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Anonymous wrote:

Of course marrying a skinny plain Jane you met at Trinity, Yale, law school or back in boarding school is common. But we're talking about a 30-something bachelor, every gal of note from prep school and undergrad is long married. Single women his age are divorced, spinsters, single moms and/or nuts with diminished fertility. If the chap is high status and wants a few kids, it's illogical for him to court women in their 30s.

Riiight, boarding school, spinsters, fertility. Gal of note.

Weird.

Don’t forget “chap.”

Anonymous wrote:

Of course marrying a skinny plain Jane you met at Trinity, Yale, law school or back in boarding school is common. But we're talking about a 30-something bachelor, every gal of note from prep school and undergrad is long married. Single women his age are divorced, spinsters, single moms and/or nuts with diminished fertility. If the chap is high status and wants a few kids, it's illogical for him to court women in their 30s.

Riiight, boarding school, spinsters, fertility. Gal of note.

Weird.

Of course marrying a skinny plain Jane you met at Trinity, Yale, law school or back in boarding school is common. But we're talking about a 30-something bachelor, every gal of note from prep school and undergrad is long married. Single women his age are divorced, spinsters, single moms and/or nuts with diminished fertility. If the chap is high status and wants a few kids, it's illogical for him to court women in their 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

Yet, with all of the options they have, some still make odd choices.

Of course. Courting is all about proximity...and timing and luck. But on average, high status men on the hunt for a spouse are going to go for the prettier and more fertile (younger) gals. Again, this is biology and instincts.

Funny, I know more than a few who married Plain Jane mommish types. Maybe they thought that they would look buttoned down and socially acceptable at the country club.

Anonymous wrote:It's the year of hating all things men.

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The woman I know who has struggled the most with fertility started trying to have kids at 22. Took months to get pregnant and had multiple stillbirths. Meanwhile I waited until my 30s and I get knocked up if my DH even looks at me the wrong (right?) way.

Agree that women in their 20s are adults who can make their own decisions, but the bit about conceiving naturally really has nothing to do with the topic.

Dating preferences like this have everything to do with fertility. If a 35yo man dates only women his own age the likelihood of them conceiving naturally after courting and marriage is low. Why would a high status man want that risk? Especially if the man wants multiple children. He would be wise to date women five to ten years younger, if he can.

Stop with the “high status man” crap. It’s creepy and misogynistic, as if a woman’s only purpose in life is too attract one. It’s disgusting and degrading, like women no longer have worth when they are no longer attractive to these self-appointed kings.

Is your only purpose in life to attract cats and boxed wine, honey?

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Anonymous wrote:Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period

The downslope of peak fertility. It’s obvious in a woman’s appearance and disposition. The face especially.

Hm. I’m in my 30s and attract more men now than I ever did in my 20s. Higher quality men, too.

I'll bet you were kind of chubby in your 20's and managed to finally lose the weight in your 30's.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period

The downslope of peak fertility. It’s obvious in a woman’s appearance and disposition. The face especially.

Hm. I’m in my 30s and attract more men now than I ever did in my 20s. Higher quality men, too.

I'll bet you were kind of chubby in your 20's and managed to finally lose the weight in your 30's.

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Anonymous wrote:

The woman I know who has struggled the most with fertility started trying to have kids at 22. Took months to get pregnant and had multiple stillbirths. Meanwhile I waited until my 30s and I get knocked up if my DH even looks at me the wrong (right?) way.

Agree that women in their 20s are adults who can make their own decisions, but the bit about conceiving naturally really has nothing to do with the topic.

Dating preferences like this have everything to do with fertility. If a 35yo man dates only women his own age the likelihood of them conceiving naturally after courting and marriage is low. Why would a high status man want that risk? Especially if the man wants multiple children. He would be wise to date women five to ten years younger, if he can.

Stop with the “high status man” crap. It’s creepy and misogynistic, as if a woman’s only purpose in life is too attract one. It’s disgusting and degrading, like women no longer have worth when they are no longer attractive to these self-appointed kings.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period

The downslope of peak fertility. It’s obvious in a woman’s appearance and disposition. The face especially.

Hm. I’m in my 30s and attract more men now than I ever did in my 20s. Higher quality men, too.

Anonymous wrote:Guy: Took a nice young woman to a wedding as my date. Had a lot of fun. I feel like she did also so I'll will probably date her again. OR..not. But we had fun.

Women of DCUM: OMG she is way to young to marry, have children with him, will be in med school for years while he supports her, then she will be changing his diapers in his older age. It's all so wrong.

Why do women evaluate every relationship, from the very start, as if it's a long-term, permanent pairing that includes marriage, children, and growing old together. Can't a guy just take an attractive, younger woman to a wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:I think most men try to strike a balance between beauty/youth and someone who you would not be embarrassed to bring into a conversation with your peers

No they don't.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most men try to strike a balance between beauty/youth and someone who you would not be embarrassed to bring into a conversation with your peers

No they don't. [/quote
Well I'm a man and I did this

You think men care about nothing but youth and beauty?