Anonymous
Post 11/29/2018 09:00     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
No need to understand them. Their families have different needs than yours.
Maybe they want diverse interactions for their children. Who knows?
Worry about your family needs.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 10:47     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
High-status clothes
High-status vacations
High-status cars
High-status restaurants
Public school? Lol. Something isn’t adding up there.

The richest neighborhoods have the high % of kids in private.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2018 22:51     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I clearly did touch a nerve. Predictably I suppose.

I want to clarify that what I find odd is not that there are SOME wealthy families who send their kids to public school, but that there’s a particular obsession at some public schools with being flashy. YSL handbags are like the least expensive designer handbags you can buy - but people buy them in part because they scream “I’m expensive” even to those who know nothing about handbags. And I guess I don’t understand that mentality - wanting to look expensive to strangers - when MOST of those women are not super wealthy. And most wealthy women I know don’t carry an entry-level YSL logo handbag.

Anyway, i don’t really understand what it is I’m getting at, but this thread is helping me realize it’s less about school choice and more about displays of wealth and their meaning that I find confusing, and interesting, particularly in certain subcultures (where half the moms carry the same handbag).


I'm calling BS on this being in Arlington. Which school are you talking about? Jamestown? The only place I see YSL bags is on hipster millenials in DC. Arlington is mostly LV Neverfull on the blonde moms.


Oh thank you. I think the OP is a troll. The NA she is describing is not the one I live in.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2018 14:08     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
People THAT obsessed with tacky status markers would have their kids in private if they could actually afford it. Because outside of neighborhood, where your kids go to school is a top parental status signal. They’re not nearly as rich as they portray. They’re shallow and pathetic wannabes.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2018 11:55     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
What I hate are those who complain they have no money but yet they have these fancy bags (Fake or not, it's more than 5 bags), fancy brand name clothes which I don't really care about and fancy expensive new cars, giant house, fancy vacations.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 07:14     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Anonymous wrote:People do what they want. Worry about getting your own house in order. In the time it takes you to focus on the haves, think of what you could have accomplished. This post took 39 secs out of my life. I could have folded more clothes.


Agree
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 06:25     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
The parents I know send their kids to public or private based on the children’s individual needs. It’s not unusual to meet a family with a kid in public and another in private.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2018 12:13     Subject: Re:I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
We’ve got plenty of money and our mission is to keep that information from the kids as long as we can. We spend good money on their activities and vacations, but they have no concept of how much that costs. Our house and car and clothes and tastes, etc. are very modest. The upper class culture around here is toxic. Wealthy children are subject to more stress, more alcohol and drugs, and more pressure to be perfect at all things. In my experience they also tend to be more self-centered and unkind. They believe their parents are more interested in them becoming accomplished than in them becoming good people, and they’re probably right. I’m keeping my kids from that culture as long as possible.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2018 09:59     Subject: Re:I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Anonymous wrote:Are there any good private schools in Arlington? I'm not familiar with any. There are mostly second rate privates and catholics in Va.

I can understand sending kids to private school when living in DC. I'm from Long Island, NY. Everyone I knew went to public school where many kids in the city went to private.



Do you have any evidence that the top 3 privates in DC actually offer a better education than the "second rate" privates and catholics in Va? They may have more prestige, but how do you know that they are actually better?
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2018 09:54     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Lots of wealthy parents send their kids to public schools. Many people prefer for their kids to go to a community school with the other kids in their neighborhood and to play on sports teams with kids who attend their schools. Since wealthy people generally live in wealthy neighborhoods, their public schools generally have a decent sized cohort of other wealthy kids.
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2018 21:13     Subject: Re:I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.


Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

If you lived in a better school district you wouldn't see a disparity between the two. There are great publics in this area.


Where? Ones with teachers who have 12-15 kids per class. Who actually grade and correct homework, essays, and papers. Give ideas on the sides and give comments for improvement. Who know each child by name, know them personally, and are positive mentors in their lives.


You think public school teachers don’t know the names of the kids in their classes?


I know they don’t. My 4th grader’s treacher still calls her 3 different names, depending on the day. In high school, teachers have 120-150 kids they teach and grade a day. A private high school teacher at a decent school may have 50 max a day. You don’t think that effects effort, grading, corrections, mentoring, teachable moments, 1 on 1 help and tutoring, etc...? My kids get “great job” on assignments that are incorrect and misspelled - with zero corrections.


Your child comes home and complains that the teacher said the wrong name? Sometimes I call my own child three different names before getting it right. You have never done that? Public school in FCPS - all of my 5th grader’s homework comes home corrected with comments.
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2018 20:14     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Private schools are not necessarily better than the public schools.
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2018 16:51     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
I think you would like the book, “Stop Acting Rich”, OP. It’s by Millionaire next door author and DCUM fan favorite Thomas Stanley.

I suspect it is the glittering rich who can truly afford private school and not give a wit what the UMC does with all their speculating and judging and entry level purses
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2018 15:40     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
People do what they want. Worry about getting your own house in order. In the time it takes you to focus on the haves, think of what you could have accomplished. This post took 39 secs out of my life. I could have folded more clothes.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 09:39     Subject: I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school
Anonymous wrote:Not sure if anyone already said this. But I thought people paid the premium to live in N. Arlington FOR the public schools. If you are paying 1.5mil for your house to be in a good school pyramid, why wouldn't you use said school?

I might understand this thread more if someone was flashing wealth and sending their child to a poor performing school, but this thread is dumb and judgy.


+1

I mean, yes, some people have enough money to pay a premium to live in a neighborhood with good schools, and also send their kid to private. But if you aren't stupid rich, and you've paid to live in the good school district, why wouldn't you take advantage of that?