Anonymous
06/18/2019 08:49
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:NP. I have no concerns about other people's kids "missing out," etc. They can do whatever or not do whatever, none of my business.
I do, however, take issue with obnoxious parents of 3+ using the well-worn phrases, "You have no idea..." or "I thought I was busy with two" (never mind the fact that I wasn't commenting or talking about being busy AT ALL).
Uh, YEAH. I have no idea because I don't want to have any idea what it's like not to have the space, time, freedom, energy and capacity to enjoy my life, my spouse, and my children. You have the family you wanted--great. I have the family I wanted. So yeah, "I have no idea," but don't bitch to me, because I didn't impregnante you or your wife with that third or fourth kid.
Spare me your comments and passive-agressive remarks, and I'll spare you my eye-rolls and smirks. It's pretty simple.
I feel like this is one person you know. I am catholic and have a lot of friends with 5-10 kids. I have never heard any of them say this. If anything, they tend to act like it’s no big deal.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 08:36
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:NP. I have no concerns about other people's kids "missing out," etc. They can do whatever or not do whatever, none of my business.
I do, however, take issue with obnoxious parents of 3+ using the well-worn phrases, "You have no idea..." or "I thought I was busy with two" (never mind the fact that I wasn't commenting or talking about being busy AT ALL).
Uh, YEAH. I have no idea because I don't want to have any idea what it's like not to have the space, time, freedom, energy and capacity to enjoy my life, my spouse, and my children. You have the family you wanted--great. I have the family I wanted. So yeah, "I have no idea," but don't bitch to me, because I didn't impregnante you or your wife with that third or fourth kid.
Spare me your comments and passive-agressive remarks, and I'll spare you my eye-rolls and smirks. It's pretty simple.
You sound really angry.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 08:34
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
NP. I have no concerns about other people's kids "missing out," etc. They can do whatever or not do whatever, none of my business.
I do, however, take issue with obnoxious parents of 3+ using the well-worn phrases, "You have no idea..." or "I thought I was busy with two" (never mind the fact that I wasn't commenting or talking about being busy AT ALL).
Uh, YEAH. I have no idea because I don't want to have any idea what it's like not to have the space, time, freedom, energy and capacity to enjoy my life, my spouse, and my children. You have the family you wanted--great. I have the family I wanted. So yeah, "I have no idea," but don't bitch to me, because I didn't impregnante you or your wife with that third or fourth kid.
Spare me your comments and passive-agressive remarks, and I'll spare you my eye-rolls and smirks. It's pretty simple.
I do, however, take issue with obnoxious parents of 3+ using the well-worn phrases, "You have no idea..." or "I thought I was busy with two" (never mind the fact that I wasn't commenting or talking about being busy AT ALL).
Uh, YEAH. I have no idea because I don't want to have any idea what it's like not to have the space, time, freedom, energy and capacity to enjoy my life, my spouse, and my children. You have the family you wanted--great. I have the family I wanted. So yeah, "I have no idea," but don't bitch to me, because I didn't impregnante you or your wife with that third or fourth kid.
Spare me your comments and passive-agressive remarks, and I'll spare you my eye-rolls and smirks. It's pretty simple.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 08:21
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:OP here - LOL y'all are worked up! A few clarifications, from myself only (can't speak for others who share some of my perspectives).
- I have NOTHING against large families. I know plenty, and am close with many. My issue is with the ones who can't manage the logistics and therefore the kids suffer - missing birthday parties, missing swim practice and therefore getting timed out of meets, etc. The soccer thing was an example. Of course, there are smaller families who struggle with this stuff also. But the larger families I know often blame it on having so many kids.
- I got pregnant twice on the first try and strongly considered a third. Decided against it ultimately, for a myriad of reasons. But infertility and/or jealousy (I agree with others - why would anyone be jealous of something they CHOSE not to do and could have done?) weren't factors.
I initially posted this because I feel bad for the kids, who in at least a few families I know like this, are definitely missing out.
Are there other kids who miss out on things? Of course. Are there larger families who have it all together and kick ass? Of course. Not debating either of those.
Carry on!
You still don't get it, op.
How on earth are you qualified to determine these kids are "missing out"?
Guess what? Sometimes we say we have a conflict with another kid's sport when we decline a birthday invite our kid simply isn't interested in attending. It's a polite way to decline. (Sometimes kids don't want to attend parties for little bullies.)
Sometimes we skip a practice or game...even "the defining ones"...for family events, another game etc. NBD.
As a mother of older kids, I can assure you that there really aren't any defining games or critical birthday parties in the life of an 8 year old. I promise.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 08:10
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:LOL we have four and are constantly covering and giving rides for people with only one or two kids and working moms. this thread is a joke.
Ditto.
What's one more kid when you already have a handful?
I also have four. If I need a favor, I always ask another mom of 3+ kids. Because it’s no big deal for them to add one of mine to the fray
I'm so, so glad my kids aren't growing up in a "fray."
Anonymous
06/18/2019 07:46
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The only thing worse than people who complain and whine is people who whine and complain about people who complain and whine.
exactly.
+2
Anonymous
06/18/2019 07:38
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
OP here - LOL y'all are worked up! A few clarifications, from myself only (can't speak for others who share some of my perspectives).
- I have NOTHING against large families. I know plenty, and am close with many. My issue is with the ones who can't manage the logistics and therefore the kids suffer - missing birthday parties, missing swim practice and therefore getting timed out of meets, etc. The soccer thing was an example. Of course, there are smaller families who struggle with this stuff also. But the larger families I know often blame it on having so many kids.
- I got pregnant twice on the first try and strongly considered a third. Decided against it ultimately, for a myriad of reasons. But infertility and/or jealousy (I agree with others - why would anyone be jealous of something they CHOSE not to do and could have done?) weren't factors.
I initially posted this because I feel bad for the kids, who in at least a few families I know like this, are definitely missing out.
Are there other kids who miss out on things? Of course. Are there larger families who have it all together and kick ass? Of course. Not debating either of those.
Carry on!
- I have NOTHING against large families. I know plenty, and am close with many. My issue is with the ones who can't manage the logistics and therefore the kids suffer - missing birthday parties, missing swim practice and therefore getting timed out of meets, etc. The soccer thing was an example. Of course, there are smaller families who struggle with this stuff also. But the larger families I know often blame it on having so many kids.
- I got pregnant twice on the first try and strongly considered a third. Decided against it ultimately, for a myriad of reasons. But infertility and/or jealousy (I agree with others - why would anyone be jealous of something they CHOSE not to do and could have done?) weren't factors.
I initially posted this because I feel bad for the kids, who in at least a few families I know like this, are definitely missing out.
Are there other kids who miss out on things? Of course. Are there larger families who have it all together and kick ass? Of course. Not debating either of those.
Carry on!
Anonymous
06/18/2019 07:29
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.
But that's... not... what... jealousy...
oh, never mind.
DP - you absolutely do sound jealous.
Of what? Seriously.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 07:29
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.
But that's... not... what... jealousy...
oh, never mind.
DP - you absolutely do sound jealous.
A lot of working moms are women who DID stay home when the kids were young and went back to work once the youngest was preschool aged. Not sure why you think we would be jealous of women who SAH when we DID do that and eventually chose not to.
This thread is not about SAHM versus working. It's about 3+ kids.
Agreed. But it’s about that stupid jealousy thing that always comes up in a non-sensical context.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 07:04
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.
But that's... not... what... jealousy...
oh, never mind.
DP - you absolutely do sound jealous.
A lot of working moms are women who DID stay home when the kids were young and went back to work once the youngest was preschool aged. Not sure why you think we would be jealous of women who SAH when we DID do that and eventually chose not to.
This thread is not about SAHM versus working. It's about 3+ kids.
Anonymous
06/18/2019 05:49
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.
But that's... not... what... jealousy...
oh, never mind.
DP - you absolutely do sound jealous.
A lot of working moms are women who DID stay home when the kids were young and went back to work once the youngest was preschool aged. Not sure why you think we would be jealous of women who SAH when we DID do that and eventually chose not to.
Anonymous
06/17/2019 19:49
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.
But that's... not... what... jealousy...
oh, never mind.
DP - you absolutely do sound jealous.
Anonymous
06/17/2019 19:36
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:LOL we have four and are constantly covering and giving rides for people with only one or two kids and working moms. this thread is a joke.
Ditto.
What's one more kid when you already have a handful?
I also have four. If I need a favor, I always ask another mom of 3+ kids. Because it’s no big deal for them to add one of mine to the fray
Anonymous
06/17/2019 19:34
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Because you are acting jealous. You can say that you aren’t, but it sure seems like you are.
Why would you be mad that someone complains on an anonymous message board about something you never had and would never want?
I’m not pp but you’re making no sense. Being frustrated with someone who complains about something you don’t want does not equal jealousy. Please go back to work. Your brain is fried. And yes, it’s clear you stay home with at least 3 kids.
Lol...I am at work and my brain does feel kind of fried. That’s why I came in dcum. I should totally go back and finish up though.
What’s with the weird dig in SAHMs?
This thread is about how moms of three can’t handle their children and don’t deserve them. It isn’t about SAHMs at all.
Anonymous
06/17/2019 19:01
Subject: I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.
I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?
Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.
WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!
Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.
Because you are acting jealous. You can say that you aren’t, but it sure seems like you are.
Why would you be mad that someone complains on an anonymous message board about something you never had and would never want?
I’m not pp but you’re making no sense. Being frustrated with someone who complains about something you don’t want does not equal jealousy. Please go back to work. Your brain is fried. And yes, it’s clear you stay home with at least 3 kids.