Anonymous
03/30/2026 14:50
Subject: Re:Reasonable to Ask 19YO to Cover Childcare for 5 Days?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP: Yes, these kids are my husband and I’s biological children. I asked my daughter if she’d like to babysit, and she said yes. I did tell her that she could bring a freind or too and I could ask a friend of mine to be near, and she agreed.
+1 Grim. Why can't the smart people have tons of children instead?
Anonymous
03/30/2026 14:48
Subject: Reasonable to Ask 19YO to Cover Childcare for 5 Days?
Anonymous wrote:You have too many kids for a single nanny to handle let alone to leave with your daughter for that long. You will need to hire sitters so that the kids can do things and go places, right? Are you on public transit?
Nanny is a better choice.
Anonymous
03/29/2026 00:15
Subject: Reasonable to Ask 19YO to Cover Childcare for 5 Days?
Anonymous wrote:I’m the one who posted about my parents doing this in the 70s. My older siblings have no resentment about this -/ and they didn’t get paid! OP is paying th child more than 1K per day and the kids will be in camp. This seems to me totally reasonable, and the kids might actually make some great bonding memories. With the follow up explanations this really seems to be to be no big deal. Older sibs are welling to help out. I think most people don’t understand how large families work…these teens have significant child care experience and if she’s says she’s comfortable with it, I’d believe her. It’s not a random 19 year old off the streets — she’s knows what she’s getting into.
I was a nanny for a family of 7. The two eldest (girls) have no contact with the four youngest or dad. 3rd (boy) has no contact with dad, very little with four youngest. Due to step-mother, 4th and 5th were never asked to babysit, so they’re now 19 and 21, and still in contact.
A little depends on how the older siblings were treated. If babysitting always came before everything else? It doesn’t lead to healthy relationships.
Anonymous
03/28/2026 20:56
Subject: Re:Reasonable to Ask 19YO to Cover Childcare for 5 Days?
My MIL is the oldest of 7 and she moved far, far away from the family as soon as she was able. The burden was a lot.