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Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

OP here. We can afford both. I feel that weekly housekeeping is excessive. My wife doesn't want our child in preschool because she has trust issues. She would be okay with our child going to a public PreK, but that's not an option where we live. She feels the YMCA is the next best thing to regular preschool. I wasn't aware of any of this until today. She wants to hold onto him a while longer. She's terrified of school shootings. I suggested getting rid of a weekly housekeeper because I don't feel like we need it every week. My wife is OCD. The private preschool I have looked at is Montessori, and they are expensive.

Anonymous wrote:I think both spouses should pitch in for housework, if you can’t then hire help to pitch in for you.

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You DO NOT play/read/engage with your child for a solid 8 hours per day.

I absolutely do, she’s awake from 6:30-8 and only naps for two hours.

But even if I didn’t, that wouldn’t mean the next best use of my time would be housework. When she naps I exercise and read. Both my physical and intellectual health are more important than my washing a floor. After she goes to bed my husband and I spend time together— our relationship health is much more important than my folding towels.

Our house is clean and hygienic because we have a housekeeper. My home is healthy and loving because we don’t care whether the clothes are ironed by the same person who reads to the toddler.

You aren't telling the truth.

For as progressive as women are supposed to be now, listening to a bunch of women that do not hold a job outside of caring for their own child inside their own home say they incapable of doing simple adult/home owner tasks at the same time is just sad. When/If you ever worked an office job you are expected to multiple different work tasks during the day including keeping your workspace tidy. How is this not a reasonable expectation in your own home? You are also saying that the WOHP contribute to childcare and housework when they are not working otherwise they aren't pulling their weight in the relationship? How do the women that provide childcare in their home for others handle making sure the house and clean and tidy during the day? Isn't there some expectation that a hired nanny provide some sort of cleaning after the child? You just seem annoying and whinny about being expected to contribute to your household besides watching your own child.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

OP here. We can afford both. I feel that weekly housekeeping is excessive. My wife doesn't want our child in preschool because she has trust issues. She would be okay with our child going to a public PreK, but that's not an option where we live. She feels the YMCA is the next best thing to regular preschool. I wasn't aware of any of this until today. She wants to hold onto him a while longer. She's terrified of school shootings. I suggested getting rid of a weekly housekeeper because I don't feel like we need it every week. My wife is OCD. The private preschool I have looked at is Montessori, and they are expensive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

OP here. We can afford both. I feel that weekly housekeeping is excessive. My wife doesn't want our child in preschool because she has trust issues. She would be okay with our child going to a public PreK, but that's not an option where we live. She feels the YMCA is the next best thing to regular preschool. I wasn't aware of any of this until today. She wants to hold onto him a while longer. She's terrified of school shootings. I suggested getting rid of a weekly housekeeper because I don't feel like we need it every week. My wife is OCD. The private preschool I have looked at is Montessori, and they are expensive.

This is very different from your initial framing. What is the real issue? Money, your expectations for your wife, her OCD/over-protectiveness, something else?[/quote

I want him to attend Montessori, but she wants to home-school him for preschool. She is trained in the Montessori method. She believes that she would better teach him preschool academics than any school could offer. She doesn't want to teach him after preschool. We're not a homeschooling family. Our son is approaching four, but he has a late birthday. He'll be almost six when he's allowed to begin public kindergarten.