Anonymous wrote:There's really no reason not to have said "I tried dating, but I haven't found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with yet."

Exactly. The BS story really shows lack of character. No need for it.

How can somebody you’ve just met and gone out with probably on 2 30 minute dates be the love of your life
lol

Gerry commented that Teresa was the love of his life, and he didn’t have time to comment when asked.
Gee I thought his wife was the love of his life
Fake man

No don’t say about my parents, I am 72, husband died at 65 just retired from heart attack. Was in perfect health. Nothing stunning
Just reality
Let them be, enjoy , and yes will be gone soon, that’s life

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Anonymous wrote:They both have talked about hoping to travel...Ok,
so maybe they have realistically maybe eight to ten/twelve years to do that if all goes well. Statistically, traveling after he's 85 is unlikely. And then the odds are she will become his caregiver at some point. So, I just don't see the romance here and I'm not a cynic. There are also adult children to "blend" (all daughters which have been very involved with their widowed parent...so also likely to be complicated). And there's likely a lot of money involved (see Theresa's house in Shrewsbury which I'm sure is only one part of an extensive baby boomer portfolio!). I hope she's smart enough to protect herself.

Do you have details about her home?

Her house in Shrewsbury IS TINY and only woth 568k. What are you talking about. My house is worth 6 times that and I'm a nobody.

Maybe she and her DH downsized once the kids were out of the house. He had kidney disease and may have been on disability for a while. He asked her to start working so that they wouldn't continue paying out of pocket for health insurance, which suggests he didn't have a corporate job. His obituary was beautiful, sounds like a very special man. No mention of his profession. Apparently Theresa got her love of gardening from him.

Yes maybe they downsized. But a 500k home doesn't make her rich....which was my point.

Of course not, but at her age in terms of years working as well as financial savvy, she likely has a large portfolio that she accrued over decades no? And she may have had a large windfall from her husband's life insurance.

You make a lot of assumptions.

Actually I put qualifiers in such as, "likely" has a portfolio and "may have had" as well as a question mark, so no I was not assuming anything actually.
The facts are that she 70 year old professional woman, living in an affluent ny suburb, still working and in the finance business, who was also widowed. The odds are, she has resources. Definitely? No, how could we say? But likely? Yes.

Teresa is 70 ,has it not occurred to anybody that she might have an irreconcilable living trust already and have everything planned?
I do and I am 72
Or perhaps gifted most of her money to her daughters grandkids to avoid huge costs to nursing home.

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Anonymous wrote:My favorite Gerry spin is when he said his post-retirement gigs were not due to financial need but rather were "service to the community." Lol, maintenance man.

How did they even find this dude?
He’s just some random old white guy like millions of others.
Many of the women they cast at least had some vague connection to fame.

It goes to show how challenging it was to find a senior man who is tall, fit, reasonably attractive, and affable. That's why the picked him, plus the appealing widower narrative. It does concern me that they'll have a hard time finding decent guys for Golden Bachelorette. All the men I know in their 60s and 70s are married.

With some exceptions, all the men I know in their 60s and 70s are rigid and set in their ways or hog the spotlight--blah, blah, blah. So boring.

There is no reason they can’t include men in their 40s and 50s. Look at Brigitte and Emmanuel Macron. She is 70 and he is 45. It happens more than you might think.

Actually no, it doesn't. It happens very rarely.

That kind of age difference is rare but relationships where the woman is 10-15 years older are not uncommon.
I think Leslie would be far better suited to a 55 year old than a 72 year old.

It is uncommon.

lol no, it really is not.

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Anonymous wrote:My favorite Gerry spin is when he said his post-retirement gigs were not due to financial need but rather were "service to the community." Lol, maintenance man.

How did they even find this dude?
He’s just some random old white guy like millions of others.
Many of the women they cast at least had some vague connection to fame.

It goes to show how challenging it was to find a senior man who is tall, fit, reasonably attractive, and affable. That's why the picked him, plus the appealing widower narrative. It does concern me that they'll have a hard time finding decent guys for Golden Bachelorette. All the men I know in their 60s and 70s are married.

With some exceptions, all the men I know in their 60s and 70s are rigid and set in their ways or hog the spotlight--blah, blah, blah. So boring.

There is no reason they can’t include men in their 40s and 50s. Look at Brigitte and Emmanuel Macron. She is 70 and he is 45. It happens more than you might think.

Actually no, it doesn't. It happens very rarely.

That kind of age difference is rare but relationships where the woman is 10-15 years older are not uncommon.
I think Leslie would be far better suited to a 55 year old than a 72 year old.

It is uncommon.

Anonymous wrote:He is a fraud but Theresa is in her love bubble and does not care one drop about anything but this made up fantasy nonsense.
Leave them alone
both dead soon enough

Both dead soon enough??

Is this what you say about your parents??

Stunning!

There's really no reason not to have said "I tried dating, but I haven't found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with yet."

There is no excuse for the false narrative about not being able to date after his wife died. This was a total lie. There can be no explanation. And so easily disproven.

The man is a snake. Period. I don’t care what else he says. How offensive to the memory of his prior wife.

He is a fraud but Theresa is in her love bubble and does not care one drop about anything but this made up fantasy nonsense.
Leave them alone
both dead soon enough

Theresa worked for ~30 years. She may have started at a lower range of income but probably did pretty well after a period of time. She ended up as a compliance officer at a small company, the salary range for which is usually 85-150K. So, let say she was at the higher end after thirty years in the industry. We don't know her husband's profession, but he may have had to retire on the early side due to kidney disease. Whatever he did didn't come with a health insurance benefit, why he wanted Theresa to work in the first place. They had enough money for her to play around with day trading before seeking gainful employment herself. My guess is that they were solidly middle class, but had a nice bump once Theresa began working and, especially, once her income rose over time. They didn't spend a lot of money on houses or cars (she mentioned frugality), and probably ended up with a nice nest egg (maybe somewhere in the 500K-million range). Gerry and Toni were also middle class, but not as solidly so as Theresa and likely didn't have the same level of savings. I doubt there was any day trading happening in that household. Neither broke 6 figures, like Theresa surely did, but Toni worked for a very long time and maybe did save some. At any rate, Gerry has the benefit of his wife's social security, which must be decent given the duration of her career, in addition to his own. The GB salary was a nice windfall for him, given his fixed income prior. I can't imagine Theresa isn't wealthier than he, but maybe not a huge disparity since they purchased similarly priced homes. Hard to know for sure without knowing what her husband did. But if he didn't have a job with health insurance, he may not have had life insurance either, especially with kidney disease.

lol
What to do when the golden bachelor is no longer on? Talk about jumping to conclusions about people and their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:They both have talked about hoping to travel...Ok,
so maybe they have realistically maybe eight to ten/twelve years to do that if all goes well. Statistically, traveling after he's 85 is unlikely. And then the odds are she will become his caregiver at some point. So, I just don't see the romance here and I'm not a cynic. There are also adult children to "blend" (all daughters which have been very involved with their widowed parent...so also likely to be complicated). And there's likely a lot of money involved (see Theresa's house in Shrewsbury which I'm sure is only one part of an extensive baby boomer portfolio!). I hope she's smart enough to protect herself.

Do you have details about her home?

Her house in Shrewsbury IS TINY and only woth 568k. What are you talking about. My house is worth 6 times that and I'm a nobody.

Maybe she and her DH downsized once the kids were out of the house. He had kidney disease and may have been on disability for a while. He asked her to start working so that they wouldn't continue paying out of pocket for health insurance, which suggests he didn't have a corporate job. His obituary was beautiful, sounds like a very special man. No mention of his profession. Apparently Theresa got her love of gardening from him.

Yes maybe they downsized. But a 500k home doesn't make her rich....which was my point.

Of course not, but at her age in terms of years working as well as financial savvy, she likely has a large portfolio that she accrued over decades no? And she may have had a large windfall from her husband's life insurance.

You make a lot of assumptions.