I am Team Husband. And glad someone didn’t drink the kook aid

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the best and most obvious reasons for you son to got to Yale is that he got into Yale. Having gotten into Yale is an instant distinction in world where you don't always get the chance to explain or demonstrate how talented and hard working you are. At least not in the first 5 minutes.
If I am told that someone graduated from Yale, I immediately know (ok, suspect) they are pretty special. Someone who graduated from Penn State may be special too, but "got into Penn State" doesn't tell me that.

Shouldn't we be spending more than 5 minutes with someone, whether in an interview or at a cocktail party, before forming an opinion about them as a person?

The special comment made me laugh so hard. Then remembered it is 4/20 and assume the poster was celebrating

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

This is the best DCUM thing I’ve heard since DCUM clued me into COSTCO’s brand pesto sauce about 5 years ago. Really great to hear OP - and much better than a divorce or resentful kid. Congrats.

Now that this family's college decision has been settled, we can finally move on

Is Costco pesto sauce really all that? Would you say it's like the Yale of pesto sauces? Worth the premium? Husband says no

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

This is the best DCUM thing I’ve heard since DCUM clued me into COSTCO’s brand pesto sauce about 5 years ago. Really great to hear OP - and much better than a divorce or resentful kid. Congrats.

Best DCUM news in a while. Why is this so satisfying when it's not even my kid? Kist happy for the kid who deserves it.

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

I’m so glad to hear it!! Will he be able to go to Bulldog Days ( next week I think?) to celebrate his choice? My dd is just about halfway through her time there. It’s a huge stretch for us to send her but honestly it feels so worthwhile to me. The opportunities there just seem endless, so many ways to build community, her classes have excited and motivated her, and that campus just takes my breath away every time I’m there. I went to another highly regarded school for undergrad and there’s really no comparison between her experience and mine, hers is just worlds apart and so much better. I hope he loves it. If you can, come to family weekend in October and go to Salovey’s (university president) address for parents. It might help your husband in his journey to feeling good about this decision. Boola boola!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

OP: Please share an update after your son completes his first year at Yale University.

Interested in an update from multiple perspectives: student, father, and mother.

I hope OP gives us an update.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

OP: Please share an update after your son completes his first year at Yale University.

Interested in an update from multiple perspectives: student, father, and mother.

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

OP: Please share an update after your son completes his first year at Yale University.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the best and most obvious reasons for you son to got to Yale is that he got into Yale. Having gotten into Yale is an instant distinction in world where you don't always get the chance to explain or demonstrate how talented and hard working you are. At least not in the first 5 minutes.
If I am told that someone graduated from Yale, I immediately know (ok, suspect) they are pretty special. Someone who graduated from Penn State may be special too, but "got into Penn State" doesn't tell me that.

Shouldn't we be spending more than 5 minutes with someone, whether in an interview or at a cocktail party, before forming an opinion about them as a person?

Usually 30 seconds to a minute is sufficient to form an initial impression. Tough to change first impressions.

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

Congrats, so exciting for DS!

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

That first line had me laughing and cheering! Congrats to the whole family.

OP here with an update - DS is going to Yale, and DH is going to therapy!

Husband is not wholeheartedly behind the decision, I think part of him still has a hard time grasping what is it exactly our son will get for 35k more a year at Yale that he can’t get at Penn State BUT he has agreed so that’s progress and good enough for now. DS is, of course, thrilled and so am I!

Thank you all for your input, much appreciated 😊

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the best and most obvious reasons for you son to got to Yale is that he got into Yale. Having gotten into Yale is an instant distinction in world where you don't always get the chance to explain or demonstrate how talented and hard working you are. At least not in the first 5 minutes.
If I am told that someone graduated from Yale, I immediately know (ok, suspect) they are pretty special. Someone who graduated from Penn State may be special too, but "got into Penn State" doesn't tell me that.

Shouldn't we be spending more than 5 minutes with someone, whether in an interview or at a cocktail party, before forming an opinion about them as a person?

Of course, but the world doesn't always give you more than 5 minutes.

Anonymous wrote:One of the best and most obvious reasons for you son to got to Yale is that he got into Yale. Having gotten into Yale is an instant distinction in world where you don't always get the chance to explain or demonstrate how talented and hard working you are. At least not in the first 5 minutes.
If I am told that someone graduated from Yale, I immediately know (ok, suspect) they are pretty special. Someone who graduated from Penn State may be special too, but "got into Penn State" doesn't tell me that.

Shouldn't we be spending more than 5 minutes with someone, whether in an interview or at a cocktail party, before forming an opinion about them as a person?