Anonymous wrote:I think it's important that we all remember that we are not the main character in other people's lives.

We did something similar once. We were considering moving across the country, pending DH getting a job offer in the desired city. In the meantime, we didn't tell anyone we were considering the move because there was nothing to tell. He did get an offer, and within 2 weeks we were packed up and gone. We told plenty of people, but not absolutely everyone we knew.

IMO OP's text put the friend on the defensive. Rather than seeking information, it definitely held a hint of accusation. "I'm SUCH a good friend, I even want to send you a housewarming gift, and you couldn't even be arsed to tell me you moved!" I can completely understand just not having the emotional energy to deal with the disappointment. If OP had just texted something honest like, "Hey, I just hear you moved to Wisconsin, is that true? I can't believe you never mentioned anything!" she'd have likely gotten a warmed, more honest response in return.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine moved to Wisconsin last year with her oldest son and youngest daughter because her son was getting mixed up with a rough crowd and they didn’t want him to continue down that path. Their kids are biracial and they were worried about their teenage son being profiled especially if he was caught up with kids doing illicit things.
So they moved back to her parents in rural Wisconsin where her kids are the only non-white kids there because they thought that would be better but it presented a ton of challenges I’m not sure they anticipated. Other kid and dad stayed because dad had to for work and other kid didn’t want to move.
I think a year and a half in the kids are somewhat adjusted but I could see my friend not telling some people who she wasn’t really close with because it is a pretty personal story.

...that is now posted on the Internet.

Op, I hope you are able to let your friend know you care.

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine moved to Wisconsin last year with her oldest son and youngest daughter because her son was getting mixed up with a rough crowd and they didn’t want him to continue down that path. Their kids are biracial and they were worried about their teenage son being profiled especially if he was caught up with kids doing illicit things.
So they moved back to her parents in rural Wisconsin where her kids are the only non-white kids there because they thought that would be better but it presented a ton of challenges I’m not sure they anticipated. Other kid and dad stayed because dad had to for work and other kid didn’t want to move.
I think a year and a half in the kids are somewhat adjusted but I could see my friend not telling some people who she wasn’t really close with because it is a pretty personal story.

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Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.

But OP isn’t some dude that she dated a few times and is now stalking her. She is also a woman, and a mom, and they hung out frequently and their kids were friends. It’s not being a stalker to be like “my daughter said you moved! We miss you guys- that seemed sudden!” and SUPER WEIRD of her friend to just respond “lol”.

It’s not super weird — it’s making it crystal clear she does not value OP’s “friendship” and OP needs to take a freaking hint. It is literally no different than a creeper guy texting over and over. Stop and back off. Asking for the new address is so creepy. You are NOT her friend. Leave her alone.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.

But OP isn’t some dude that she dated a few times and is now stalking her. She is also a woman, and a mom, and they hung out frequently and their kids were friends. It’s not being a stalker to be like “my daughter said you moved! We miss you guys- that seemed sudden!” and SUPER WEIRD of her friend to just respond “lol”.

It’s not super weird — it’s making it crystal clear she does not value OP’s “friendship” and OP needs to take a freaking hint. It is literally no different than a creeper guy texting over and over. Stop and back off. Asking for the new address is so creepy. You are NOT her friend. Leave her alone.

DP - did you read the OP’s history with this woman? Whatever’s going on, it’s the woman who moved who is acting strange, not the OP.

“Dude, you should have seen the way she looked at me on our two dates. She wants me. Trust me. Just playing hard to get.”

You nutters need to take a hint. And OP is obviously from a biased POV. Of course OP would never admit this isn’t a real friendship and it’s totally one-sided. Ego and no self awareness, so also creepy men quote above.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.

But OP isn’t some dude that she dated a few times and is now stalking her. She is also a woman, and a mom, and they hung out frequently and their kids were friends. It’s not being a stalker to be like “my daughter said you moved! We miss you guys- that seemed sudden!” and SUPER WEIRD of her friend to just respond “lol”.

It’s not super weird — it’s making it crystal clear she does not value OP’s “friendship” and OP needs to take a freaking hint. It is literally no different than a creeper guy texting over and over. Stop and back off. Asking for the new address is so creepy. You are NOT her friend. Leave her alone.

DP - did you read the OP’s history with this woman? Whatever’s going on, it’s the woman who moved who is acting strange, not the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.

But OP isn’t some dude that she dated a few times and is now stalking her. She is also a woman, and a mom, and they hung out frequently and their kids were friends. It’s not being a stalker to be like “my daughter said you moved! We miss you guys- that seemed sudden!” and SUPER WEIRD of her friend to just respond “lol”.

It’s not super weird — it’s making it crystal clear she does not value OP’s “friendship” and OP needs to take a freaking hint. It is literally no different than a creeper guy texting over and over. Stop and back off. Asking for the new address is so creepy. You are NOT her friend. Leave her alone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.

But OP isn’t some dude that she dated a few times and is now stalking her. She is also a woman, and a mom, and they hung out frequently and their kids were friends. It’s not being a stalker to be like “my daughter said you moved! We miss you guys- that seemed sudden!” and SUPER WEIRD of her friend to just respond “lol”.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.

But OP isn’t some dude that she dated a few times and is now stalking her. She is also a woman, and a mom, and they hung out frequently and their kids were friends. It’s not being a stalker to be like “my daughter said you moved! We miss you guys- that seemed sudden!” and SUPER WEIRD of her friend to just respond “lol”.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We dealt with something like this recently, except it was the opposite situation: we were scheduled to move for an amazing job opportunity overseas, told everyone & started preparing, and then the job opportunity was canceled about 4 weeks before our scheduled move. It was so demoralizing. At first, we didn’t even really tell anyone except family. And then word started trickling out and then I had to repeat the same story 100x over the next 4 months.

It really sucked, but it actually worked out for the best for our family. Sigh.

Give her space. She’s probably going thru something traumatic.

Oh not. Maybe just maybe she just does not consider OP a friend. And is actually a bit weirded out by OP. But OP and people like OP create these crazy scenarios in their head to protect their ego and rationalize the continued prodding of someone who doesn’t want to speak with them. Like a creepy guy who tells himself she’s just playing hard to get as he continues texting and calling over and over.