I love them!

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Anonymous wrote:Not talking about it at all is even stranger IMO. It’s normal to chat about what’s going on in your family’s life and normal to want to know where your kids’ friends or your friends’ kids are going. I’m interested!

And we all know why you're interested . . .

It’s not competitive. My kid wants to go to a small college that no one else in their class is interested in. There are hundreds of good colleges out there.

Anonymous wrote:Not talking about it at all is even stranger IMO. It’s normal to chat about what’s going on in your family’s life and normal to want to know where your kids’ friends or your friends’ kids are going. I’m interested!

And we all know why you're interested . . .

Not talking about it at all is even stranger IMO. It’s normal to chat about what’s going on in your family’s life and normal to want to know where your kids’ friends or your friends’ kids are going. I’m interested!

Posters do need to keep in mind that they’re living in a bubble. And that bubble is the competitive families gunning for competitive college admissions.

The large majority of people don’t live in that bubble and couldn’t care less.

So we don’t ever see social media posts by friends or family or friends’ kids announcing college admissions. It just doesn’t happen.

It’s the world you all are choosing to live in.

We lived and raised our kids in a highly desirable inner DMV suburb and sent them to a frequently lauded public high school on this board. We never discussed college admissions with any of the parents of our kids’ friends and we knew most of them since the kids were in preschool. I can still remember the parents of our youngest kid’s best friends learning for the first time where she was going to college at her small high school graduation party at our house.

It can be done.

You and the company you keep are just way too caught up in the college thing. What you don’t realize but will learn soon enough is that with rare exceptions in the end it just doesn’t matter where they go. Ten years down the road you will not be able correlate your kids’ and their friends’ professional successes and personal happiness with where they went to college. Even using our own family as an example, one of our our kids with an “elite” college degree has pretty much the same job making the same money as our kid who went to a state school that accepts nearly 90 percent of its applicants. The important thing is that they’re both very happy.

You’ll learn soon enough.

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Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

This^ while many kids can't attend even they get accepted because their parents can't afford to pay.

At our school last year 6 kids got into various Ivies. 4 ended up going to flagship, one out of state somewhere else with lots of merit. The only one who went to the Ivy was the student from a poor family who qualified for financial aid. I feel like it's pretty indicative of how things are going for Ivies with a wide divide: rich, poor and nothing in between. So when I hear someone is at an Ivy these days, or didn't go, I always think there is a huge financial piece to it.

This is stalking

Anonymous wrote:I'm not reading 14 pages, but the term COMMITTED is reserved for athletes only! Nobody cares that you "committed to Mason" to study Criminal Justice.

Unless you had conversations with multiple coaches and narrowed it down to your chosen school's team, you're not committing to anything.

Well it’s kind of crazy to use “committed” when you are full pay at a D3 and had to do the “recruiting” yourself—-paying for camps and endless highlight tapes and video messaging.

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Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

Ok that’s mean! Grandmas can be excited! That’s sweet!

Why can grandparents be excited but not parents?

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Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

This^ while many kids can't attend even they get accepted because their parents can't afford to pay.

At our school last year 6 kids got into various Ivies. 4 ended up going to flagship, one out of state somewhere else with lots of merit. The only one who went to the Ivy was the student from a poor family who qualified for financial aid. I feel like it's pretty indicative of how things are going for Ivies with a wide divide: rich, poor and nothing in between. So when I hear someone is at an Ivy these days, or didn't go, I always think there is a huge financial piece to it.

I'm not reading 14 pages, but the term COMMITTED is reserved for athletes only! Nobody cares that you "committed to Mason" to study Criminal Justice.

Unless you had conversations with multiple coaches and narrowed it down to your chosen school's team, you're not committing to anything.

My kids are both in elementary, so I have no dog in this fight but I think good things are good, and my friends and family sharing news that makes them feel happy and proud is a good thing.

I have never once thought that someone sharing this type of news is thinking, “Stop the presses…hold on to your butts…I’m about to drop the biggest, more important news of all time!!!” They’re not expecting a standing ovation or shouts of, “Incredible, unbelievable, you’re the best family EVER!”

They’re just sharing some good news. Heck, I don’t care if I don’t even know you, I’m happy for you. Complete strangers have posted on DCUM that they paid off their house, their kid got into college, or they lost 20 pounds, and I’ve been genuinely happy for them.

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Anonymous wrote:I like hearing where everyone is going and I’m proud of DS’ friends. I’ve known these kids a long time. It’s a drag that people are becoming so removed from just hearing someone else’s good news… especially with all of the constant bad news in the world right now.

+1. I always want to hear good news, who doesn’t?

+1. Happy news is welcome.

Anonymous wrote:I am getting the tripod set up for the family reaction video so we can post it all over social media!! Can't wait!!

Yesssss!!!

Locked in for HYPSM!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Who does that? My kid got into an Ovy and didn’t even put it on the school Instagram. We told family. We only let people know if they directly asked us.

An Ovy?

Oy vey!

Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

This^ while many kids can't attend even they get accepted because their parents can't afford to pay.