Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 17:29     Subject: Re:To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I could care less about younger moms. But if they bother you just remember they tend to be sheltered and narrow-minded. They don't have time to realize what they missed. They may wake up and figure it out. Most of those young moms with a lot of kids are zero fun to be around as well.They have nothing to add to most conversations (unless it is around kids) and they are too one-dimensional. Their loss certainly not yours.


I had 3 kids in my thirties (last kid at 38). I don’t consider myself a young mom. I went to grad school, had a career, traveled, parties and lived before having my first child. We aren’t exactly teen moms here.

OP doesn’t like that smug attitude she thinks these women who lucked out in timing and fertility. Almost every single family we know has 2-3 kids by age 35. I had 2 kids by 35 as did everyone else. It is pretty common to have kids before you hit advanced maternal age.


Me again. I just attended a birthday party today and parents were in their thirties or forties. I don’t think anyone cares or knows how old people are. I’m older because this was my youngest child. I talked to plenty of moms today. I was probably one of the oldest moms since I also have a teen. I talked to almost everyone at the party.

If you take care of yourself and are fun and friendly, I don’t think anyone would even know you are older.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 17:25     Subject: Re:To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:I could care less about younger moms. But if they bother you just remember they tend to be sheltered and narrow-minded. They don't have time to realize what they missed. They may wake up and figure it out. Most of those young moms with a lot of kids are zero fun to be around as well.They have nothing to add to most conversations (unless it is around kids) and they are too one-dimensional. Their loss certainly not yours.


I had 3 kids in my thirties (last kid at 38). I don’t consider myself a young mom. I went to grad school, had a career, traveled, parties and lived before having my first child. We aren’t exactly teen moms here.

OP doesn’t like that smug attitude she thinks these women who lucked out in timing and fertility. Almost every single family we know has 2-3 kids by age 35. I had 2 kids by 35 as did everyone else. It is pretty common to have kids before you hit advanced maternal age.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 13:10     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
PP here. I only met one other mom my age. I was I’m a mom’s club and kids were in tons of tot activities. There just aren’t that many twenty something moms in the DC area.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 13:08     Subject: Re:To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
OP - I met DH at 27 and had 2 kids by 33. I’ve been a SAHM for 19 years. With my first kid, everyone assumed I was hired help. All of the other moms in this area are older. They had a lot more self confidence than me and seemed to know what they were doing. I definitely wasn’t looking down on them, instead looked to them for advice.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 13:02     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Fascinating reading these crazy posts. I feel like Jane Goodall.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:45     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here - Hi op! I understand what you are saying because I see this everyday, however you must know these women aren’t actually doing the work. They show up for pick up and drop off, make an appearance, and then do nothing the rest of the day. I’m the one raising the 3 kids for 60-70 hours a week. Please don’t feel bad, because most of these women don’t actually do the work and are missing out on relationships with their kids.


All moms of 3 before age 35 don’t work?? Yet moms of 2 before age 35 do, or moms of 3 before age 36? Where are these stereotypes coming from?


I didn’t say moms? The moms I see, because I’m a nanny, who works for wealthy stay at home moms.


You said you understand what OP is saying. OP didn’t post here about wealthy stay at home moms who use a nanny. Her post is about moms of 3 under age 35.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:43     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here - Hi op! I understand what you are saying because I see this everyday, however you must know these women aren’t actually doing the work. They show up for pick up and drop off, make an appearance, and then do nothing the rest of the day. I’m the one raising the 3 kids for 60-70 hours a week. Please don’t feel bad, because most of these women don’t actually do the work and are missing out on relationships with their kids.


All moms of 3 before age 35 don’t work?? Yet moms of 2 before age 35 do, or moms of 3 before age 36? Where are these stereotypes coming from?


I didn’t say moms? The moms I see, because I’m a nanny, who works for wealthy stay at home moms.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:41     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here - Hi op! I understand what you are saying because I see this everyday, however you must know these women aren’t actually doing the work. They show up for pick up and drop off, make an appearance, and then do nothing the rest of the day. I’m the one raising the 3 kids for 60-70 hours a week. Please don’t feel bad, because most of these women don’t actually do the work and are missing out on relationships with their kids.


All moms of 3 before age 35 don’t work?? Yet moms of 2 before age 35 do, or moms of 3 before age 36? Where are these stereotypes coming from?
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:41     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:I did this and don’t think I have ever been smug. You know who has been smug to me? Moms who had their kids and 39 and 41 - treating me like a teen mom even though I was a married homeowning lawyer before my first kid.

Point is: smug people are smug. Life choices don’t make them that way; they just are that way.


THIS!!
Can't say it any better than this poster.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:40     Subject: Re:To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:I could care less about younger moms. But if they bother you just remember they tend to be sheltered and narrow-minded. They don't have time to realize what they missed. They may wake up and figure it out. Most of those young moms with a lot of kids are zero fun to be around as well.They have nothing to add to most conversations (unless it is around kids) and they are too one-dimensional. Their loss certainly not yours.


This isn’t a post about younger moms tho - it’s a random generalization of women who had three kids under 35. There’s just no comparison between a teen mom and a woman who had kids in her thirties.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:38     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Nanny here - Hi op! I understand what you are saying because I see this everyday, however you must know these women aren’t actually doing the work. They show up for pick up and drop off, make an appearance, and then do nothing the rest of the day. I’m the one raising the 3 kids for 60-70 hours a week. Please don’t feel bad, because most of these women don’t actually do the work and are missing out on relationships with their kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:36     Subject: Re:To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
I could care less about younger moms. But if they bother you just remember they tend to be sheltered and narrow-minded. They don't have time to realize what they missed. They may wake up and figure it out. Most of those young moms with a lot of kids are zero fun to be around as well.They have nothing to add to most conversations (unless it is around kids) and they are too one-dimensional. Their loss certainly not yours.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:29     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:I will never, ever be jealous of people with 3+ kids. Can’t imagine feeling jealous of overbreeders.


Some people think anyone who has a kid in this world of climate change is an overbreeder. You can’t live your life worried about the negative terms others might apply to you - I certainly don’t.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:15     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
I will never, ever be jealous of people with 3+ kids. Can’t imagine feeling jealous of overbreeders.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2023 12:14     Subject: To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They are still pretty young OP, they will be much less smug at 45.


Yep and middle aged, divorced and broke (or constantly suing ex spouse for more $$$). Life is long and will take unexpected turns. Add in possible health problems.


I’m 45 and have 3 kids. Oldest is now in high school. Youngest is six. Young moms don’t bother me. I used to be one.

It is like when you start college or a first job and you are confident and excited. The young moms are happy and eager to do play dates. I made many friends during this new mom phase of my life.