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Anonymous wrote:I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

Right. Because it's all about you. How about if you grow up and then get back to us? Perhaps if your mother had done the same, she'd have reared a less self-absorbed daughter?

New poster here, but I think this is a relevant point. My mom is in her 50s now and is now having to deal with her own mother in the hospital for nearly 4 months now slowly dying. It is horrible. My mom has spent the last decade being her sole caretaker. I think it would have been ever harder to have to deal with that at a young age.

To be clear though I have nothing against older parents. I think there are pros and cons to being on the young side and the not so young side.

I got pregnant with TWINS at 46! Now 60 with teenagers.

This is a lovely long post, but I think the story is completely FAKE. Or some details are completely not true. Do not believe everything you read on the internet!

Anonymous wrote:PP are your twin the result of IVF?

And what difference does that make?

PP are your twin the result of IVF?

Anonymous wrote:I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

Right. Because it's all about you. How about if you grow up and then get back to us? Perhaps if your mother had done the same, she'd have reared a less self-absorbed daughter?

You are entitled to your opinion, but as a kid of older parents, I think there are pros and cons for both scenarios. My older brother by 10 years would agree that our parents were not equipped to deal with kids at 26, but they did a much better job at 36. I'm 44 and I have 3 yr old twins and my DH and I have the resources to give them a great childhood and be with them much more than other parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

Oh, dear. You are very young and immature. You will grow up and learn many things, including when NOT to shoot your mouth off about things you know nothing about.

I never pretended to know everything about it. I just stated my opinion that as a 23 year old I am happy my mom isn't in her 70's. Also FYI my husbands parents are older, his mother in her early 70's and dad just turned 80 and both are beginning to have some major health issues. We want to help them in every way we can, but we just don't have the resources too. If we were older and further along in our careers we would be able to help them so much more.

PP here and I don't have kids, I don't know if I ever will.

Anonymous wrote:I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

Oh, dear. You are very young and immature. You will grow up and learn many things, including when NOT to shoot your mouth off about things you know nothing about.

Anonymous wrote:I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

It obviously depends on the family. I was 46 when my twins were born. My mother passed her 80th birthday and her 11 month old twin grandsons attended. She's ecstatic. And my mother still has the same drive an energy at 80 that she did at 50. For 5 days, she had 6 of us living in her house, while another 5 stayed at a local hotel. She cooked for everyone and was still the family matriarch. She is still working. My mother and I are still best friends. After everyone else turns in, we cook together or we do projects together or we do our own thing and just talk as we do those things. We are extremely close.

Personally I don't understand how you could have a child at 23? I graduated college and traveled and hiked and did outdoors stuff like white-water rafting and rock climbing and did many things that I couldn't possibly do with a family. I was able to be young and enjoy my youth. Now, I have no regrets of things that I missed out on because I had a family. When your kids are in college, are there going to be things that you regretted that you never did when you were young?

Anonymous wrote:I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

Oh, little girl, you have a lot of growing up to do. Can't wait to see how you react when life "happens" to you.

PP...Nobody asked you...

(FWIW) it was not the choice of many on this board to wait to have kids...It is what it is....

I am another who just doesn't understand having children so late in life. I understand it must be horrible to realize you may never have kids, but it seems so selfish to have a child at 47. I'm 23 and I do all sorts of activities with my mother and we are so close because of it. I doubt she would still be able to do these activities at 73. Which is how old the OP will be when her daughter is my age. Yes the OP could live to be 100, but the chances of her having health issues are so much greater as she gets older. I am so thankful that my mother is healthy and active. How do you think your daughter is going to handle you having a stoke or heart attack before she is even out of school? Not to mention, she is also at a higher risk of health issues because you had her so old. This post is probably going to be deleted, but I just wanted to share how I feel as a 23 year old to have my mom only be in her mid 50's. There are so many things I have to handle right now, but I am so thankful an aging parent isn't one of them.

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