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Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

When will you stop nodding along? Will you try to prepare her for your plans?

Exactly. The wife needs to know your plans and it' really cruel how you're planning this secretly. It's sociopathic.

I have been trying to push her to get a job. Hopefully she will this coming year.

Your lack of communication seems to be the bigger problem. Let her know how you feel and what needs to change. How about counseling? Be a big boy and tell her there can't be a future especially if you can't even go out to dinner, or on vacation!!! Its not sex that's the main problem here.....

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

When will you stop nodding along? Will you try to prepare her for your plans?

Exactly. The wife needs to know your plans and it' really cruel how you're planning this secretly. It's sociopathic.

I have been trying to push her to get a job. Hopefully she will this coming year.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

When will you stop nodding along? Will you try to prepare her for your plans?

Exactly. The wife needs to know your plans and it' really cruel how you're planning this secretly. It's sociopathic.

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Anonymous wrote:Lot of deleted posts. Sorry about mine but it was honest.

Was yours the one about how the secret is that these women aren’t sleeping with their husbands because their husbands are jerks, and it’s hard to get aroused in order to sleep with somebody who is being mean to you? That was a good one.

Anonymous wrote:Lot of deleted posts. Sorry about mine but it was honest.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

When will you stop nodding along? Will you try to prepare her for your plans?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

Isn't it better for her to hang on to her delusions? She's pretended all these years that sex doesn't matter. Let her be one of the martyrs who cries, out of the blue he just divorced me! Never saw it coming.
When will you stop nodding along? Will you try to prepare her for your plans?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

Isn't it better for her to hang on to her delusions? She's pretended all these years that sex doesn't matter. Let her be one of the martyrs who cries, out of the blue he just divorced me! Never saw it coming.
When will you stop nodding along? Will you try to prepare her for your plans?

Anonymous wrote:As a mid-40s man who has been in a sexless marriage now for 6 years (sex 4-8x a year) the only thing that has helped is finally accepting this is the price of admission to being married to my wife. I stopped trying to understand it fix her because nothing works and nothing changes and I get more resentful if I do all the things to date her again and zero difference.

Only thing I noticed is after I stopped trying a couple years ago, we really have grown apart. We don't go on vacations together (what's the point?). We don't go out for dinner just the two of us.

5 years till the last one leaves for college, if we are still together, that will be it. Oddly, she talks about plans for our future, but I just nod along and wonder what planet she lives on.

Anonymous wrote:Ok guys. Here’s our group. How are you handling this? What has worked; what hasn’t? How will we go on in this situation? Let’s discuss.