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Anonymous wrote:Do you mean where an average kid won’t be bottom of class? Any school below T100. Anything above that will still have students trying to go to med school, law school, etc.

WHAT? You are so tone deaf. Only a striver mom would say that schools below the top 100 don’t have students trying to go to med school, law school, etc.!! These are schools like Auburn, Loyola Marymount, Temple, University of Missouri, BYU, University of Tennessee, University of Arizona, University of South Carolina, VCU, JMU, University of Iowa, Elon, SDSU, University of Vermont, University of Alabama. All ranked below 100 and filled with smart kids aiming for law school and med school.

I live in the South and know many happy, successful professionals who have gone to Auburn, Sewanee, Alabama, USC, UTK, and lesser-known regional colleges! Unless you’re planning on teaching at Yale, working at Goldman Sachs or clerking for the Supreme Court, it really doesn’t matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you mean where an average kid won’t be bottom of class? Any school below T100. Anything above that will still have students trying to go to med school, law school, etc.

WHAT? You are so tone deaf. Only a striver mom would say that schools below the top 100 don’t have students trying to go to med school, law school, etc.!! These are schools like Auburn, Loyola Marymount, Temple, University of Missouri, BYU, University of Tennessee, University of Arizona, University of South Carolina, VCU, JMU, University of Iowa, Elon, SDSU, University of Vermont, University of Alabama. All ranked below 100 and filled with smart kids aiming for law school and med school.

Anonymous wrote:Do you mean where an average kid won’t be bottom of class? Any school below T100. Anything above that will still have students trying to go to med school, law school, etc.

Anonymous wrote:It is not a code word for Asian.

It only means "Asian" the way that people said the OK hand symbol was a racist signal and people were like "oh shit I guess they're right; can't ever use the OK symbol or maybe people will think I'm in the Wehrmacht" instead of "shut up you dummy it's not a secret code".

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anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

The term didn't used to have a negative connotation confined to one group. It simply referred to those trying to improve their lot through hard work, which wasn't looked down upon. Growing up I heard it often enough, not as a pejorative.

Are you purposely ignoring the many posts that have defined a striver. It is not someone who works hard. It is someone who does so by sucking up, constantly humble bragging about grades, and generally being annoying about school. Most people don’t do this. As I’ve said before, act like you’ve been there before. Show some grace and dignity.

The lack of awareness and self-awareness here is shocking. Which is kind of the point. All of the people who are being so defensive and melodramatic are exactly the ones I don’t want my kids going to school with. It truly is possible to work hard, have normal relationships with professors, but also to chill. And contrary to the obsessed, there are many Asian students who do this very well. And many non-Asians who are strivers.

You keep trying to normalize the slur. That says a lot about you.

You continually saying that it is a slur and I’m normalizing it says a lot about you. You are slow, stubborn and unable to demonstrate critical thinking skills. Apparently too busy striving to learn how to actually think. Which is the real point of college.

Anonymous wrote:Can you please suggest colleges for a bright person but without the rat race mentality that is still prestigious?

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anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

The term didn't used to have a negative connotation confined to one group. It simply referred to those trying to improve their lot through hard work, which wasn't looked down upon. Growing up I heard it often enough, not as a pejorative.

Are you purposely ignoring the many posts that have defined a striver. It is not someone who works hard. It is someone who does so by sucking up, constantly humble bragging about grades, and generally being annoying about school. Most people don’t do this. As I’ve said before, act like you’ve been there before. Show some grace and dignity.

The lack of awareness and self-awareness here is shocking. Which is kind of the point. All of the people who are being so defensive and melodramatic are exactly the ones I don’t want my kids going to school with. It truly is possible to work hard, have normal relationships with professors, but also to chill. And contrary to the obsessed, there are many Asian students who do this very well. And many non-Asians who are strivers.

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anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

The term didn't used to have a negative connotation confined to one group. It simply referred to those trying to improve their lot through hard work, which wasn't looked down upon. Growing up I heard it often enough, not as a pejorative.

Are you purposely ignoring the many posts that have defined a striver. It is not someone who works hard. It is someone who does so by sucking up, constantly humble bragging about grades, and generally being annoying about school. Most people don’t do this. As I’ve said before, act like you’ve been there before. Show some grace and dignity.

The lack of awareness and self-awareness here is shocking. Which is kind of the point. All of the people who are being so defensive and melodramatic are exactly the ones I don’t want my kids going to school with. It truly is possible to work hard, have normal relationships with professors, but also to chill. And contrary to the obsessed, there are many Asian students who do this very well. And many non-Asians who are strivers.

You keep trying to normalize the slur. That says a lot about you.