I do t think it’s jealous. I genuinely disagree with the value system of someone who gets their parents to pay stuff they “want” when they are fully functioning adults with college education. I find it morally reprehensible to live beyond your means on your parent’s back. Paying for education? Yes, I’m on board. Paying for a down payment because “saving money is HARD!” Not okay.

Entitlement isn’t always easy to define, it’s kimd of like pornography, you know it when you see it.

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Anonymous wrote:So many jealous people on this forum. I bet if any of you jokers saying that others are “weak” or whatever actually were offered money, you’d ditch the moral superiority act so fast...

My parents have money but and have paid for my college. However I mostly took out loans for grad school. My husband and I have paid for our house, cars, vacations and all child related expenses ourselves. I am proud that our lifestyle is fully self funded and not bankrolled my either set of grandparents even they both have money. It’s part of being a self sufficient adult and having the satisfaction that all that the self sufficiency was possible because we got a good education (thanks mom and dad!) and now have a job and income that makes it all possible .

In other words, I’m not jealous. I’m proud that I can support myself, my family and my lifestyle on my own without my parents’ help.

Anonymous wrote:So many jealous people on this forum. I bet if any of you jokers saying that others are “weak” or whatever actually were offered money, you’d ditch the moral superiority act so fast...

My parents have money but and have paid for my college. However I mostly took out loans for grad school. My husband and I have paid for our house, cars, vacations and all child related expenses ourselves. I am proud that our lifestyle is fully self funded and not bankrolled my either set of grandparents even they both have money. It’s part of being a self sufficient adult and having the satisfaction that all that the self sufficiency was possible because we got a good education (thanks mom and dad!) and now have a job and income that makes it all possible .

I have largely been financially independent since graduating from college (which was paid for by my parents). THis includes times when I was making very little (~20K), although I did once ask my parents for $3K for an emergency dental bill so that I did not have to raid my 401K. I am now in my early 40s and gainfully employed and my parents aren't helping me at all. They have, however, told me that I will likely inherit about $4M when they die. Hopefully that is a long time off and by then I will have already bought a "forever" home and saved for college. I have never asked my parents for money other than that dental bill but I could use some help now that DH and I are trying to buy a house in MoCo near a metro and good schools. Plus I doubt I'll really need the money later (I am still maxing out retirement and saving as if I won't get any inheritance because I can't count on it and hope my parents live a long time). With my kids I plan to make them struggle in their 20s so they don't get lazy but once they are established and have a good job and kids, I'd rather help them out so they can buy a nicer house or sent kids to private school than just have them inherit money later. What is wrong with that?

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Anonymous wrote:My wife (in her 30's) still has many childhood friends in DC being subsidized by their parents.

x100000

Nailed it. Big families that buy their children houses, etc. WTH? How on earth is that teaching them anything? It hurts far more than it helps, I can tell you first hand.

LOL this is delusional. Of course having help with a house purchase helps!

Maybe? I may be unusual but I don’t want money from my parents. I like that my husband and I have done everything on our own and on our own terms. Our parents did pay for college in full. I do get concerned about inheritances. We both stand to inherit decent estates (a few million each) but will figure that out when the time comes.

Lmao. Oh, honey.

I know. I’m so glad my parents waited until they were married to have children, stay married and valued education.

FWIW, culturally most UMC children do have their college paid for. Part of being a responsible adult is paying for your child to go to college.

You are so spoiled and out of touch. The majority of parents not just in America, but in the WORLD cannot afford to send their kids to college. That does not make them irresponsible adults, you twit. College costs have outpaced inflation by a pretty huge margin.

You gotta translate “UMC” for this forum. The poster who thinks most “UMC” children have their college paid for grew up rich, probably around here. At some point in his/her childhood he/she went on a community service trip or something to another part of the city, became reflective and said, “Mommy and Daddy, are we rich?” Mommy and Daddy said, “No darling, we’re very lucky but we work very hard for what we have. You could say we’re....UMC.” And lo, another angel spontaneously combustef and its wing-ashes became a DCUM thread.

Thank you for that laugh. Spot on.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife (in her 30's) still has many childhood friends in DC being subsidized by their parents.

x100000

Nailed it. Big families that buy their children houses, etc. WTH? How on earth is that teaching them anything? It hurts far more than it helps, I can tell you first hand.

LOL this is delusional. Of course having help with a house purchase helps!

Maybe? I may be unusual but I don’t want money from my parents. I like that my husband and I have done everything on our own and on our own terms. Our parents did pay for college in full. I do get concerned about inheritances. We both stand to inherit decent estates (a few million each) but will figure that out when the time comes.

Lmao. Oh, honey.

I know. I’m so glad my parents waited until they were married to have children, stay married and valued education.

FWIW, culturally most UMC children do have their college paid for. Part of being a responsible adult is paying for your child to go to college.

You are so spoiled and out of touch. The majority of parents not just in America, but in the WORLD cannot afford to send their kids to college. That does not make them irresponsible adults, you twit. College costs have outpaced inflation by a pretty huge margin.

You gotta translate “UMC” for this forum. The poster who thinks most “UMC” children have their college paid for grew up rich, probably around here. At some point in his/her childhood he/she went on a community service trip or something to another part of the city, became reflective and said, “Mommy and Daddy, are we rich?” Mommy and Daddy said, “No darling, we’re very lucky but we work very hard for what we have. You could say we’re....UMC.” And lo, another angel spontaneously combustef and its wing-ashes became a DCUM thread.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife (in her 30's) still has many childhood friends in DC being subsidized by their parents.

x100000

Nailed it. Big families that buy their children houses, etc. WTH? How on earth is that teaching them anything? It hurts far more than it helps, I can tell you first hand.

LOL this is delusional. Of course having help with a house purchase helps!

Maybe? I may be unusual but I don’t want money from my parents. I like that my husband and I have done everything on our own and on our own terms. Our parents did pay for college in full. I do get concerned about inheritances. We both stand to inherit decent estates (a few million each) but will figure that out when the time comes.

Lmao. Oh, honey.

I know. I’m so glad my parents waited until they were married to have children, stay married and valued education.

FWIW, culturally most UMC children do have their college paid for. Part of being a responsible adult is paying for your child to go to college.

You are so spoiled and out of touch. The majority of parents not just in America, but in the WORLD cannot afford to send their kids to college. That does not make them irresponsible adults, you twit. College costs have outpaced inflation by a pretty huge margin.

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Anonymous wrote:So many jealous people on this forum. I bet if any of you jokers saying that others are “weak” or whatever actually were offered money, you’d ditch the moral superiority act so fast...

+1 billion

Hell yeah I wish my parents would bankroll me. Instead they rejected capitalism altogether and I dread visiting their shack.

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+1 billion

So many jealous people on this forum. I bet if any of you jokers saying that others are “weak” or whatever actually were offered money, you’d ditch the moral superiority act so fast...