Kind of. My husband was in a stem PhD when we got married. I knew he had potential. I wouldn't have married someone who worked at a fast food place.

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I was again single at 36. Went on Tinder. Met a guy who was also 36, lived in a share-house, and was “thinking of going back to school.” I lived alone in a condo I owned and had an established career as a lawyer. The guy and I also didn’t click, but I thought about what I wanted.

I love women who think they're big shit because they own a condo.

Well in DC a lot of us bought condos that were half a million or more and that speaks to our own success. Are you a man?

A half-million dollar mortgage makes you a big shot?

When you buy it on your own in your 20s with no family or spouse to help? Yeah it’s a big deal. considering how many two earner households can’t even afford to buy in the area? What’s wrong with you?

By the time I was 30 I had a PhD, a wife, two cars, and a house, just like everyone else I graduated with from college. Wife didn't work, either. Not impressed by your condo.

NP here. What’s your point or are you just being a douche?

This is a stupid argument. The OP didn't say she was a "big shot" because she owned a condo. What she did say was that clearly by being established in her career and owning her own home indicated she was at a very different place in her life than a man who was thinking of starting over and hadn't laid down any roots yet. FFS.

I don't care about salary but I do discriminate about career. I, for whatever reason, don't find it appealing to meet a man in their 30s who is a manager at a Best Buy or something similiar. There's probably some out there who are ambitious and might turn that job into a nice career, but I just can't get on board.

A teacher or firefighter or someone who has a passion that just happens to be low paid, however... no problem at all. My ex was a teacher, and I was actually super attracted to it. I loved how good he was with kids, and I always thought that his schedule would have been ideal if we ever had children of our own.

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Anonymous wrote:I know what various industries and roles pay, as well as what degrees actually required hard work and a brain.
Why marry someone dumb, lazy, or unmotivated?
Would you want your son or daughter marrying that?

Or maybe you want your son marrying a nice traditional woman that can take care of him, the house and the kids?
Or your daughter to marry some workaholic “income provider.”

LOL there are people(men and women) who are extremely rich and dumb, lazy or unmotivated. I guess you would tell your son or daughter to not marry someone worth a few 100 million.

Actually I was engaged to a trust fund baby. We broke up because of our mismatch in ambition. Vacationing with his family was fun but there is more to life than having fun.