Anonymous
10/18/2015 10:00
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Showcases have become watered down and are now the greatest story ever sold. I think the best thing to do for a kid who aspires to play D3 lacrosse is to fill out the recruit profile questionnaire on the website for the school and teams, and then email the coaches asking them for the schedule of their camp or prospect days. Nothing costs nothing, but these prospect events at D3 schools are about $150 on average and the big plus is you can also couple it with a campus admissions tour.
The D3 showcase and even the D1 aimed showcase stuff now is a money grab and only nominally worth the time and expense. Like the rabbit said to Alice: if you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there. Showcase lacrosse is an excellent way to get on that very expensive road with no real direction
Show a real interest in a targeted list of D3 schools and visit the schools and the coach...they will always welcome it and that's the best way to figure out the right school setting, social, academic and sports fit for your son or daughter. And good luck!
The D3 showcase and even the D1 aimed showcase stuff now is a money grab and only nominally worth the time and expense. Like the rabbit said to Alice: if you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there. Showcase lacrosse is an excellent way to get on that very expensive road with no real direction
Show a real interest in a targeted list of D3 schools and visit the schools and the coach...they will always welcome it and that's the best way to figure out the right school setting, social, academic and sports fit for your son or daughter. And good luck!
Anonymous
10/18/2015 08:16
Subject: Re:lax culture from an insider
What are the best summer showcases for my high school lacrosse player who aspires to play D3?
Anonymous
10/16/2015 17:54
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I enjoy all of this information, but it is completely bewildering. It is fascinating that there are so many parents that are this involved and devoted to a children's game.
My son plays. No, he won't be "going to college " on his lacrosse skills. Doesn't need to, he's a great, smart, kind, industrious kid. He'll be just fine whatever path he chooses. Oh, and, no, we aren't psychos -- even thought we love to cheer him on!
You're missing when you say you're fascinated that parents are "devoted to a children's game." You see, you've got it all wrong: the parents are devoted to the child. Yes, the child. I go to practices and games over and over. I'm not devoted to the game. I'm devoted to the kid! I love the look on his face when he's joking around with the team…or high-fiving after a play…or helping a friend who's feeling low about a bad game. I love that stuff! If that means that I look weird to a stranger, so be it.
Not everything in life (especially in parenting!) is so black and white. Take another look at those parents next time and think that maybe, just maybe they are out there jumping up and down and cheering because they love that kid on the field who's having a blast playing a game he loves.
Oh, I think maybe I didn't come across well. My son plays on a rec team and a competitive team in a different league. We spend countless hours on the sidelines cheering him on, watching practices and practicing with him at home. He loves it and we love the he loves it. I'm not bashing the parents who love their kids and want to see that joy in their faces like I see in mine. I'm just thrown by the people who put their kids out their with angry coaches or talk about it like their kids are pawns in a strategic game of one-upsmanship. So few posts on here talk about the actual kids and the fact that they do this for fun.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 17:44
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Don't think anyone here has an issue or problem with positive parenting. Would love to see and hear more cheering and positives on the sidelines. It would be wonderful to see more of.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 17:00
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Anonymous wrote:I enjoy all of this information, but it is completely bewildering. It is fascinating that there are so many parents that are this involved and devoted to a children's game.
My son plays. No, he won't be "going to college " on his lacrosse skills. Doesn't need to, he's a great, smart, kind, industrious kid. He'll be just fine whatever path he chooses. Oh, and, no, we aren't psychos -- even thought we love to cheer him on!
You're missing when you say you're fascinated that parents are "devoted to a children's game." You see, you've got it all wrong: the parents are devoted to the child. Yes, the child. I go to practices and games over and over. I'm not devoted to the game. I'm devoted to the kid! I love the look on his face when he's joking around with the team…or high-fiving after a play…or helping a friend who's feeling low about a bad game. I love that stuff! If that means that I look weird to a stranger, so be it.
Not everything in life (especially in parenting!) is so black and white. Take another look at those parents next time and think that maybe, just maybe they are out there jumping up and down and cheering because they love that kid on the field who's having a blast playing a game he loves.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 16:51
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:https://tickets.gocrimson.com/Online/default.asp?doWork::WScontent::loadArticle=Load&BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::article_id=61EB2BA1-0A11-492E-A915-DAF0A00C7077
I am sure this won't be too popular with some of the readers on this board, but do read it. As a parent I wish someone had the courage to do this at least a few years ago.
Good article. There was a similar one on a lacrosse magazine a few months ago. It's an absurd process. Nothing will change until the coaches agree to some standards.
However, it is self serving for an Ivy school to bemoan this since they can't recruit early even if they wanted. So there is a significant competitive disadvantage for those schools. But the coaches who have left thee to go to non Ivies like UVA and Denver have no problem recruiting early. If the Ivies started to allow early recruiting, I suspect you'd stop hearing from them re this.
Well, sorry to burst your bubble but Ivies have gone into this. Penn is now filling recruiting classes before 9th graders finish 9th grade and several Ivies verbally commit kids in 9th grade now. Ivies are part of the lowest common denominator now if we are talking about these extremes. Interestingly the author who is Harvard's AD played college lacrosse and also noted lacrosse and soccer as two sports with this particular problem. This isn't him being a hypocrite to bemoan what ACC schools are doing ad his coaches can't do -- his coaches joined this party some time ago.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 16:46
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Don't dispute that. I guess fortunately my experience with foaming mouthed dads was Landon and Bullis, but it does not shock me at all to hear the same applies to GP and Gonzaga dads. Kind of sad, but very predictable. At every private school with a serious lacrosse program, you will have the crazies running the show.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 16:18
Subject: Re:lax culture from an insider
Lacrosse is a fascinating social science. Lacrosse parents are ok with these sleazoids like Cabell Maddox and Giblin having authority over them and their kids because they are lacrosse savants. Lacrosse parents will spend a second mortgage on a third tier prep school that has an elite lacrosse program. Lacrosse parents will spend tens of thousands on club or lacrosse events fees. All in the pursuit of having their son gather a 10% or 25% partial lacrosse scholarship for college. Here's the part where Landon or Bullis daddies go foaming from the mouth let you know THEIR son got a 80% scholarship, because the most awesome players really do get big bucks, so there!!!
I take it that you are Jesuit lacrosse Dad affiliated with either Prep or Gonzaga.
My son goes to a private school and played on a club team with several boys who ended up going either Gonzaga and Prep.
If you think only Landon and Bullis parents like to pump their chests, you clearly rose peddled goggles. The behavior at football and lacrosse games displayed at WCAC sporting events is an absolute embarrassment.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 16:18
Subject: lax culture from an insider
I enjoy all of this information, but it is completely bewildering. It is fascinating that there are so many parents that are this involved and devoted to a children's game.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 14:57
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Anonymous wrote:https://tickets.gocrimson.com/Online/default.asp?doWork::WScontent::loadArticle=Load&BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::article_id=61EB2BA1-0A11-492E-A915-DAF0A00C7077
I am sure this won't be too popular with some of the readers on this board, but do read it. As a parent I wish someone had the courage to do this at least a few years ago.
Good article. There was a similar one on a lacrosse magazine a few months ago. It's an absurd process. Nothing will change until the coaches agree to some standards.
However, it is self serving for an Ivy school to bemoan this since they can't recruit early even if they wanted. So there is a significant competitive disadvantage for those schools. But the coaches who have left thee to go to non Ivies like UVA and Denver have no problem recruiting early. If the Ivies started to allow early recruiting, I suspect you'd stop hearing from them re this.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 14:47
Subject: lax culture from an insider
The article from the Harvard AD is pretty remarkable. Thanks.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 14:39
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Anonymous wrote:Lacrosse is a fascinating social science. Lacrosse parents are ok with these sleazoids like Cabell Maddox and Giblin having authority over them and their kids because they are lacrosse savants. Lacrosse parents will spend a second mortgage on a third tier prep school that has an elite lacrosse program. Lacrosse parents will spend tens of thousands on club or lacrosse events fees. All in the pursuit of having their son gather a 10% or 25% partial lacrosse scholarship for college. Here's the part where Landon or Bullis daddies go foaming from the mouth let you know THEIR son got a 80% scholarship, because the most awesome players really do get big bucks, so there!!!
How are people this stupid well capitalized enough to be able to afford all of this? Did an earlier generation of dolts find gold in the DMV earth or strike oil in backyards where I am just not aware of it? Or does working for a law firm or a lobbist on the Hill pickle the brain enough to just slip away into this lax bro abyss? I'd love to know and understand this someday. The funny DeadSpin stories about a lunatic dad moving his kid around club teams and trading childish emails with Cabell Maddox just doesn't do this enough justice. This is Pulitzer stuff for someone better.
It is strange. I am a lax dad and don't understand all these petty, immature arguments about what school is dominating or what club team "rocks". Who cares? Most of these guys never played themselves and are clearly living vicariously. I didn't believe the hype about this parent community being different but am starting to think otherwise. I just feel badly for their kids who will eventually physically and emotionally burn out. Competitive sports are a great part of life, but there's much more.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 14:34
Subject: lax culture from an insider
https://tickets.gocrimson.com/Online/default.asp?doWork::WScontent::loadArticle=Load&BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::article_id=61EB2BA1-0A11-492E-A915-DAF0A00C7077
I am sure this won't be too popular with some of the readers on this board, but do read it. As a parent I wish someone had the courage to do this at least a few years ago.
I am sure this won't be too popular with some of the readers on this board, but do read it. As a parent I wish someone had the courage to do this at least a few years ago.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 14:29
Subject: lax culture from an insider
You can bet that the catholics don't like have a black man coaching their lax playing sons.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 14:11
Subject: lax culture from an insider
Lacrosse is a fascinating social science. Lacrosse parents are ok with these sleazoids like Cabell Maddox and Giblin having authority over them and their kids because they are lacrosse savants. Lacrosse parents will spend a second mortgage on a third tier prep school that has an elite lacrosse program. Lacrosse parents will spend tens of thousands on club or lacrosse events fees. All in the pursuit of having their son gather a 10% or 25% partial lacrosse scholarship for college. Here's the part where Landon or Bullis daddies go foaming from the mouth let you know THEIR son got a 80% scholarship, because the most awesome players really do get big bucks, so there!!!
How are people this stupid well capitalized enough to be able to afford all of this? Did an earlier generation of dolts find gold in the DMV earth or strike oil in backyards where I am just not aware of it? Or does working for a law firm or a lobbist on the Hill pickle the brain enough to just slip away into this lax bro abyss? I'd love to know and understand this someday. The funny DeadSpin stories about a lunatic dad moving his kid around club teams and trading childish emails with Cabell Maddox just doesn't do this enough justice. This is Pulitzer stuff for someone better.
How are people this stupid well capitalized enough to be able to afford all of this? Did an earlier generation of dolts find gold in the DMV earth or strike oil in backyards where I am just not aware of it? Or does working for a law firm or a lobbist on the Hill pickle the brain enough to just slip away into this lax bro abyss? I'd love to know and understand this someday. The funny DeadSpin stories about a lunatic dad moving his kid around club teams and trading childish emails with Cabell Maddox just doesn't do this enough justice. This is Pulitzer stuff for someone better.