Why did your husband originally say all these things? Why did he bad mouth you at all? This is a crazy situation.

I tried to google LA Jewish Scene to answer my own question, but that is not a thing.

It does look like LA Jews are the wealthiest Jews in the US, which makes sense (Spielberg comes to mind), and there are a lot of general LA vanity issues (nose jobs, breast jobs, face lifts). I can't find anything about an "LA Jewish Scene" but I did find this article --

http://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-life-and-religion/159310/reverse-snobbery

It does not sounds like a nice place. People are mean to your face! I'm not sure if that is an LA Jewish thing or a LA thing. Glad to be in DC.

Jewish Prince. A man described as arrogant, egotistical, and interested in a compliant, intellectually non-competitive woman for a wife.

--https://interfaithfamily.com/arts_and_entertainment/popular_culture/intermarriage_and_the_future_of_american_jewry/

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Anonymous wrote:Ahhhh. My Dh is jewish--wow do I ever have blind spot--I didn't consider the jewish prince factor. And my DH is a jewish doctor! I had a pathetic little scenario going in my head about Nigerian princes with multiple wives or Iranians married to american girls or meth heads living in Detroit housing shells smh

I'd like to thank everyone for playing internet relationship bingo today. Please leave your cards and chips in the bin near the exit

Can you explain this, for someone not in the know? Is that a known thing?

+2. Not religious and don't understand the Jewish factor or the "LA Jewish Scene" -- are these things for people, like a secret handshake?

OP, I'm one of the pps you thanked for being kind. So sorry this thread has gone off the rails, but that happens on this board some times. Take it with a grain of salt.

Sounds like you've taken some really positive steps for yourself. Way to go! You can do this.

And, easy on the Advil. My neuro told me that if you take it for more than two days in a row, it can trigger withdrawal headache. Keep your Tylenol/Advil plan quite short.

Best of luck.

Anonymous wrote:Ahhhh. My Dh is jewish--wow do I ever have blind spot--I didn't consider the jewish prince factor. And my DH is a jewish doctor! I had a pathetic little scenario going in my head about Nigerian princes with multiple wives or Iranians married to american girls or meth heads living in Detroit housing shells smh

I'd like to thank everyone for playing internet relationship bingo today. Please leave your cards and chips in the bin near the exit

Can you explain this, for someone not in the know? Is that a known thing?

I’m glad you’re getting help. I’m not sure why you refuse to even comntemplate leaving this psychopath.

If my husband’s friend told him I wasn’t invited he’d tell them to f* off and would dump them.

What about this man is so appealing? He treats you terribly and has even turned people against you. He sounds horrible. And I mean really bad.

unfortunately op something about you makes him feel superior to you and ashamed to be seen as your equal. May be your upbringing, degree, physical attributes, education, ... I don’t know. It is not you, but his perception of you. He started going out with you with the intention of non committing. He made that clear to his friends. Something about you made him ashamed to bring you there as an equal, as someone that he would consider “worthy” of being his life partner. It is his prejudices but I doubt that he is able / willing to fix them. You are a strangely strong / dedicated person that you want to stay and work on your marriage. I just don’t see how something like this can be reconciled. Did you meet his family? How is that relationship? Do you feel accepted there? Or you saw them at the wedding and never saw them again cause he visits them on his own?

Anonymous wrote:So he broke it and admits he broke it and is willing to apologize to you that he broke it, but won’t do the real work of doing what needs to be done to fix it.

Please know that since you won’t leave him and he won’t do what needs to be done to fix it, that therapy is going to be about learning how to live in a permanently broken marriage. You will have to learn how to either be numb or compartmentalize or be in denial.

At least you know now. Let it sink in. Go talk to a therapist. You'll get through this.

So he broke it and admits he broke it and is willing to apologize to you that he broke it, but won’t do the real work of doing what needs to be done to fix it.

Please know that since you won’t leave him and he won’t do what needs to be done to fix it, that therapy is going to be about learning how to live in a permanently broken marriage. You will have to learn how to either be numb or compartmentalize or be in denial.

Op, you married a middle school mean girl wanna be. Ditch his azz.

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of lies did he write? I wonder if deep down he resents you and there’s a kernel of truth to what he tells his friends. Not that you are a terrible person, but he perceives you as a witch.

That's a good point. Instead of just divorcing her or going to therapy he bad mouths her and treats her like a witch? And then goes home a plays all lovey dovey to her.....

Hmmm.

She works and probably brings in a decent income and she also watches his kids and does the housework so he can run around with the bros. He resents her and sees her as a witch, but he wants to use her too.

It's like the two faced friend who talks trash about you behind your back and then acts like he/she is your best friend ever to your face.

Anonymous wrote:What kind of lies did he write? I wonder if deep down he resents you and there’s a kernel of truth to what he tells his friends. Not that you are a terrible person, but he perceives you as a witch.

That's a good point. Instead of just divorcing her or going to therapy he bad mouths her and treats her like a witch? And then goes home a plays all lovey dovey to her.....

Hmmm.