Anonymous wrote:Seriously curious about everyone's foot hygiene if they can't bear the thought of being in socks in someone else's home.
Anonymous wrote:Also, let people know in the invite. You could also provide shoe covers like realtors use, as a compromise? Or maybe that’s weird?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.
If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?
I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.
Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.
Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).
Removing shoes is a little more personal and is related to hygiene.
For a lot of Asians it's cultural. Yes, the origin of the cultural tradition is hygiene, but that doesn't mean it isn't cultural. The origin of a lot of religious food restrictions is health and hygiene, but you wouldn't tell a Jewish person they should eat shellfish because it's more sanitary nowadays, would you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.
We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.
Are your guest slippers single-use? Because if not that's disgusting that you expect people to wear shoes that a stranger has worn. Way grosser than letting people leave their shoes on.
Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.
We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.
This is part of why I love DCUM.
Do you know what requirement means?
I have also never been in a Canadian house in which I was asked to remove my shoes (barring the obvious removal of wet or muddy footwear, which shockingly Americans will do as well). Canadian gymnasiums will often have a pile of shoes outside the door, but about half the people inside the gym don’t bother to remove their outdoor footwear, so what’s the point?
Just typical Canadian pretending to be better than Americans while not actually doing a simple task correctly or completely.
Well I already qualified my wording, but I guess you weren’t through enough, like I wouldn’t expect you to be through enough to wipe the sidewalk dog poop off your shoes before walking on my carpets!
And people wearing their shoes in the gym are generally known to be jerks, but we accept them too. It’s rude, and we know who is who.
We’re not better. This is just simple. What do you think you’re catching WEARING SOCKS? This kind of explains why the mask this was so hard for the US and fairly simple for most of the rest of the world.
Thorough, before you leave me as an idiot.
You are one though
Thank you for your thoughtful and well constructed rebuttal. You must have been a force to be reckoned with on debate team.
No but your mom was. Why is a Canadian on this forum?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.
If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?
I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.
Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.
Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).
Anonymous wrote:After reading this, I live in a no shoes/indoor slippers house and think OP should find a way to be excused from hosting. It's not worth it.
Anonymous wrote:Yes, super weird. It’s one thing when it’s close friends or family, but this is a very diverse group of people. Just don’t host OP.
We are also a no shoe house. The kids’ friends, our close friends and family who come often, just remove their shoes on their own now. But when we have a party, I usually wet wipe the common areas / kitchen after guests leave. It’s not that tough unless you have wall to wall carpet.