Anonymous
09/09/2018 22:13
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Consider yourself lucky.
I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!
And they can”expect” anything they want. You CAN do a visit similar to theirs. Why can’t you? Your husband won’t? Then you have a slightly irritating husband problem.
Maybe because it's a little harder to drive 4 hours with little kids/infants stay somewhere 4 hours and then get back in the car for 4 hours.
Well, you can also NOT make the drive. You can also NOT entertain them in your home. You CAN adjust do restaurants or outings. You CAN stop making excuses.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 18:30
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Consider yourself lucky.
I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!
And they can”expect” anything they want. You CAN do a visit similar to theirs. Why can’t you? Your husband won’t? Then you have a slightly irritating husband problem.
Maybe because it's a little harder to drive 4 hours with little kids/infants stay somewhere 4 hours and then get back in the car for 4 hours.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 08:13
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote: Being too old and feeble to visit for a high school graduation but having no problem taking a cross country road trip the next month.
NP High school graduations are so boring! If they went for their own kids I say they don't have to go for grandkids. College graduations are even worse.
Anonymous
09/09/2018 07:56
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:My Father in law describes his home as “the vacation house” and gets really upset if we take a vacation anywhere else.
He constantly says that kids these days are “too safe” and gives my children gifts like a cordless drill or a real saw. They are 3 and 5.
Lol that’s awesome
Anonymous
09/09/2018 07:49
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:They died before I could meet them so sad not to have grandparents on that side.
So...it was irritating that they died?
Anonymous
09/08/2018 22:19
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
They died before I could meet them so sad not to have grandparents on that side.
Anonymous
09/08/2018 20:57
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Do you clean your home?
Is your guest mattress comfortable?
Are you a decent cook/clean kitchen habits?
There are certain family homes we don't stay in...
Yes to all of that. I'm a fantastic host. I have come to the conclusion they don't want to help us with the kids or when we have a newborn. Which is fine, but expecting us to visit with a 2 week old is insane.
Anonymous
09/08/2018 19:57
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Consider yourself lucky.
I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!
And they can”expect” anything they want. You CAN do a visit similar to theirs. Why can’t you? Your husband won’t? Then you have a slightly irritating husband problem.
Anonymous
09/08/2018 19:55
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Consider yourself lucky.
I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!
Anonymous
09/08/2018 18:03
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Do you clean your home?
Is your guest mattress comfortable?
Are you a decent cook/clean kitchen habits?
There are certain family homes we don't stay in...
Anonymous
09/08/2018 16:26
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Too broke to pay for badly needed home maintenance but will travel overseas to go birdwatching at the drop of a hat. Oh wait, that's MY mom, not my MIL.
Good for her!
Sure, until the roof collapses or a wall turns into a waterfall when it rains (that one actually happened).
Anonymous
09/07/2018 23:08
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.
Anonymous
09/07/2018 22:47
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
When making small talk about the behavior of boys (I have 2), MIL says “well we don’t put up with that when we are watching them”.
Anonymous
09/07/2018 22:43
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Too broke to pay for badly needed home maintenance but will travel overseas to go birdwatching at the drop of a hat. Oh wait, that's MY mom, not my MIL.
Good for her!
Anonymous
09/07/2018 14:26
Subject: Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My Father in law describes his home as “the vacation house” and gets really upset if we take a vacation anywhere else.
He constantly says that kids these days are “too safe” and gives my children gifts like a cordless drill or a real saw. They are 3 and 5.
This is not slightly irritating, this is obnoxious. Anyone who gave my 3 year old a real saw to play with would never be unsupervised with my kids EVER.
Pp- you hit it on the head. He is NEVER allowed to be around the kids without supervision. Ever.