Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 20:32     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:"If I felt as you do, I would not have married him or stayed married to him. I trust my husband unconditionally. I know my man does not put himself out there nor would he conceive of doing another woman even if she offered, even if it was a free pass no-one but him would know scenario. Why? Because he has morals. Wouldn't do something like that because he knows it is wrong. He works at our issues and doesn't run from them. He may be in the minority or he may be the majority. All I know, I wouldn't be with my husband if I thought he would cheat. "

Of course you dont think he would cheat - that would make for a pretty miserable marriage if you were worried about it all the time. That said your beleiving something does not make it true. I think that all men are capable of cheating - its all about the opportunity and the risks involved.


And so the endless cycle of the debate continues. I think all that can be said has been said and posters are just going around in circles.

The summary: Some people think men will cheat if given the opportunity and they can get away with it. Some people think some men actually have morals and wouldn't cheat no matter what. Yadda, yadda, yadda.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 20:20     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Seems there's a lot of deluded women out there who think their men don't/wouldn't stray. It's probably best that way though, no point being all angst ridden.


It's not that, a lot of it is laziness.

First, most men don't have that many options, especially once they've the mortgage and the kid(s).

Two, men are lazy and options don't tend to fall out of the sky. Some of these scenarios take work.

Frankly it's the same reason I don't cheat. It's not that I don't want to have sex with other men (we are not in a great place in our marriage and are working on things but I admit sometimes I think if we don't make it, well, I'm young, look ten years younger than my age anyway, and though I wouldn't have unlimited options either I'd have a few). But it takes some effort, and I'm picky. I have the catch 22 of not wanting to have an affair with someone who'd be willing to have an affair. Sigh.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 19:35     Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.


I call bullshit. I'm sure I could walk in stark naked with a bow tied around my hooha and my crush will not bat an eyelid, and I'm cute. Not all guys can be "got".


I'm pretty sure my DH wouldn't either.


"Pretty sure" would not be comforting to me. I honestly think it would depend on how cute PP and her hooha really are and what the perceived odds are of getting caught. Classic risk/benefit analysis. That's how men think.


Oh, haha. I meant my DH wouldn't look at MY woohaa wrapped in a bow. I'm sure he'd look at someone elses.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 19:04     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Seems there's a lot of deluded women out there who think their men don't/wouldn't stray. It's probably best that way though, no point being all angst ridden.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 17:31     Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.


I call bullshit. I'm sure I could walk in stark naked with a bow tied around my hooha and my crush will not bat an eyelid, and I'm cute. Not all guys can be "got".


I'm pretty sure my DH wouldn't either.


"Pretty sure" would not be comforting to me. I honestly think it would depend on how cute PP and her hooha really are and what the perceived odds are of getting caught. Classic risk/benefit analysis. That's how men think.


Maybe your man but not my DH.

If I felt as you do, I would not have married him or stayed married to him. I trust my husband unconditionally. I know my man does not put himself out there nor would he conceive of doing another woman even if she offered, even if it was a free pass no-one but him would know scenario. Why? Because he has morals. Wouldn't do something like that because he knows it is wrong. He works at our issues and doesn't run from them. He may be in the minority or he may be the majority. All I know, I wouldn't be with my husband if I thought he would cheat.


Ouch. Someone struck a raw nerve. Listen to yourself, Sweetie. Defensive. Strident. Many of us out here feel the same way. We just don't tempt fate or jinx things, by posting here. Beware of irony. It serves no purpose posting your views on this anonymous board, except possibly to reveal your innermost, subconcious fear of betrayal.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 17:26     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
"If I felt as you do, I would not have married him or stayed married to him. I trust my husband unconditionally. I know my man does not put himself out there nor would he conceive of doing another woman even if she offered, even if it was a free pass no-one but him would know scenario. Why? Because he has morals. Wouldn't do something like that because he knows it is wrong. He works at our issues and doesn't run from them. He may be in the minority or he may be the majority. All I know, I wouldn't be with my husband if I thought he would cheat. "

Of course you dont think he would cheat - that would make for a pretty miserable marriage if you were worried about it all the time. That said your beleiving something does not make it true. I think that all men are capable of cheating - its all about the opportunity and the risks involved.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 17:20     Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.


I call bullshit. I'm sure I could walk in stark naked with a bow tied around my hooha and my crush will not bat an eyelid, and I'm cute. Not all guys can be "got".


I'm pretty sure my DH wouldn't either.


"Pretty sure" would not be comforting to me. I honestly think it would depend on how cute PP and her hooha really are and what the perceived odds are of getting caught. Classic risk/benefit analysis. That's how men think.


Maybe your man but not my DH.

If I felt as you do, I would not have married him or stayed married to him. I trust my husband unconditionally. I know my man does not put himself out there nor would he conceive of doing another woman even if she offered, even if it was a free pass no-one but him would know scenario. Why? Because he has morals. Wouldn't do something like that because he knows it is wrong. He works at our issues and doesn't run from them. He may be in the minority or he may be the majority. All I know, I wouldn't be with my husband if I thought he would cheat.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 16:57     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Oh, it's pretty obvious, but

Signed,

A Man
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 16:56     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
This. PP, post a picture of your hooha and we'll let you know.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 16:45     Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.


I call bullshit. I'm sure I could walk in stark naked with a bow tied around my hooha and my crush will not bat an eyelid, and I'm cute. Not all guys can be "got".


I'm pretty sure my DH wouldn't either.


"Pretty sure" would not be comforting to me. I honestly think it would depend on how cute PP and her hooha really are and what the perceived odds are of getting caught. Classic risk/benefit analysis. That's how men think.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 16:39     Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.


I call bullshit. I'm sure I could walk in stark naked with a bow tied around my hooha and my crush will not bat an eyelid, and I'm cute. Not all guys can be "got".


I'm pretty sure my DH wouldn't either.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 15:15     Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.


I call bullshit. I'm sure I could walk in stark naked with a bow tied around my hooha and my crush will not bat an eyelid, and I'm cute. Not all guys can be "got".
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2012 15:07     Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Married 50+ years. We both screwed around on the side. Never had anything to do with, or had an affect our relationship. There were times and situations that arose over the last 50+ years when getting laid at that moment was really a lot of fun! No great martial crisis was ever precipitated, we didn't make a big deal over it. I just recall it felt good at the moment


Yeh, by your post I would assume you were part of the hippie dippy generation. Free love and all that. A different time and a different place than today.


Why the need to put down that PP? They found something that worked for them, seems PP is happy with the decisions, can you say the same?