Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 14:12     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I have Charlie. If I had a nickel for everyone who told me that their dog or cat is named Charlie, I'd be rich! Not something to be offended about.


Really? I have a Charlie who is 5 and no one has ever said that to me. Not that I would be offended, but it just doesn't seem common.


Mine is 16, so maybe the Charlie pets have departed this world! It definitely happened more when he was younger.


Our neighbor's dog, 18 months old, is named Charlie.

Growing up, my friend has a dog named Charlie. And I'm grew up overseas.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 14:07     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
I’m not saying people have to hear it as nice. No one has to take it as a compliment.

I’m just saying that anyone who gets upset over this must have a very low threshold as to things that upset them and I find these people to be annoyingly exhausting.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 10:52     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
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Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Someone said this to me once twenty years ago about my name and I hated her after that. I have not forgotten it.



Someone told you that they loved your name so much so that they also gave that name to their family pet? Why would this make you upset?


This is the fundamental disconnect. You hear "that's my dog's name" and translate it to "I love that name so much that I also gave it to a family pet!" Other people hear "that's my dog's name" and hear "that's a dog's name."

FTR, I have had dogs all my life, and of all the dogs I've ever had I can't think of one that we named for sheer, unadulterated love of the name. For irony, as a reference (college mascot; one from the Bible), because it was cute, because he was already named at the pound -- but never "Bocephus is so meaningful and truly superior as a name. It is worthy of that which I love most in the world."

I think it's generous to hear the statement in the way that you do, but not necessarily accurate or true in most instances. On the whole it's probably better to be generous than right, except in this thread where people who hear it in the flattering way are browbeating everyone who hears it in the other way.


We gave our dog a human name after a musician we admire. We’ve also named a pet after an athlete we really like (in fact I know several people who have used athlete first or last names as a pet name such as Harper after Bryce Harper, although I guess that’s a bit awkward now that he transferred teams). Just because you choose names for irony or whatever doesn’t mean the majority of people pick names for their dog other than because they like that name for some reason. You’re imposing your negative viewpoint on others’ choices.


No, I'm not imposing my viewpoint. I'm saying that people hear it both ways, and your insistence on browbeating people who hear it as an insult doesn't make the way you hear it any more right. Some people might think it's nice, but others do not. You can't insist that everyone be flattered by a statement that can very reasonably be taken either way.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 10:45     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone said this to me once twenty years ago about my name and I hated her after that. I have not forgotten it.



Someone told you that they loved your name so much so that they also gave that name to their family pet? Why would this make you upset?


This is the fundamental disconnect. You hear "that's my dog's name" and translate it to "I love that name so much that I also gave it to a family pet!" Other people hear "that's my dog's name" and hear "that's a dog's name."

FTR, I have had dogs all my life, and of all the dogs I've ever had I can't think of one that we named for sheer, unadulterated love of the name. For irony, as a reference (college mascot; one from the Bible), because it was cute, because he was already named at the pound -- but never "Bocephus is so meaningful and truly superior as a name. It is worthy of that which I love most in the world."

I think it's generous to hear the statement in the way that you do, but not necessarily accurate or true in most instances. On the whole it's probably better to be generous than right, except in this thread where people who hear it in the flattering way are browbeating everyone who hears it in the other way.


We gave our dog a human name after a musician we admire. We’ve also named a pet after an athlete we really like (in fact I know several people who have used athlete first or last names as a pet name such as Harper after Bryce Harper, although I guess that’s a bit awkward now that he transferred teams). Just because you choose names for irony or whatever doesn’t mean the majority of people pick names for their dog other than because they like that name for some reason. You’re imposing your negative viewpoint on others’ choices.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 10:05     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone said this to me once twenty years ago about my name and I hated her after that. I have not forgotten it.



Someone told you that they loved your name so much so that they also gave that name to their family pet? Why would this make you upset?


This is the fundamental disconnect. You hear "that's my dog's name" and translate it to "I love that name so much that I also gave it to a family pet!" Other people hear "that's my dog's name" and hear "that's a dog's name."

FTR, I have had dogs all my life, and of all the dogs I've ever had I can't think of one that we named for sheer, unadulterated love of the name. For irony, as a reference (college mascot; one from the Bible), because it was cute, because he was already named at the pound -- but never "Bocephus is so meaningful and truly superior as a name. It is worthy of that which I love most in the world."

I think it's generous to hear the statement in the way that you do, but not necessarily accurate or true in most instances. On the whole it's probably better to be generous than right, except in this thread where people who hear it in the flattering way are browbeating everyone who hears it in the other way.



Based off the original post, the Op said they spoke about how she loved that name. I was going based off what the op said. The pp said that someone said that to her before, and it made her hate the person?


I read the PP you're responding to to be saying someone told her "That's my dog's name" (subject line) 20 years ago, not that she had the same convo the OP relayed. But you may be right.

I have had multiple people tell me that my family name is/was their dog's name, and it didn't make me hate them but it did lower my opinion of them. It's socially awkward to bring it up at all, and the name was used in every instance as an attempt at an ethnic joke by giving it to the dog - think Rolf for a GSD or something. Just hacky to give the name and tacky to tell a Rolf about it. Hate's a bit much, though.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 09:58     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone said this to me once twenty years ago about my name and I hated her after that. I have not forgotten it.



Someone told you that they loved your name so much so that they also gave that name to their family pet? Why would this make you upset?


This is the fundamental disconnect. You hear "that's my dog's name" and translate it to "I love that name so much that I also gave it to a family pet!" Other people hear "that's my dog's name" and hear "that's a dog's name."

FTR, I have had dogs all my life, and of all the dogs I've ever had I can't think of one that we named for sheer, unadulterated love of the name. For irony, as a reference (college mascot; one from the Bible), because it was cute, because he was already named at the pound -- but never "Bocephus is so meaningful and truly superior as a name. It is worthy of that which I love most in the world."

I think it's generous to hear the statement in the way that you do, but not necessarily accurate or true in most instances. On the whole it's probably better to be generous than right, except in this thread where people who hear it in the flattering way are browbeating everyone who hears it in the other way.



Based off the original post, the Op said they spoke about how she loved that name. I was going based off what the op said. The pp said that someone said that to her before, and it made her hate the person?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 09:46     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
My mil loves to say “That’s a dog’s name!” Or “That’s a cow’s name!” To people when they mention their kids’ names.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 09:41     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone said this to me once twenty years ago about my name and I hated her after that. I have not forgotten it.



Someone told you that they loved your name so much so that they also gave that name to their family pet? Why would this make you upset?


This is the fundamental disconnect. You hear "that's my dog's name" and translate it to "I love that name so much that I also gave it to a family pet!" Other people hear "that's my dog's name" and hear "that's a dog's name."

FTR, I have had dogs all my life, and of all the dogs I've ever had I can't think of one that we named for sheer, unadulterated love of the name. For irony, as a reference (college mascot; one from the Bible), because it was cute, because he was already named at the pound -- but never "Bocephus is so meaningful and truly superior as a name. It is worthy of that which I love most in the world."

I think it's generous to hear the statement in the way that you do, but not necessarily accurate or true in most instances. On the whole it's probably better to be generous than right, except in this thread where people who hear it in the flattering way are browbeating everyone who hears it in the other way.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 09:37     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:My parents got a dog in the 90s and named him Jack. That name became popular in the 2000s and when people proudly announced they had named their new baby Jack, my mom would say “I love that name, it’s a family name in our house.” It was an inside joke with herself.



Op here. Haha that is cute. I will keep that in mind going forward!
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2021 09:24     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
My parents got a dog in the 90s and named him Jack. That name became popular in the 2000s and when people proudly announced they had named their new baby Jack, my mom would say “I love that name, it’s a family name in our house.” It was an inside joke with herself.