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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

He almost immediately knocked her up. Didn’t they have a shotgun wedding?

Yes, that’s right.

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

He almost immediately knocked her up. Didn’t they have a shotgun wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing there to analyze. Ben is exactly what he appears to be - an ex alcoholic and gambler that will always struggle. Everyone wants to analyze JLo because they can’t figure out why she keeps picking losers.

+1000

Why did Jennifer Garner pick a loser? She seems like someone who knows better. I could have MAYYYYBE seen her having a starter marriage with Ben and then Garner divorcing him after a year or two, but no she cranked out three kids with him.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen this questioned a lot but it's been on my mind after reading their people article. Why do you think Ben agreed to propose and have the wedding in the first place? Shutting her up is a weak excuse.

She caught him on the rebound after Ana de Amas disappeared suddenly. He thought he had that all wrapped up but she wanted kids / to move and both were off his agenda. Jlo offered familiarity, she wasn't going to be needing any more kids and was willing to relocate back to LA. I don't think he looked past fixing his immediate loneliness and got swept up in it.

Many have said Ana and him was just a PR stunt for a movie they made together. Not sure if it ever was released. Also heard she wouldn’t do the promotion of the movie with him.

If it was just PR then he'd never have had his kids walking dogs and going on outings with her. That would be cruel.

Ultimately, Ben is the drama queen of this relationship. JL makes huge mistakes in public, but Ben stomps off and pouts and smokes and gambles and gets tattoos and stops working and looks like a slob on camera.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen this questioned a lot but it's been on my mind after reading their people article. Why do you think Ben agreed to propose and have the wedding in the first place? Shutting her up is a weak excuse.

She caught him on the rebound after Ana de Amas disappeared suddenly. He thought he had that all wrapped up but she wanted kids / to move and both were off his agenda. Jlo offered familiarity, she wasn't going to be needing any more kids and was willing to relocate back to LA. I don't think he looked past fixing his immediate loneliness and got swept up in it.

Many have said Ana and him was just a PR stunt for a movie they made together. Not sure if it ever was released. Also heard she wouldn’t do the promotion of the movie with him.

Yeah hard to know with a romance like that if it was real or not. Often I think those kind of relationships, where they meet on set, are together for a bit, then split abruptly, are sort of a combination of "real" and PR. I do think it's easy for people to fall for each other when they are filming a movie like that together, especially when the people involved are beautiful and/or magnetic, as most famous actors are. But it's also just convenient -- you're already around each other all the time, it helps build interest in the project. I think sometimes it's a weird synergy that is encouraged by managers and producers and is easy to make happen.

I will say that knowing what we now know about Ben at this stage in his life -- that relationship was NEVER going to go the distance. 15 year age difference, he's a recovering alcoholic with 3 kids and an ex-wife and clearly struggles with depression. She's mid-30s, no kids, career on the upswing, no reason whatsoever to tie herself to this man. I bet if the relationship was at all serious, every person in her life was like "girl, don't do this to yourself."

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen this questioned a lot but it's been on my mind after reading their people article. Why do you think Ben agreed to propose and have the wedding in the first place? Shutting her up is a weak excuse.

She caught him on the rebound after Ana de Amas disappeared suddenly. He thought he had that all wrapped up but she wanted kids / to move and both were off his agenda. Jlo offered familiarity, she wasn't going to be needing any more kids and was willing to relocate back to LA. I don't think he looked past fixing his immediate loneliness and got swept up in it.

Many have said Ana and him was just a PR stunt for a movie they made together. Not sure if it ever was released. Also heard she wouldn’t do the promotion of the movie with him.

Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen this questioned a lot but it's been on my mind after reading their people article. Why do you think Ben agreed to propose and have the wedding in the first place? Shutting her up is a weak excuse.

She caught him on the rebound after Ana de Amas disappeared suddenly. He thought he had that all wrapped up but she wanted kids / to move and both were off his agenda. Jlo offered familiarity, she wasn't going to be needing any more kids and was willing to relocate back to LA. I don't think he looked past fixing his immediate loneliness and got swept up in it.

Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen this questioned a lot but it's been on my mind after reading their people article. Why do you think Ben agreed to propose and have the wedding in the first place? Shutting her up is a weak excuse.

Seems like it’s his addictive personality kicking in. It’s fun and intoxicating to be infatuated with someone and so romantic to do a wedding and honeymoon. But a marriage is not the wedding and honeymoon. It’s constant compromise and settling into companionship after the honeymoon phase, and he’s clearly not equipped for that. People can blame her, but it takes two.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is the thing: He has been rich and famous for so long, as has J Lo, that they are that detached from ordinary life and the lives regular people live. They are delusional narcissists who only care about the quick thrill and, like all narcs, self-destruct.
I have no sympathy for either of them. They are pathetic losers, even with all the money and fame.
And for those that will chime that I am jealous... lol, his kids know he put his d*** into their nanny, they saw him drunk all the time, and he is in tabloids as a middle-aged gambling alcoholic putting on PDA that his kids see all the time.
And before some chime in, I just gave him an excuse due to his fame and money, eh? No to that, too. Plenty of people are rich and famous and are not narcissists like him or her, J Lo.
I have no sympathy for Honey Boo Boo's mama June.

Yeah, on the one hand they are a lot alike fundamentally and totally deserve each other. But two narcs can't live together for very long without imploding.

They should stay married, live separately like goop.

A 38,000 square foot home...they can both live in that hotel!

No because you want part of your life to be separate from the other. And you can’t just walk over to the other side because you’re lonely or drunk.

38,000 SQUARE FEET

Can't imagine having all that space and it still not being enough

Get real. If a marriage is over, it doesn't matter if you have 38,000 or 1,100 sq ft. You are ready to move on. Both of these people are going to date other people. They have kids, who know each other. That space does not mean that you want to share the same roof with your ex. They can each go buy a 19,000 sq ft house of their own.

Agree. I think if they just wanted some space they could live in the same house and live separate lives for a little while while working things out. Clearly they are moving on and ready to end the marriage.

I haven't seen this questioned a lot but it's been on my mind after reading their people article. Why do you think Ben agreed to propose and have the wedding in the first place? Shutting her up is a weak excuse.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a drunk.

Yes well take a night of drunken sex with him. Anyday.

Ah same. I feel bad about it later

lol. Maybe but probably yes.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a drunk.

Yes well take a night of drunken sex with him. Anyday.

Ah same. I feel bad about it later

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Anonymous wrote:Here is the thing: He has been rich and famous for so long, as has J Lo, that they are that detached from ordinary life and the lives regular people live. They are delusional narcissists who only care about the quick thrill and, like all narcs, self-destruct.
I have no sympathy for either of them. They are pathetic losers, even with all the money and fame.
And for those that will chime that I am jealous... lol, his kids know he put his d*** into their nanny, they saw him drunk all the time, and he is in tabloids as a middle-aged gambling alcoholic putting on PDA that his kids see all the time.
And before some chime in, I just gave him an excuse due to his fame and money, eh? No to that, too. Plenty of people are rich and famous and are not narcissists like him or her, J Lo.
I have no sympathy for Honey Boo Boo's mama June.

Yeah, on the one hand they are a lot alike fundamentally and totally deserve each other. But two narcs can't live together for very long without imploding.

They should stay married, live separately like goop.

A 38,000 square foot home...they can both live in that hotel!

No because you want part of your life to be separate from the other. And you can’t just walk over to the other side because you’re lonely or drunk.

38,000 SQUARE FEET

Can't imagine having all that space and it still not being enough

There is the size of j los ego and to consider.

Anonymous wrote:He’s a drunk.

Yes well take a night of drunken sex with him. Anyday.