Anonymous
01/13/2023 16:37
Subject: Re:Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:A lot of this can be summed up as "know your audience."
I think if you are on social media mostly with people at your same SES level, the travel pics can simply be a way of sharing what you are up to and yes, a good way to get ideas for where to go. This especially applies if you are relatively high SES, most of your contacts are too, and you are mostly just connected to friends and family on social media. It's a somewhat closed setting where everyone is mostly on the same page and if people in this setup are competitive or jealous about it, that really on them.
But some people have much larger and more diverse social media networks, use Facebook and Instagram for work networking, connect to neighbors and other families at a diverse public schools etc. I think if you do this, you have to edit your posts a big more and consider that many of the people who view your posts might not have the same opportunities to travel. It's just practical. You might think your best friends and school classmates will be delighted to see your trip to Patagonia or Tahiti or whatever. But your kid's classmates parents who are scraping by just to afford a rental IB for your good public school will likely be less enthusiastic about it. It's not a personal failing if they experience jealousy or resentment in that situation. And yes, they can always just mute you if it bothers them. But you could also just have some self-awareness.
As a general rule, I think it's obnoxious to share a lot of info about travel or other conspicuous consumption with people who don't have as much money as you. It doesn't mean hide it, but maybe don't detail all the very expensive restaurants you went to or hotels you stayed at or namecheck the very high end cruise company or whatever. I have seen people do these things in "mixed company" if you will, and I think it's tacky. And I say that as someone pretty well off who travels a lot.
Know your audience.
This is impossible and ridiculous advice. Tons of people follow me that I know casually and never stopped. You should post what you want to post and own it. Period. There are people in life with more money, choose to spend more $ on travel, etc. People with money get found out about by the way. There's only so much you can "hide". I happily post tasteful photos of various travel with DH and DC. Do I always tag that we're at the four seasons? No. It's not about "LOOK HOW MUCH MONEY I HAVE", it's about having a good time and sharing it. I often get a great response. You gotta own your life and not be ashamed.
People who are "scraping by just to afford a rental IB for your good public school" know there are wealthier people out there. If they have that much class warfare or it makes them feel bad about themselves, then THEY should stop following on social media.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 16:09
Subject: Re:Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:A lot of this can be summed up as "know your audience."
I think if you are on social media mostly with people at your same SES level, the travel pics can simply be a way of sharing what you are up to and yes, a good way to get ideas for where to go. This especially applies if you are relatively high SES, most of your contacts are too, and you are mostly just connected to friends and family on social media. It's a somewhat closed setting where everyone is mostly on the same page and if people in this setup are competitive or jealous about it, that really on them.
But some people have much larger and more diverse social media networks, use Facebook and Instagram for work networking, connect to neighbors and other families at a diverse public schools etc. I think if you do this, you have to edit your posts a big more and consider that many of the people who view your posts might not have the same opportunities to travel. It's just practical. You might think your best friends and school classmates will be delighted to see your trip to Patagonia or Tahiti or whatever. But your kid's classmates parents who are scraping by just to afford a rental IB for your good public school will likely be less enthusiastic about it. It's not a personal failing if they experience jealousy or resentment in that situation. And yes, they can always just mute you if it bothers them. But you could also just have some self-awareness.
As a general rule, I think it's obnoxious to share a lot of info about travel or other conspicuous consumption with people who don't have as much money as you. It doesn't mean hide it, but maybe don't detail all the very expensive restaurants you went to or hotels you stayed at or namecheck the very high end cruise company or whatever. I have seen people do these things in "mixed company" if you will, and I think it's tacky. And I say that as someone pretty well off who travels a lot.
Know your audience.
That’s a rather paternalistic and judgmental view based on assumptions.
I’m not rich, but I allocate a big percentage of my resources to travel.
I have friends and family who have less disposable income than I do, yet they take nice vacations (and post).
Interestingly, some of my more affluent friends and family rarely travel and have made snide remarks about how nice it must be to travel. Some have invested their disposable income in nice houses/things, private school, etc. or are likely prioritizing things like organic everything or saving for retirement. Others have vacation homes but don’t really travel elsewhere.
Instead of making assumptions of your audience, why not simply recognize social media for what it is? I post travel pics without text. Just pics. No clue what else I would post beyond pics every now and then.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 15:26
Subject: Re:Travel on Social Media
It’s remarkable how many people on this dumpster fire of a forum profess to have perfectly healthy, balanced relationships with social media.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 15:15
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I enjoy seeing others' travel photos. Gives me ideas for where I want to go nextI occasionally will post a few photos of my own trips, but only if I think it's something particularly interesting/funny/beautiful.
Do you think your subconscious thought process is more “I want to go to that place?” Or “I want to be more like that person?”
You clearly either need a social circle or just aren't that close with anyone
Huh? It was a genuine question. I guess I was wondering if someone I don’t like posted pictures of a nice place, would it make me less likely to want to go there because I would have a negative association with it. I guess I’ve become interested in places based on other people’s pictures, but it’s always people I really like in real life, and I think I’m probably reacting more to how much fun it looks like they’re having rather than the scenery itself, if I’m perfohonest with myself.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 15:12
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I enjoy seeing others' travel photos. Gives me ideas for where I want to go next
Do you think your subconscious thought process is more “I want to go to that place?” Or “I want to be more like that person?”
I'm the PP you responded to. That's such a weird question. I'm happy with my life, travel a fair amount, so no, I don't want to be another person.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 15:03
Subject: Re:Travel on Social Media
A lot of this can be summed up as "know your audience."
I think if you are on social media mostly with people at your same SES level, the travel pics can simply be a way of sharing what you are up to and yes, a good way to get ideas for where to go. This especially applies if you are relatively high SES, most of your contacts are too, and you are mostly just connected to friends and family on social media. It's a somewhat closed setting where everyone is mostly on the same page and if people in this setup are competitive or jealous about it, that really on them.
But some people have much larger and more diverse social media networks, use Facebook and Instagram for work networking, connect to neighbors and other families at a diverse public schools etc. I think if you do this, you have to edit your posts a big more and consider that many of the people who view your posts might not have the same opportunities to travel. It's just practical. You might think your best friends and school classmates will be delighted to see your trip to Patagonia or Tahiti or whatever. But your kid's classmates parents who are scraping by just to afford a rental IB for your good public school will likely be less enthusiastic about it. It's not a personal failing if they experience jealousy or resentment in that situation. And yes, they can always just mute you if it bothers them. But you could also just have some self-awareness.
As a general rule, I think it's obnoxious to share a lot of info about travel or other conspicuous consumption with people who don't have as much money as you. It doesn't mean hide it, but maybe don't detail all the very expensive restaurants you went to or hotels you stayed at or namecheck the very high end cruise company or whatever. I have seen people do these things in "mixed company" if you will, and I think it's tacky. And I say that as someone pretty well off who travels a lot.
Know your audience.
I think if you are on social media mostly with people at your same SES level, the travel pics can simply be a way of sharing what you are up to and yes, a good way to get ideas for where to go. This especially applies if you are relatively high SES, most of your contacts are too, and you are mostly just connected to friends and family on social media. It's a somewhat closed setting where everyone is mostly on the same page and if people in this setup are competitive or jealous about it, that really on them.
But some people have much larger and more diverse social media networks, use Facebook and Instagram for work networking, connect to neighbors and other families at a diverse public schools etc. I think if you do this, you have to edit your posts a big more and consider that many of the people who view your posts might not have the same opportunities to travel. It's just practical. You might think your best friends and school classmates will be delighted to see your trip to Patagonia or Tahiti or whatever. But your kid's classmates parents who are scraping by just to afford a rental IB for your good public school will likely be less enthusiastic about it. It's not a personal failing if they experience jealousy or resentment in that situation. And yes, they can always just mute you if it bothers them. But you could also just have some self-awareness.
As a general rule, I think it's obnoxious to share a lot of info about travel or other conspicuous consumption with people who don't have as much money as you. It doesn't mean hide it, but maybe don't detail all the very expensive restaurants you went to or hotels you stayed at or namecheck the very high end cruise company or whatever. I have seen people do these things in "mixed company" if you will, and I think it's tacky. And I say that as someone pretty well off who travels a lot.
Know your audience.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 14:55
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I enjoy seeing others' travel photos. Gives me ideas for where I want to go next
Do you think your subconscious thought process is more “I want to go to that place?” Or “I want to be more like that person?”
You clearly either need a social circle or just aren't that close with anyone
Anonymous
01/13/2023 14:53
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:I love seeing other people’s travel pics. It gives me ideas.
100%. I love seeing families on vacations at various spots and I immediately message them about their experience and if they recommend it. It's great, unfiltered, candid dialogue that is majorly lacking in travel blogs and websites.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 14:51
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:PSA: if you don’t think travel pictures are worthy of posting on social media—then what do you think is worth posting?
FWIW, I prefer travel pics to anniversary pics or food pics. Birthday pics are fine, but they really aren’t as interesting as seeing travel pics.
If the haters simply hate everything on social media, then I don’t see how their opinion matters. Social media isn’t mandatory. People who enjoy it would seemingly enjoy travel pics.
Yes, I prefer travel pics to reposts of random crap or workout or food pics. I have a friend who posts everything in her entire life. Her life is not very interesting. It is kind of sad actually.
Exactly. Travel posts are actually interesting to many of us. If you are too virtuous for social media, then your issue is with social media and not the travel pictures. Please don’t pretend that you all have found the hack to enjoying vacations mindfully or whatever. People can share a picture or two and still enjoy their vacations.
+1. People are taking this way too seriously. It majorly depends on the person. If you are boastful and competitive in life, that is how you come across on social media. If you don't have that reputation and are generally enjoying life, you aren't perceived that way (minus the group of people on this thread who perceive EVERYTHING that way)
I love posting on instagram and the feedback has been great. I've had fantastic recommendations on things to see, do & stay, comments from old friends and people I haven't heard from in awhile, I've even connected with my old college roommate because we realized we were in the same city one time. It wouldn't have happened otherwise!
I've had bartenders and small business owners thank me for the shout outs. I've randomly connected with various people I know (and many I don't) about different places, events, etc because of postings.
If you don't like it, scroll past...!!
Anonymous
01/13/2023 13:06
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:PSA: if you don’t think travel pictures are worthy of posting on social media—then what do you think is worth posting?
FWIW, I prefer travel pics to anniversary pics or food pics. Birthday pics are fine, but they really aren’t as interesting as seeing travel pics.
If the haters simply hate everything on social media, then I don’t see how their opinion matters. Social media isn’t mandatory. People who enjoy it would seemingly enjoy travel pics.
Yes, I prefer travel pics to reposts of random crap or workout or food pics. I have a friend who posts everything in her entire life. Her life is not very interesting. It is kind of sad actually.
I asked the bolded question several pages back and no one answered, which leads me to believe that folks' issue here is with social media in general. (Well, other than the one wackadoodle poster who is offended by family getaways to the beach and other such horrors.) Nobody has convincingly explained to me why post about kids doing x, y, z at home = ok, but post of kids playing on beach on vacation = bad.
Maybe it has to do with what reaction you're hoping for. It seems some people post pictures because they're inviting envy, whether picture of kids at home or travel. The travel pics can be more annoying "look at the beautiful fun vacation I was able to take that you can't afford or while you were home or working". Let's be honest, some people really are trying to show off their wealth and privilege.
Not everyone but some.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 12:11
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:PSA: if you don’t think travel pictures are worthy of posting on social media—then what do you think is worth posting?
FWIW, I prefer travel pics to anniversary pics or food pics. Birthday pics are fine, but they really aren’t as interesting as seeing travel pics.
If the haters simply hate everything on social media, then I don’t see how their opinion matters. Social media isn’t mandatory. People who enjoy it would seemingly enjoy travel pics.
Yes, I prefer travel pics to reposts of random crap or workout or food pics. I have a friend who posts everything in her entire life. Her life is not very interesting. It is kind of sad actually.
I asked the bolded question several pages back and no one answered, which leads me to believe that folks' issue here is with social media in general. (Well, other than the one wackadoodle poster who is offended by family getaways to the beach and other such horrors.) Nobody has convincingly explained to me why post about kids doing x, y, z at home = ok, but post of kids playing on beach on vacation = bad.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 09:43
Subject: Travel on Social Media
I love seeing other people’s travel pics. It gives me ideas.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 09:34
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Do what makes you happy. Others can scroll on by.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 09:30
Subject: Re:Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Everyone - no one is saying don't take pictures to capture the memories for yourself and your family or friends who were on vacation with you. But there is a subset of people who take pictures in addition or mostly, for an outside audience, for people who were not on vacation with you. The latter is what some of us are challenging. The title of the post is travel on social media. Not photography on travels.
But some people are acting like if you ever post a single photo of a vacation to social media, you are destroying your travel by "focusing" on how it looks on social media. And we are saying that we don't take these pictures FOR social media, we take the pictures for ourselves and then occasionally decide to share one or two on social media.
I do know what you are talking about, with the people who document each of their trips on Facebook or Instagram, and who are clearly taking photos for the express purpose of showing people on social media aspects of their trip. I have my pet peeves around this too. I dislike when people post airplane photos because (1) it's inherently uninteresting unless this is literally their first time on an airplane and usually it's not, and (2) nine times out of ten, people do this so you can see that they are sitting in business class or first class, which is absolutely shameless bragging. I also find it boring when people post very generic family photos that I've seen a million other families also post, like the family in mouse ears in front of Sleeping Beauty's castle at Disney, or the Eiffel Tower photo. In the last 5-6 years I've seen a lot of people posting photos of their families all in lederhosen at Oktoberfest also, to the point where it feels generic. I don't know why those annoy me but they do. I have done most of those things but would never post that specific photo because it really does feel generic to me.
Anonymous
01/13/2023 09:17
Subject: Travel on Social Media
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:PSA: if you don’t think travel pictures are worthy of posting on social media—then what do you think is worth posting?
FWIW, I prefer travel pics to anniversary pics or food pics. Birthday pics are fine, but they really aren’t as interesting as seeing travel pics.
If the haters simply hate everything on social media, then I don’t see how their opinion matters. Social media isn’t mandatory. People who enjoy it would seemingly enjoy travel pics.
Yes, I prefer travel pics to reposts of random crap or workout or food pics. I have a friend who posts everything in her entire life. Her life is not very interesting. It is kind of sad actually.
Exactly. Travel posts are actually interesting to many of us. If you are too virtuous for social media, then your issue is with social media and not the travel pictures. Please don’t pretend that you all have found the hack to enjoying vacations mindfully or whatever. People can share a picture or two and still enjoy their vacations.