Anonymous wrote:As an Italian, I don't believe in serving buttered pasta - unless the kid is very ill. We hosted a playdate at our our house recently where we made homemade ravioli (squash/ricotta) and I served a big plate of sliced veggies, pickled veggies, fresh mozerella, etc, and just some fresh fruit for dessert. Pasta for lunch is very typical and does not need anything more than that. American children get a lot of protein - and anyone adding chicken to pasta - should go straight to jail.

No wonder so many Americans are overweight. Too much food.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Indian and we often serve rice or roti/paratha with a potato/root vegetable dish. I’ve had many questions about this.

But do you just serve your guests a potato or bowl of rice for lunch? One or the other, definitely not both, and just butter for sauce.

This is such a good example. Giving your guest a potato is super weird. Serving up a loaded baked potato (butter, cheese, bacon, sour cream, chives, maybe some broccoli) would actually be a meal. Buttered noodles = not a meal. Pasta with some kind of sauce = meal.

Butter cheese bacon and sour cream!?

What do you put on a loaded baked potato?

I swear this thread is so funny. I've gone from being called an almond mom because I think plain noodles for dinner is weird, but I guess my version of a loaded baked potato is too much?

I’ll take the plain baked potato thank you. I liked buttered noodles as a kid. We ate so basic growing up, so easy. No fretting over whether there was a protein at lunch time every day.

Yes, I'd rather have a plain baked potato that I can add salt and toppings than having to pick stuff off a fully loaded one.

Anonymous wrote:As an Italian, I don't believe in serving buttered pasta - unless the kid is very ill. We hosted a playdate at our our house recently where we made homemade ravioli (squash/ricotta) and I served a big plate of sliced veggies, pickled veggies, fresh mozerella, etc, and just some fresh fruit for dessert. Pasta for lunch is very typical and does not need anything more than that. American children get a lot of protein - and anyone adding chicken to pasta - should go straight to jail.

This is perfect. What you served is ideal, but for quick stop in lunch what OP served is good, probably better than what almost anyone here would serve.

Anonymous wrote:The minute someone said something like that to me would be the last time I ever offer her anything, whether food, drink, free babysitting, my time. I would fade out and disappear...and never look back.

Is this a threat? Because they don't seem like good friends anyway. OP is far too sensitive and her friend speaks her mind. Not going to work.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Indian and we often serve rice or roti/paratha with a potato/root vegetable dish. I’ve had many questions about this.

But do you just serve your guests a potato or bowl of rice for lunch? One or the other, definitely not both, and just butter for sauce.

This is such a good example. Giving your guest a potato is super weird. Serving up a loaded baked potato (butter, cheese, bacon, sour cream, chives, maybe some broccoli) would actually be a meal. Buttered noodles = not a meal. Pasta with some kind of sauce = meal.

Butter cheese bacon and sour cream!?

What do you put on a loaded baked potato?

I swear this thread is so funny. I've gone from being called an almond mom because I think plain noodles for dinner is weird, but I guess my version of a loaded baked potato is too much?

I’ll take the plain baked potato thank you. I liked buttered noodles as a kid. We ate so basic growing up, so easy. No fretting over whether there was a protein at lunch time every day.

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Anonymous wrote:As an Italian, I don't believe in serving buttered pasta - unless the kid is very ill. We hosted a playdate at our our house recently where we made homemade ravioli (squash/ricotta) and I served a big plate of sliced veggies, pickled veggies, fresh mozerella, etc, and just some fresh fruit for dessert. Pasta for lunch is very typical and does not need anything more than that. American children get a lot of protein - and anyone adding chicken to pasta - should go straight to jail.

I don't believe in people who don't believe in things that exist.

As a non-Italian, idgaf what you served at a *planned* lunch. You had ample time to put that together. OP's was spur of the moment, so nothing fancy should have been expected. Should we give up on spontaneity just because we can't make impressive meals?

Even if we had no friends over for lunch I still offer my kids carrots, tomatoes, snap peas, fruits, cheese, etc. Does OP not have those things on hand or what?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to not offer a salad or vegetable or fruit.

It's weird that people think they are entitled to things in other people's homes. You're lucky to be offered anything, you know.

OP is lucky to actually have someone take her up on the offer, she's clearly not accustomed to serving guests lunch. It cuts both ways.

wut

I truly can’t get over the outrage at one impromptu lunch.

OP going on and on about her Italian heritage is unnecessary. But seriously, who couldn’t sit through one lunch, without making a rude comment? Maybe that’s not what any of us would serve regularly. The friend could up the fruits and veggies at dinner later that day for her kids.

Everyone here goes crazy if literally one meal on one day doesn’t match their preferred way of eating. Barring allergies, eat the pasta and move on.

Anonymous wrote:Children need 1/2 their weight in protein so if they weight 80 lbs that’s 40 gas of protein which they usually can get from just 1 meal.

What kind of almondology math is that? Half of 80 lbs is 40 lbs, not 40 "gas." Do you mean grams? What kind of scientist makes a rule of thumb that mixes imperial weight units with metric units anyway?

Anonymous wrote:As an Italian, I don't believe in serving buttered pasta - unless the kid is very ill. We hosted a playdate at our our house recently where we made homemade ravioli (squash/ricotta) and I served a big plate of sliced veggies, pickled veggies, fresh mozerella, etc, and just some fresh fruit for dessert. Pasta for lunch is very typical and does not need anything more than that. American children get a lot of protein - and anyone adding chicken to pasta - should go straight to jail.

I don't believe in people who don't believe in things that exist.

As a non-Italian, idgaf what you served at a *planned* lunch. You had ample time to put that together. OP's was spur of the moment, so nothing fancy should have been expected. Should we give up on spontaneity just because we can't make impressive meals?

Children need 1/2 their weight in protein so if they weight 80 lbs that’s 40 gas of protein which they usually can get from just 1 meal.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to not offer a salad or vegetable or fruit.

It's weird that people think they are entitled to things in other people's homes. You're lucky to be offered anything, you know.

OP is lucky to actually have someone take her up on the offer, she's clearly not accustomed to serving guests lunch. It cuts both ways.

As an Italian, I don't believe in serving buttered pasta - unless the kid is very ill. We hosted a playdate at our our house recently where we made homemade ravioli (squash/ricotta) and I served a big plate of sliced veggies, pickled veggies, fresh mozerella, etc, and just some fresh fruit for dessert. Pasta for lunch is very typical and does not need anything more than that. American children get a lot of protein - and anyone adding chicken to pasta - should go straight to jail.

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Anonymous wrote:Look the question was if thew lunch guest was rude. Yes she was
If OP had served sandwiches and guest said "a cold sanwich for lunch" that would be rude.
If OP had served a big bowl of chicken and vegetable soup and guest has said "soup for lunch" that would be rude.

Exactly. The specific lunch is not important here.

Actually, not true. The OP didn't even ask a question in her original post. She said that the friend questioned the lunch and OP wrote that...

"I said yes this is what we usually have. She looked at me oddly and didn’t say anything else and ate.

But what a weird response."

So OP did not ask whether or not the guest's response was rude.

So we are free to comment on anything we'd like to.

With that said...was the guest rude? Sure. definitely odd thing to say. Was the guest correct to think that a bowl of pasta was a s--tty thing to be offered for lunch? Yes. Will the guest care if she is not invited back for a meal ever again? I highly doubt it.

The minute someone said something like that to me would be the last time I ever offer her anything, whether food, drink, free babysitting, my time. I would fade out and disappear...and never look back.