Anonymous wrote:He was parking there after bad days at work. He didn’t want to tell me because knew it wasn’t fair, but also knew once he got home he’d be bombarded by life (kids mostly, but also me just wanting to catch up after the day.) He’s not upset about the tracking. I’m not upset with him. We’ve devised a plan for the next time either of us needs a break, and a code word for when either of us just needs to be left alone for a bit once he/we get home.

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Anonymous wrote:If I found out my husband was tracking my whereabouts I think we would probably have to go to therapy. I would happily tell him where I am at and if he really wants to know he can call or text.

You say tracking as if its a bad thing. I guess it depends on your relationship with technology and each other. We'd much rather have each other check the app than bother each other with a phone call or a text that might not be answered for hours. I mean unless you frequently go places you don't want your spouse to know about, but that's another problem altogether.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry to say that the one time I was in a random parking lot it was to meet someone who wasn't my spouse. Not my finest moment...

shame on you!

I'm sorry to say that the one time I was in a random parking lot it was to meet someone who wasn't my spouse. Not my finest moment...

Anonymous wrote:It's simple. Him being in a parking lot for up to an hour right after work, causing him to be late coming home which OP says is like clockwork normally, is unusual. So OP asks him what's going on. If it were me I'd text him while he was sitting there and ask if he's ok. Then if he said I just need a little time to myself to decompress before I head home I'd say, Ok! That would be the end of it.

For me to be suspicious of him I'd have to have something more than this to go on. If it all added up to he's up to something that would be different, but if this is all he's doing wrong then it's nothing.

He wasn't late

He was parking there after bad days at work. He didn’t want to tell me because knew it wasn’t fair, but also knew once he got home he’d be bombarded by life (kids mostly, but also me just wanting to catch up after the day.) He’s not upset about the tracking. I’m not upset with him. We’ve devised a plan for the next time either of us needs a break, and a code word for when either of us just needs to be left alone for a bit once he/we get home.

Anonymous wrote:His phone is in his glove compartment. AP/OW picked him up to bang one out. This way it’s in a parking lot and not a motel or her house.

Or she’s there in the car too!

^ it appears he’s in the parking lot but he’s elsewhere.

His phone is in his glove compartment. AP/OW picked him up to bang one out. This way it’s in a parking lot and not a motel or her house.

Or she’s there in the car too!

Sorry, but my ex did this…

It's simple. Him being in a parking lot for up to an hour right after work, causing him to be late coming home which OP says is like clockwork normally, is unusual. So OP asks him what's going on. If it were me I'd text him while he was sitting there and ask if he's ok. Then if he said I just need a little time to myself to decompress before I head home I'd say, Ok! That would be the end of it.

For me to be suspicious of him I'd have to have something more than this to go on. If it all added up to he's up to something that would be different, but if this is all he's doing wrong then it's nothing.

Anonymous wrote:I totally disagree with all these people who are anti-tracking as if it was a cardinal sin. Plenty of people are using location services to keep track of each other's whereabouts for reasons that are not suspicious or accusatory whatsoever. It's a simple courtesy to let your loved one's know where you are if they want or need to know. If someone doesn't like that idea you can bet there's a reason.

I agree. I don't often look to see where my DH or kids are but there have been occasions where it's been nice - like looking to see who is at home so I know who to call when I need someone to look in the pantry or feed the dogs or something.

What I DO have an issue with is OP 'confronting' her DH about being in a parking lot. I'm someone who, on occassion will just sit in my car someplace it's unlikely anyone will come up to me. I just want some time to myself without a phone ringing, a text pinging, someone talking to me, etc. I just want to be alone. If my DH were to 'confront' me about it, it would feel like another example of me being made to feel like I have to justify my time and why I deserve to have time to myself. More than anyone in the family, I set aside my wants/needs in order to meet someone else's - and now you're expecting me to be accountable to you?!

Anonymous wrote:I totally disagree with all these people who are anti-tracking as if it was a cardinal sin. Plenty of people are using location services to keep track of each other's whereabouts for reasons that are not suspicious or accusatory whatsoever. It's a simple courtesy to let your loved one's know where you are if they want or need to know. If someone doesn't like that idea you can bet there's a reason.

Agree. NBD.

If I found out my husband was tracking my whereabouts I think we would probably have to go to therapy. I would happily tell him where I am at and if he really wants to know he can call or text.

Please tell me why you need to know where your spouse is. Every second of every day and how that is not creepy and stalking

I totally disagree with all these people who are anti-tracking as if it was a cardinal sin. Plenty of people are using location services to keep track of each other's whereabouts for reasons that are not suspicious or accusatory whatsoever. It's a simple courtesy to let your loved one's know where you are if they want or need to know. If someone doesn't like that idea you can bet there's a reason.