I am late 40s and work with people in mid thirties. They all think I am younger than them and some even think I am in my 20s/boast about their careers, not realizing I have been at it longer. So I will take looking 20 years younger if it is true. I know I know, photos or it ain't true.

But I hear once you hit 50s, white women age in dog years so fingers crossed/trying to enjoy the ride.

FWIW I wear sunscreen, don't sun myself, am not a frowner, don't smoke or drink, wear fairly basic clothing (nothing too tight, loose, colourful or trendy) and am medium sized- not fat, not skinny.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone on dcum looks more than a decade younger, duh

Hahaha so true. I’m 35 and everyone thinks I’m in elementary school.

The jealousy is seeping out of your eyeballs

I could only make it to page 10, but in that, only 2 people said they looked older than their age. A handful said they looked their age. And everyone looks younger. Does that sound like your reality when you walk in your neighborhood, go to the store, go to work? I've also come to the conclusion that people generally terrible at guessing age.

I’m nearly 40 and look mid 30s, I think. But I have always had a young face. My junior year in college I went to the local library to get a book that my campus library didn’t have, and the librarian told me I had to be at least 16 to get a library card without my parents present. And when I was working in my 20s on the Hill I always felt like I had to suit up for every meeting because people were constantly asking my age. I’m sure it will catch up to me soon, though

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Anonymous wrote:50 and look it.

^^I should add that I always looked younger up until about 45 years of age.

To the younger ladies - enjoy being told you look young. It doesn't last forever. And so what? Embrace aging.

Depends how you care for yourself

Age catches up sooner or later. Unless you have some melanin in your skin, you are fooling yourself that you look younger than your age.

I didn't say that I don't look good as a 50 year old! But I do look my age. That is NOT an insult as you seem to imply.

I think the 50 year olds of today look a lot better than of my mother's and grandmother's generation. Women looked frumpier.

I also used to look younger; when I was pregnant with my youngest at 40, nurses used to verify my date of birth. "You're advanced maternity age?"

Well, I'm almost 50 now and look it. So, yes, age does catch up sooner or later.

All of you posting Elizabeth Taylor and Meg Ryan together are missing the bigger picture. Elizabeth Taylor is a classical beauty with great bone structure. Meg Ryan was (is?) a cute "girl next door" type who has neither of those going for her. You need a better comparison, someone who also has that type of face.

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Anonymous wrote:50 and look it.

^^I should add that I always looked younger up until about 45 years of age.

To the younger ladies - enjoy being told you look young. It doesn't last forever. And so what? Embrace aging.

Depends how you care for yourself

Age catches up sooner or later. Unless you have some melanin in your skin, you are fooling yourself that you look younger than your age.

I didn't say that I don't look good as a 50 year old! But I do look my age. That is NOT an insult as you seem to imply.

I think the 50 year olds of today look a lot better than of my mother's and grandmother's generation. Women looked frumpier.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45. I have a few wrinkles and a handful of gray hairs (that I pluck). I’ve managed to stay the same weight I was in high school, but no one thinks I’m in my 20s. I have a 17-yr old daughter so can say this definitively: I look my age. Even when people don’t see my face, they can tell that I’m her mom—she’s wearing the stuff I wore when I was in high school and I’m wearing skinny jeans and booties.

This made me laugh, it's so true. My only 'cool' clothes are the leftover vintage stuff I had at the end of high school and early college years. I'm in my 30s and think I look good for my age - but I look my age. I'm athletic/fit, slender, wear sunscreen religiously, don't drink or smoke, and dress in boring but classic clothing.

It's 'Zsa Zsa' not za za.

Just had to say it. LOL

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Anonymous wrote:I am 47 and got carded this weekend.

Isn’t this the law? I get carded every where and never thought that I look 20.

Not per se. The law is that you can't serve someone under 21 (for alcohol) or 18 (for cigarettes and so on). The law in most places doesn't require you to check ID, but corporate or establishment policy may require any of the following:

-Must check EVERYONE'S ID. You see this a lot at Total Wine, which IIRC (?) scans your license, grocery stores and so on. Although if you're just incredibly obviously over 40 or 50, the clerk might not ask and just enter a random 40+ birthdate in order to speed things up. Clubs often have this policy.

-Must check ID, but kind of flexible if they're regulars and you've seen them and checked ID more than once before.

-Must check ID of anyone who looks like they could plausibly be under 35 (except maybe regulars). This was a common policy in restaurants I worked in.

-Must check ID of anyone who looks like they could plausibly be under 21. A little riskier, but not if your employees have decent judgment and really do check IDs if it's even plausible.

If you're 47 and always carded somewhere they "always" card people, who cares? If at 47, you're always or even sometimes carded at places where most people 40+ are not, that's more impressive. The difference is especially apparent when you're out with people around your age and you're the only one carded.

I was about to say that it's even more impressive when you're in a place like Salisbury (I used to live & tend bar there) where they rarely even bother carding people under 30. But Salisbury is full of white people with a lot of sun damage, so maybe it's not that impressive if they card you there.

Re: the "check everyone who could plausibly be under 21," I worked at a place like that in DC, and because I wanted to be safe (you can be fined, or sued!) I cast a wide net. I often found that the IDs I requested put people at 30, or occasionally older. One day the (Black, brownskinned) woman I asked was almost 50! I was like, "Ma'am, I am truly not just saying this! I am so busy today, that I am honestly ONLY carding people who could be college students!" LOL, and her mother piped up like, "Yes, she gets it from me, I'm 75" (and of course, looked 45).

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As ZaZa Gabor said, “At a certain age, you’ve got to choose between your ass and your face.”

I think that’s why older actresses used to look better. Now they have to stay rail thin. Back in the day, it was ok for an actress to carry a little bit of extra weight.

I'm not sure why we often hear this quote pointing out that it's better to carry some extra weight since we'll have less wrinkles. You'd still walk around with some extra weight and I'm sorry, but that never signals "young", unless you're a baby.

ZaZa Gabor's quote is about compromising. Yes, with some extra weight you will look younger in your face, but not your body.
Meg Ryan's figure looks younger than Liz's and I'm pretty sure she'd look as good in her face if she had some makeup on.

You people can’t be serious. Find an unretouched picture where Meg Ryan looks as good as Liz (after 50) and post it. I think the problem is that actresses are under pressure to fit into couture sample sizes for the red carpet, and they so little body fat it makes their faces look terrible, so they resort to fillers, and that looks worse.

Here’s Meg with fresher fillers and more makeup. When she tries to smile, she looks like the Joker.

As ZaZa Gabor said, “At a certain age, you’ve got to choose between your ass and your face.”

I think that’s why older actresses used to look better. Now they have to stay rail thin. Back in the day, it was ok for an actress to carry a little bit of extra weight.

I'm not sure why we often hear this quote pointing out that it's better to carry some extra weight since we'll have less wrinkles. You'd still walk around with some extra weight and I'm sorry, but that never signals "young", unless you're a baby.

ZaZa Gabor's quote is about compromising. Yes, with some extra weight you will look younger in your face, but not your body.
Meg Ryan's figure looks younger than Liz's and I'm pretty sure she'd look as good in her face if she had some makeup on.

Until 48, I basically looked the same as I did in my late 30s and early 40s. In the past two years it has all gone to hell. I don't know if it is stress or what, but I have aged. I am 50 and look 50, if not a few years older. My hair is almost white, and if I didn't dye it, I would look like my mom (she is 70 but looks younger).

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Anonymous wrote:I know less than 5 women who really, truly look shockingly younger than they are and all of them are childless and live stress-free lives. I think this is a function of getting enough sleep plus hairstyle and clothes. I know my hair gives away my age (35 and still doing the Zooey Deschanel hair) but I love it and can't bring myself to try the parted down the middle thing now.

I agree with that but genetics also play a role. Having a slim toned body makes you look youthful while having one of the thick to fat body types makes you look like you might have already given birth to 5 kids and are a mature older woman.

Until you get to your late 50’s and being thin makes you look wrinkled and haggard.

Key word here is toned

As ZaZa Gabor said, “At a certain age, you’ve got to choose between your ass and your face.”

I think that’s why older actresses used to look better. Now they have to stay rail thin. Back in the day, it was ok for an actress to carry a little bit of extra weight. With more weight, you don’t need the fillers and Botox, which looks fake and never goes well for very long.

Elizabeth Taylor at her 53rd birthday party. I’m sure she’s had “work” done, but she can make an expression, and her eyebrows aren’t halfway up her forehead.



Meg Ryan at 53 (despite — or maybe because of — fillers & Botox:

It's surgery. No one likes to hear this, but most answers to an aging face is you need surgery! You can NGAF and that is fine too, but the fillers and botox and all of that is for the 30-somethings who still have some elasticity. Bite the bullet and get the lift.

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Anonymous wrote:I know less than 5 women who really, truly look shockingly younger than they are and all of them are childless and live stress-free lives. I think this is a function of getting enough sleep plus hairstyle and clothes. I know my hair gives away my age (35 and still doing the Zooey Deschanel hair) but I love it and can't bring myself to try the parted down the middle thing now.

I agree with that but genetics also play a role. Having a slim toned body makes you look youthful while having one of the thick to fat body types makes you look like you might have already given birth to 5 kids and are a mature older woman.

Until you get to your late 50’s and being thin makes you look wrinkled and haggard.

Key word here is toned

As ZaZa Gabor said, “At a certain age, you’ve got to choose between your ass and your face.”

I think that’s why older actresses used to look better. Now they have to stay rail thin. Back in the day, it was ok for an actress to carry a little bit of extra weight. With more weight, you don’t need the fillers and Botox, which looks fake and never goes well for very long.

Elizabeth Taylor at her 53rd birthday party. I’m sure she’s had “work” done, but she can make an expression, and her eyebrows aren’t halfway up her forehead.



Meg Ryan at 53 (despite — or maybe because of — fillers & Botox:

Elizabeth Taylor is made up in the picture and Meg clearly is just out and about with no makeup. I’m sure she could look almost as good as Liz did when made up (not quite, nobody is Elizabeth Taylor beautiful) and Liz would have looked equally haggard at that age without hair and makeup done. Wild you think these 2 pics are comparable.

41. I think I look maybe 3 or 4 years younger. I have good skin and few grays, but I definitely look mid to late 30s at leade