get the gist of what I'm saying.

I get what you’re saying. I literally didn’t know any better. We lived in Alexandria and decided when our oldest started school we would move closer to my job and also where the schools had higher rankings. I had no idea she would be the only black kid. I thought it would be diverse like Alexandria. We didn’t even check the demographics. We didn’t even think all white neighbors existed in an area like this. We have considered moving several times, but now she has friends to a certain extent. I’m hesitant to rip her out and this housing market is terrible. My husband has a good commute. I’ve searched everywhere ❤️. Like where does one even go?

We looked at Woodbridge but then you gotta hope for the lottery for the charter schools or do private.

I would love some advice. I’m heart broken everyday. Like she has found some good friends and distanced herself from others—. But I worry about stupid stuff or is it stupid. I always had self esteem issues and I really try to build her up. She is a beautiful girl and that’s not important—my point is she is starting to have crushes and the only options are of white boys. They don’t like her back. It sounds so stupid to some, but I don’t want her growing up feeling less than. Like I’m glad boys don’t notice her, but the message it send her is heartbreaking. If that makes sense. It’s not important, but it does something to little black girls self esteem.