Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:27
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
What are the important things she plans for midday at least some of the time? She has not actually told us.
Doesn't matter. She and the kids have expectations that something is going to happen that involves him spending time with his kids. He has an expectation that he will get a nap, no questions asked.
As a parent myself, I know which one of these has to change, but they, as a couple, need to work it out. Decide which is the priority.
And why do we have to spend 24/7 with our kids? Once you become a parent you are still a person with individual wants and needs. It's ok to relax on vacation! Try it!
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:26
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
We do know that's what OP wants, because that's what OP says. Why can't both parties compromise?
Well, she says that he demands his nap every day and it has to be 2+ hours. She could be just asking for one day of activity. The only thing we know is that he has a rigid schedule for the activity that involves only himself and it can't be adjusted.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:26
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
What are the important things she plans for midday at least some of the time? She has not actually told us.
Doesn't matter. She and the kids have expectations that something is going to happen that involves him spending time with his kids. He has an expectation that he will get a nap, no questions asked.
As a parent myself, I know which one of these has to change, but they, as a couple, need to work it out. Decide which is the priority.
Of course it matters, you just want to ignore it.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:25
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
Even parents don't have to parent 24/7. 11 and 13 year olds can occupy themselves for two hours while mom reads and dad naps.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:25
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
What are the important things she plans for midday at least some of the time? She has not actually told us.
Doesn't matter. She and the kids have expectations that something is going to happen that involves him spending time with his kids. He has an expectation that he will get a nap, no questions asked.
As a parent myself, I know which one of these has to change, but they, as a couple, need to work it out. Decide which is the priority.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:24
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
We do know that's what OP wants, because that's what OP says. Why can't both parties compromise?
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:23
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
What are the important things she plans for midday at least some of the time? She has not actually told us.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:23
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Where do you see that?
Well, I read the OP. Did you?
Yes, and the OP doesnt say anything about napping specifically during activities he doesnt like. He just naps around the same time every day. If you set your super special activity during nap time instead of an hour before or later, that's kind of on you.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:22
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:19
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that. OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:13
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
I don't disagree with that. Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps.
I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:12
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:12
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:11
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about. They aren't conjoined quadruplets.
Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job.
Anonymous
07/02/2024 16:10
Subject: Napping on vacation when you have kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents.
Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.
Where do you see that?
Well, I read the OP. Did you?
She is referring to OP’s second or third post where she posts out that her DH works without a nap and has been known to golf or have a drink without a nap.
But the PP is fiction writer.