Anonymous
11/13/2025 14:05
Subject: Re:Dating scene at state schools
Anonymous wrote:Can we stop with this thread already? Some parents are too involved. Leave the kids alone. You're too invested.
Um, you are free to stop clicking on it.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:37
Subject: Re:Dating scene at state schools
Can we stop with this thread already? Some parents are too involved. Leave the kids alone. You're too invested.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:31
Subject: Dating scene at state schools
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t have a boyfriend in college and I had an absolute blast. I had a huge group of girlfriends. There were always guys circling, but I don’t think it was super common to “go on dates.” Maybe formals. We mostly just hooked up and hung out with guys. A few of my friends did have boyfriends, but they weren’t better off for it. One had a controlling boyfriend. The other always had to skip out on fun because she had to be with him.
Just another perspective! College is a fantastic time and having a boyfriend certainly doesn’t make it better.
+100
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:30
Subject: Dating scene at state schools
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There is nothing remotely unusual or wrong with not having a significant other during the first two months of college. It's not a problem to be solved. And if by some weird stretch it was, transferring schools would not help solve it, but would be highly disruptive in several other obvious ways.
Or throughout four years in college. Lots/most kids aren't paired up.
+1 I had a boyfriend through most of college and in retrospect, I wish I hadn’t. I should have branched out more, met lots of different kinds of people. I clung to one person I didn’t even like that much for social cover.
This is the point. I also wish I hadn’t had a serious boyfriend in college. I have very few women friends from college as a result.
Same here. I’m glad my own daughter isn’t going down that path and has a great group of friends of both sexes.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:29
Subject: Re:Dating scene at state schools
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I like the other poster's suggestion to circle back five or so years after graduation and re-explore some of these friendships to see if there might be something more.
Terrible idea. If there’s no spark, better to find out now. If there is a spark, and you waited 5 years, then you just wasted 5 years.
I disagree. Sometimes, people don't want to "ruin the friendship," and realize later that the person they were seeking was right there all along.
Aren’t you making the same point I did? They should have taken a chance and wound up with “right all along” 5 years earlier than they did.
Not the same point at all. I’d rather find out late than never even know. Especially if you have a great friendship going and don’t want to spoil it. Rediscovering someone five years later is the best of both worlds.