Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 12:27     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:

I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.


YES< MEN ARE CHILDREN!!
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 12:19     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
LOL



Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 12:15     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.

You have no idea what men do when you aren't around.


it is sort of naive to think your husband never looked at other women.

if we are going to play the fine line game of stare and checking out, i took stare to mean check out. i didnt see it as being a creep just staring at a woman and looking like a pervert, stalker, or a person with bad intentions.

now that we have that out the way, you dont turn off finding someone attractive. also, finding someone attractive doesnt mean you want to act on it.

this message boars runs the gambit of extremely prude people as showcased in this post, to completely loose and rogue on posts about cheating. rarely is there a normal, or a middle ground with yall.


I don’t think that that he never has. He’s mentioned to me- without any prompting- that he finds it disrespectful to check out other people when you’re with someone. Since we started dating, I’ve never seen him check out another woman. Maybe he does it when I’m not around, maybe the whole thing was a lie to throw me off, I don’t really care. I certainly check out other men when he’s not around.

My point was that you can find men who don’t. You just have to find one who already feels that way, rather than try to force it on them.


if he cant keep his eyes off other women while out with you, sure. bad move. its a distraction and disrespectful. i get it.

someone should be able to control checking other women out when with their spouse. we can agree to that.

Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 11:37     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.

You have no idea what men do when you aren't around.


it is sort of naive to think your husband never looked at other women.

if we are going to play the fine line game of stare and checking out, i took stare to mean check out. i didnt see it as being a creep just staring at a woman and looking like a pervert, stalker, or a person with bad intentions.

now that we have that out the way, you dont turn off finding someone attractive. also, finding someone attractive doesnt mean you want to act on it.

this message boars runs the gambit of extremely prude people as showcased in this post, to completely loose and rogue on posts about cheating. rarely is there a normal, or a middle ground with yall.


I don’t think that that he never has. He’s mentioned to me- without any prompting- that he finds it disrespectful to check out other people when you’re with someone. Since we started dating, I’ve never seen him check out another woman. Maybe he does it when I’m not around, maybe the whole thing was a lie to throw me off, I don’t really care. I certainly check out other men when he’s not around.

My point was that you can find men who don’t. You just have to find one who already feels that way, rather than try to force it on them.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 09:36     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Testosterone. But they have brains too, so they can control themselves and be polite and respectful.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 08:59     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.

You have no idea what men do when you aren't around.


it is sort of naive to think your husband never looked at other women.

if we are going to play the fine line game of stare and checking out, i took stare to mean check out. i didnt see it as being a creep just staring at a woman and looking like a pervert, stalker, or a person with bad intentions.

now that we have that out the way, you dont turn off finding someone attractive. also, finding someone attractive doesnt mean you want to act on it.

this message boars runs the gambit of extremely prude people as showcased in this post, to completely loose and rogue on posts about cheating. rarely is there a normal, or a middle ground with yall.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 18:37     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.

You have no idea what men do when you aren't around.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 18:31     Subject: What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen this happen before. If he’s such a great husband with a loving wife, what makes him stare at other women?

Thoughts?


Maybe their dad did the same thing.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 18:17     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.


+1

Plus, some guys do it because no matter how much attention (BJs, sex) they get at home (several times per week) - some guys still have did not get enough attention growing up (mommy issues) and need attention wherever they think they can get it. If someone is creepy about it, even if they are good looking, rich, whatever - I am just not interested. If they do it with you, they will do it to you.


Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 17:36     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.


right, it's a check-out, not a stare.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 16:52     Subject: What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Female here and when you see someone who looks amazing or like a freakshow you kind of can't help but stare.

DH and I point these people out to each other if needed (if either of us somehow was looking in the wrong direction).
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 16:43     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?


I don’t think that many actually stare. Kindergarteners know not to stare at people, presumably adult men can control themselves as well as a 5 year old.

As far as checking out- my dad didn’t, and my DH doesn’t. So men like that definitely exist. You just can’t force it on a guy, you have to find one with the same morals as you.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 15:44     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
After reading this thread, would it be safe to conclude that men who don’t stare at women are not normal?

Are there normal men out there who have a pulse, and refuse to stare or check out women in public because they only have eyes for their woman?

Is it realistic to expect to find a guy like that or would it be a fairytale?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 14:50     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:I have a few questions related to this thread, and would prefer if the men on here answer them seriously.

1) If a man is married to a drop dead gorgeous woman, such as a beauty pageant or model, and he’s sexually satisfied, would he still stare at other woman?

2) If a man stared at an attractive woman and she enjoyed the attention and smiled back at him, would he remember this woman if he saw her a year and half later?

3) Can a man persue a relationship with a woman if there was no initial attraction, but he liked her personality?


1. Yes, like most men he might not stare but he is going to check her out.

2. Probably not.

3. Yes, I did! We were friends for three years before I realized that she was smart, fun and incredibly nice. She was very young looking but as she has gotten older she has gotten prettier.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 12:17     Subject: Re:What makes a happily married loyal husband, stare at other women?
Anonymous wrote:I have a few questions related to this thread, and would prefer if the men on here answer them seriously.

1) If a man is married to a drop dead gorgeous woman, such as a beauty pageant or model, and he’s sexually satisfied, would he still stare at other woman?

2) If a man stared at an attractive woman and she enjoyed the attention and smiled back at him, would he remember this woman if he saw her a year and half later?

3) Can a man persue a relationship with a woman if there was no initial attraction, but he liked her personality?


Yes
Maybe
Yes, depending on other factors.